It's tough when kids bounce back and forth between Dad and Mom's house, especially if the rules aren't the same in both homes (ah, why do some parents want to be a kid's pal instead of the kid's parent?) There's tons of books in the self-help area of Barnes & Noble but who has the time and money to read them all? Got a favorite?
2007-03-19 05:21:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Those self-help books won't help as much as the many chidrens' books on that subject that are in the libraries today. They are books for the children to read on all levels. They have good illustrations and dialogue that children can relate to. These stories can comfort kids, allow them to see that they are not alone in their situations. Go with them and help look. There is one paperback for juveniles (11-14) called "Happy Ever After" that is good and fun to read. The books for younger children are excellent and help children understand about what is happening. Yes, the kids are going to pit one parent against the other because they have been put in that position. Some parents play along to gain popularity with the kids, which is childish on the adult's part. Don't be worn down. Let your children know that you have no control over what goes on at Dad's and that you are not interested, but when they are in your home, they will follow your rules. Discipline them if they don't. Do not pity them or give in to them. It is now your responsibility to raise them to be decent people. After all, discipline IS love! It will not be easy, but be brave. And pray a lot. You can do it. God bless you and your children.
2007-03-19 06:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by gulfbreeze8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My crying and feeling hopeless lasted for some months after my first husband and that i cut up. i could no longer eat and lost approximately 60 pounds in 2 months (which became a marvelous concern finding back.) My son became 4 and my daughter became 10 months on the time. save the tears and frustration to a minimum in front of the youngsters. you could no longer end speaking to the father completely because of the youngsters, yet you do no longer would desire to allow him play concepts video games with you the two. that is overwhelming you correct now, yet i certainly look back and thank God that the cut up befell. I got here out greater suitable than I ever knew i need to be, i found out who i certainly am instead of being 0.5 of a pair, and that i met somebody who became out to be a greater advantageous guy in each way. there'll come an afternoon once you will experience greater advantageous. no longer super-only greater advantageous. Then day after right this moment would be a sprint much less difficult. stay busy, and undergo in concepts which you have toddlers reckoning on you to be the rock of their shattered little worlds. What you experience is favourite. unhappy and lonely, betrayed, lost, disenchanted-those are all favourite thoughts while some thing undesirable happens. Ask God to steer you in direction of His plan for you, and he will see you by. in case you experience suicidal, it incredibly is a risky melancholy that demands help. confer with a pastor, a physician, or a counselor for help. you're no longer on my own.
2016-10-01 04:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a child from a previous marriage and I can tell you after being divorced almost 13yrs {our daughter is 14} there is not a book out there that will be exactly right for you or your children. The only thing that works is communication between the parents.
2007-03-19 06:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't have a favorite parenting book. Personally, there is no perfect way to raise a child. All signs do not point to "married, loving, strict, giving, consistant parenting produce a successful adult" Remember the kids who produced the Columbine High School incident? Parents were married, they had consistant rules, even firm united front...kids came out as murderers. Don't be so hard on yourself. Do your best.
2007-03-19 05:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only thing that has helped my ex and I is COMMUNICATION between he and I. Our marriage is over and it's no longer about US, it is ALL about OUR daughter, even though we are divorced we still have to raise her TOGETHER.
Best of luck to you and I completely understand how you feel.
2007-03-19 05:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, It's called the Bible and offers you all the instruction you need for any circumstance.
2007-03-19 06:53:47 · answer #6 · answered by elmar66 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that my favourite book is LAYING DOWN THE LAW (for seporated parents) by Dr. Phil
2007-03-19 05:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by karen w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋