She is 14 & her sister is 11. She yell at her sister everyday because her sister bother her everyday. She don’t get along with her younger cousins. Everytime they visit, she argue with them. Her parents ask her “What’s wrong?” She said, “We have problems & I want to solve it myself.” It has been this way for 6 mnths. She barely talks at home. She is enrolled in many activities and school functions. She is not pregnant and don’t smoke or do drugs. She comes home, close the door to her room & not go to the living room except dinner. She don’t go to family gatherings. She cry all the time. Her parents are worried & ask “Why can’t you get along with them?” She say “I am scared of future problems that we may have.” The parents say “You tell me the problems & we will work it out. That’s all.” She say “No you won’t. You don’t understand. Why can’t you give me time? Am I wrong?” The parents say “You are not wrong. You have to be more open & stop worrying about nothing.” Then, they walk by.
2007-03-19 05:09:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She's a teen-ager with raging hormones. Every teen girl I've ever known -- including myself -- went through this. If her parents remain diligent about communicating with her -- not just about "what's wrong," but a lot of different things, AND they give her some space to deal with some of her own challenges, things should get better.
If Mom and Dad continue to make themselves available, she should come around. I don't think I actually "talked" to my parents from the time I was 14 until I was 18. It was more like fought and yelled, but I'm a fine adult now. Good luck!
2007-03-19 05:25:35 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sarah, are you writing about yourself? Parents like to have you in the room more than just for dinner. I am sorry that your sister is bothersome to you. Does your sister share the bedroom with you? What exactly is it that your sister bothers that you don't want touched? Is there a nice way you can speak to parents about this? Going into 'hiding' when you get home is not healthy. If you stay in your room to make sure you don't get into trouble, that is very sad. Wouldn't it be more interesting to be out with your family? Do you have a cell phone or any type phone or computer in your room? Are you 'doing' that, instead of being talkative with your parents? Maybe, your parents need more time with you so that you can really explain what is wrong. Why is the crying something that is done 'all the time'? What is so depressing? Do you KNOW what is so depressing? Can you talk to a school counselor, your favorite teacher, a friend about it? This girl you describe sounds like a great girl.........in so many activities, not on drugs, not pg, not smoking............but, sad.
Sad can lead to more sad and that can lead to a lot of problems. Please, have this girl (or you) talk to someone about this situation. What is it that you believe the parents should do? The parents seem to WANT to help. They MIGHT understand more than you think. Give the parents a chance to help. Locking a self away in a room until dinner is not healthy at all. Locking your feelings away is worse. Give parents a chance to help. Try it?
2007-03-19 05:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by laurel g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs a psych eval. She sounds depressed. Maybe it's biological depression, maybe she's been sexually abused. Maybe she has the onset of a very serious mental illness that is scaring her.
It is wrong for the parents to say 'stop worrying about nothing.' obviously something is wrong.
Regardless, she can't be allowed toyell at her sister. She must treat her sister and her cousins with respect.
2007-03-19 05:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This girl needs to be examined by a medical doctor and then sent off for some counseling. How do you know she's not doing drugs? They can be pretty sneaky. Her parents have got to stop walking away. Maybe they could talk to her teachers.
2007-03-19 05:19:50 · answer #4 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure of what's going on here but it sounds like she is just being 14. But I think they should seek professional help.There could be more going on. Maybe something at school or other children at school.
2007-03-19 05:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by BrownEyedGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can parents stop 14 year old from being anti-social? Take her to the doctor to find out what is wrong.
2007-03-19 05:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by csucdartgirl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Remeber always,she is a teenager. They cannt yell on her she might be more angry & rude.They know that there is something wrong & they are waiting for her to speak.she will speak soon ,only give her time.
2007-03-19 05:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes less energy to ignore the whole situation.
2007-03-20 02:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by Polynomial 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yall should take her to a doctor
2007-03-19 05:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋