I think my brother's girlfriend is cheating on him... What should I do?

Question

My older brother is 24 and his girlfriend is 21. They have been together for almost 2 years now (and they live together) but have known each other for 10 years (his girlfriend was my best friend through middle & high school). This past year, she has changed so much. She treats my brother horribly - calls him names, talks behind his back to HIS friends, etc. Well recently, she told a mutual friend that she went to see her ex-boyfriend. He now calls her all the time (she changed her number when her and my bro started dating so I don't know how her ex got her number). A mutual friend also said her car has been spotted at her ex's house... I honestly think she is cheating on my brother. I want to tell him what I think but I don't want to hurt him, make him mad at me or cause drama. What do you think I should do?

My brother's ex girlfriend cheated on him in his house... so I know this will hurt him.

Answer 1

You need to be upfront and honest with your brother about what you know and are thinking. Finding proof if you can, will help. He may get hurt and angry in the beginning, but it will also show him how much you care and love him and want the best for him. Having been cheated on myself, I really appreciate the person(s) who told me about my signifacant other. With their help and understanding, I saw the light and knew what I must do.
Good luck to both of you.

Answer 2

I'd have proof for yourself and not hearsay. He said, she said sh** can get you into trouble. Unless I had proof, I don't think I'd get anything started from something that someone told you. As long as she's just talking, I wouldn't make too much of that unless their history makes that a big deal. But if she's been at his house, I'd have to have proof of a meeting and then yes, I'd have to tell my brother. If you have the chance when your brother is not around, confront the girlfriend and see how she responds. You can be polite and sorta mention that you thought you saw her car or something like that and judge by her actions.

Answer 3

You should tell him as a loving sister. Who the hell cares about a ***** who treats your brother like crap and her car has been spotted at her ex's house? Those are all telltale signs of cheating. It will only hurt your brother more if he finds out later.

Answer 4

Have 1 or two witnesses with you and keep riding by her exes house until you see her car in his driveway. Then you guys can tell your brother.

Answer 5

Try 2 collect authentic details abt that and then try to confirm that.It's the problem to be solved @ once.So,if U enter into it try to solve it in a full swing without any giveups.

Ask it 2 Her & if she answered U properly then try 2 change her otherwise don't bother abt her and report it 2 ur brother.Becaz, it's his life....

As Ur role is significant in this try to solve this rather than escaping from this.

Answer 6

Tell him to follow her, find out what her ex's address is and he go there himself for proof. Make sure you give your brother her address. Also when they see her car there tell them to phone you right away and he'll be over to see for himself. Don't tell anyone that you are going to be telling your brother on the plan.

Answer 7

TELL HIM! It may hurt him but in the long run it will all be worth it. They obviously weren't ment to be together.

Answer 8

you aren't helping your brother by keeping this a secret.

tell him

Answer 9

Can you Prove it???? if you can tell him he needs to know

Answer 10

tell him.