okay I have a really big crush on my best guy friend. Hes always so flirty and always calls me cute and he really considered me such a good friend and thinks im really caring and thoughful. He's been talking to his ex, and i know i shouldnt be jealous because she is going out with someone else but i am! How can I stop liking him? Should I tell him how I feel? I m really scared to tell him because we are very close with another group of friends and I dont want him to feel awkward but its killing me!! please help!
2007-03-19 04:50:19 · 4 answers · asked by jjjj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you two are best friends, meet up one day. but i'd suggest a park. just lie on the grass together. lean on him and kind of cuddle on him.
he won't say anything about it, trust me, he'll like it and wonder why you are doing it. so that is when you start asking him "the questions"
it is always related to girls and what he sees you as.
"do you still like that one girl" (if he told you he does or talks to you about a girl)
if he said yeah, just take it from there. but remember to tell him how you feel about him along the way.
i think that'd be the best way to tell him. but make sure you two are alone, in person, and no one is around to disturb you two.
2007-03-19 04:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by John Becker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through this same situation with a male friend of mine some time ago & I don't regret it but it took a few months for us to get back to the way things were after our relationship went beyond friends. I was jealous of some of things that we did with mutal friends because I started seeing him as my man instead of my friend which would exclude me from gatherings if I didn't know how to act, & you don't want that. We all used to drink & hang out but I didn't feel the same way when we started dating, nor did I see our friends as just friends anymore, they seemed as a threat to what I could possibly have with him, which made things uncomfortable! I promised him & myself that we would remain friends no matter what the out come was & I kept my word, he came to me as a friend & stated he wanted to end our relationship & remain as friends, & at the time I didn't believe him but I can appreciate as his friend him being honest because he didn't want to start cheating, & hurt me nor was he ready for a serious relationship & I was. The problem that comes out of a situation like this is when he dates other women on a serious note he never act like I don't exist & because I'm one of those cute female friends it always come up did something ever happen between us, & at that moment he has to decide rather to lie or tell the truth, which means so do I. I wouldn't just come in & say, did he tell you what happened but I don't appreciate be left out. So because his happiness is important if he doesn't tell his girl about our sexual relationship I'll keep it to myself & I don't pry. If it's up to me we'll always be friends no matter what has happened & even though it took some time for me to come around after things came to an end I don't regret it & I won't let that interfer with our friendship or his futrue relationships with other women! He's one of my bestfriends & I wouldn't change that for the world, & I mean nothing in the world could make me change our friendship, so we did cross those boundaries but the only reason we survived is because we were both mature about the issue & it was something we both talked about. Besides when you think about it we had been friends for 10yrs at the time now 20yrs & it his friendship isn't worth losing because we didn't agree. But I have to say he recently told me he enjoyed what we had & he had never been treated as good before & he would do it all over again. He said he wasn't as mature as he thought back then so he wasn't ready for me, & that I can appreciate even more! And yes he is still my bestfriend of 20years & we still talk about everything rom sex, to church, to problems, & kids, he's the best friend a girl could ever have!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-19 06:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by WOW! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say something to him, but be careful, i dated my best girl friend and now we are broken up and rarely talk, think before u do anything. u can make or break this, but find out from him first
2007-03-19 04:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jesse N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him.
He'll love to hear it.
Or even better: Have a few drinks with him and allow things to get out of hand. He'll love that even better.
2007-03-19 04:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by mgerben 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋