if you were seeing this girl for about a month and half and havnt slept with her yet is it because you are nervous? iv given my bf loads of signals.
2007-03-19 04:38:19 · 11 answers · asked by SHY1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
were both 22 :)
2007-03-19 05:07:53 · update #1
is she young she might not be ready just wait till she makes the sign and take her up on the offer
2007-03-19 04:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's a good question, and a common enough one, but I can't help laughing a little. I'm a guy, and my life is a lonely one. I don't make too many friends because I have extremely large trust issues, not just with friends but also with my family. I'm a shy guy and it takes a very long time to get me to crawl out from behind the protective barriers I put up. I've been a virgin now for about 24 years and it is frustrating at times but I'm in no hurry. I laugh because my girlfriend was always asking me why I never wanted to have sex. "Why don't you want to have sex? You make me feel so unwanted and un beautiful" The answer? I also had a fear for personal contact. I've never been so much as hugged by mother or had my hand held by a friend or received a peck on the cheek from a girlfriend. I felt corned with that question because I didn't honestly know how to respond, I'd never been that direction before. And to top it off my own taste in beauty is that I find a person's personality and mind so much more attractive than the body that I honestly sometimes don't pay that much attention to their body. I get lost in their thoughts all the time. So when the opportunity for sex came knocking I was like a little school boy who had no clue what he was doing and I couldn't get over my fear and lack of confidence. Fear and lack of confidence when it comes to sex WILL occur if you never reach that base. I had to have her almost literally hold my hand through the experience and show me the steps. After that I couldn't believe how much more wonderful it was than I had always thought it would be. So yes, nervousness plays a huge part in the guy holding out on sex. I don't know that much from the woman's perspective, wish I did. From my own experience, it took me two years to make that move to the bedroom, 24 years of nothing only to realize I was an idiot in being so afraid of it. I know it's incredibly difficult to believe but some guys just aren't interested in sex... until you've showed them the ropes and dispelled their fears. Otherwise, I'd say dave hit this question on the spot.
2007-03-19 12:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by Pitraptor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some important info to know would be how old are you guys? and what are your previous experiences? is it your first time? is it his?
what are these 'loads of signals' you're giving? they might not be as obvious as you think. guys, especially inexperienced guys, are a lot slower to pick up on these things. i remember my first time, i'd dated the girl for months, and she'd probably given me plenty of signals, but it wasn't until she flat out said 'come on. i want you,' that it happened (and it was great:).
other possible reasons are religious beliefs, patience, trauma from previous experiences, lack of interest, fear of pregnancy, diseases or commitment, closeted gayness, or, like you said, nerves. without more information though, i don't think anyone can say for sure.
2007-03-19 11:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self imposed standards, and wanting to do things right, but maybe not being sure what the woman wants or who pleases her, can absolutely paralyze. Rather than giving "loads of signals", sit down with you're bf and tell him exactly what it is that pleases you (and he can telll you what pleases him. It's called STRAIGHTFORWARD, NO BULLSHIT, UNAMBIGUOUS communication. You pretty much get your point across in no uncertain terms, and it lends to further honest communication; believe me, once you've established a solid basis of communication, you've tackled the majority of communication issues
2007-03-19 11:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's shy, your signals probably aren't good enough.
Try less subtle signals, like removing his pants and sticking his hands where you want them.
2007-03-19 11:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys don't make moves like that.
haven't u herd of STD's..?
some guys are cautious with who they sleep with.
me? if i ain't get non the first wk i'ma do something to get some. make a move on'em..
or maybe he's a virgin.. u know they're confused and stuff.. he'd probably run away once you get wet.. -Diez
2007-03-19 11:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by M!sta Carter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just does not want to rush things because he really loves you. He wants to take it slow with u.
2007-03-19 11:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by NavyBoi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is everything about sex??? my bf and i have been together for nearly 4 months and we still havent had sex and we dont plan on it, so the fact that you're asking this is ridiculous
2007-03-19 11:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by sweethyedreamer213 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just dont wanna get you scared away too fast..if he is going slow and easy, be glad.
2007-03-19 11:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say he wants you to know that sex is not the main reason he is seeing you --- he wants to know you better
2007-03-19 11:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋