Okay, my b/f and I have been dating for a month and I have strong feelings for him. Very strong. I L-word him. How do I tell him? He's an older guy so he says nothin really scares him, but the thing I'm afraid of is that the feeling isn't mutual. I want to tell him, but I don't even know how to open th conversation. Help!
2007-03-19 04:35:57 · 21 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, I am 20, he is 37. We have known each other since May of 06. We've been friends since then and I know a lot about him. He shares a lot with me and I share a lot with him.
2007-03-19 05:27:25 · update #1
...wait it out, don't tell him yet, trust me, all men get scared at one point in a relationship...if you really want to let him know how you feel, try showing him, but don't tell him...
2007-03-19 04:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by Roxana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time and don't rush into this. A month seems like a long time, but it's really not. Look at how long you've known him, what you really know about him, etc. I'm not suggesting you don't "L-word" him, but it's wiser to put it off for a while.
Disclaimer aside, to answer your question: A hit about guys. Guys generally don't do hints well. The best way to approach something like this is to be direct. Be ready for something other than what you want to hear in return. You can bring it up as obliquely as you want, but when it comes right down to it, tell him simply that you do "L-word" him (I suggest you use "love" vs "L-word" but it's your conversation!) ;)
Your best bet, though, is to hope for the best but expect the worst. "You may think it's a little crazy, but I love you." or "I know it's only been a month, but..." You're going to be better off psychologically if you're prepared for a less than enthusiastic response from him.
And if you get the response you want; well, that's okay, too, isn't it.
2007-03-19 11:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by M R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only been a month no way do you really feel Love already. Give it time your rushing things. Nothing scares him but I'm sure he is not going to run full force into this. Probably would explain why the feeling is not mutual right now. I would recommend waiting give it at least 6 months before you take it that far. Who knows he may say it first by then.....so I would wait.
2007-03-19 11:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by ilisalec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you've know him longer than a month. Usually it is best to start of friends and build that relationship before building an intimate relationship. If it's only been a month and you don't have a strong friendship...the L word might scare him away, no matter how strong he is. Talk to him and hint things to him first see his reaction before you come out and tell him bluntly how you feel so you don't get hurt in the process
2007-03-19 11:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by ♡LiL♥Kitten♡ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a little to early to be telling him you love him even if that is how you feel. Actually, it's quite surprising that you love him after a month cuz no one can even get a real sense of who another person truly is after 4 weeks, 30 days. But if that's how you feel...just don't say anything to him. You will for sure scare him away.
2007-03-19 11:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by Main 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK there are rules and regulations to say "I love you"
1. Never say it 1 hour before, after or during sex.
2. Always say it in private because you don't know how he is going to react.
3. Don't tell your friends that you are going to say it, because if you don't get the reaction you would like then they are going to act awkward around him.
I would highly recommend sitting down, watch some TV and cuddle together and just whisper in his ear that you love him. It puts the male perspective on TV into play, however it is mildly romantic to cuddle, and whispering it doesn't seem to aggressive. GOOD LUCK
2007-03-19 11:43:16 · answer #6 · answered by todaedj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too Early.................... Dating for a month you might be infatuated but love no way it is way to early for that.
People like to say the L word when they are experiencing wonderful feelings but Love is a deep its much more than emotions and feelings. Its honesty, respect , devotion and the ability to compromise and sacrifice.
There is no way that in a month you can love someone.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
2007-03-19 11:47:15 · answer #7 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust ur heart. If u think its too soon, it is too soon. Get to know each a lot more and then see how it goes. True love takes time. Dont hurry it. One day u wont have to say anything, he will just know.
2007-03-19 11:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by gurlwithqs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him. That's the biggest mistake a girl can make in a relationship. When a girl tells a guy she Loves him it basically scares the guy to death and he backs aways from the girl. He stops calling and does everything to avoid you and your relationship with him is over. Guys like to chase girls it's like a game to them. It make them feel good about themselves. Basically is an EGO trip. You want him to love you play his game and make him work to get your attention.
2007-03-19 11:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about somethig about you feeling like talkign about a movie you watch or something and try to use that to bring up the conversation
2007-03-19 11:40:11 · answer #10 · answered by Tummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋