he dumped me two months ago after a two year relationship he said we gradually grew apart i really want to get back an he said he will hang with me this saturday i was wondering what i should do? do i ask him if he still likes me or would he ever consider asking me back out i really want him back what should i do please help
2007-03-19 04:33:39 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First and foremost fact: he dumped you!
It doesn't matter how badly you want to get back together with him if he doesn't want to get back together.
Asking you to hang out is not about getting back together.
Rather it is extremely casual. The odds are you will feel hurt and disappointed if you do hang out with him.
I suggest you put yourself first. That means protecting your heart and your self-esteem.
There is nothing for you to do except accept the fact that he dumped you and is not interested in getting back together with you. It's over!
If he were interested in getting back together he would tell you. Even then I wouldn't take him back. He has hurt you big time.
You need to focus on your terms in relation to seeing him, not his which are nothing more than hanging out.
If you see him on his terms he will loose respect for you and take you for granted. He knows fully well that you want to get back together. Don't let him jerk you around.
He is throwing a few crumbs your way, that's it!
Don't accept crumbs! You will feel a whole lot better if you tell him 'no' to hanging out. It may be hard to resist but you are worth a whole a lot more.
2007-03-19 04:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by KathyL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy! Why are you pining away for this person who at one time took an inventory of all your qaulities and decided "she's not for me." You think time is going to change that. You are letting him decide on your future by following him around like a puppy just hoping he'll take you back. Forget about that loser and wait for a guy who truely cares for you and isn't going to play the "dumping" game.
2007-03-19 04:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be you. Don't be you the ex, you the hopefully-dating-again. Be the person he liked before and if that's not enough for him to want to be with you again, or at the very least, hang out with him again, then he's not worth your time or energy.
2007-03-19 04:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Nathan C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should ask him back, if you do that you may chase him away from you.
2007-03-19 04:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Tummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋