I am a single mother of four and am trying to work and go to school has anyone else went through this?

Answer 1

i'm a single mother going to college full time, working part time, taking care of my son, while going through a custody battle and passing around my son 3 times a week because of this stupid schedule. also i've been in a car accident recently and i'm paying for a house all by myself.

it's hard but i look at my 2 year old son and i think it will all be worth it down the road when we are financially alright.

be strong! you're doing the right thing!!

Answer 2

I went single mother of 2 kids (4 and 2 at this time) for 2 years, with very full time job and trying to continue part time school.

I gave up the goals I had before getting alone and forget anything about "ideal" (for mothership, meals, cleaning, etc.) I had to forgive myself not being a perfect mother, sometimes yelling at my kids. I had to make choice : I reduced school and working hours some times.

I found a good baby sitter to help me, and try not to feel guilty to get a few hours per month for myself. I didn't sleep enough but I managed to keep physical and mental wellness by taking an apartment at 3rd stage and keeping in touch with some friends and family who could support me morrally at least.

I "invented" the "breakfast-dinner" when I didn't have time to go to grocery or to make the dinner, where my kids where really happy to choose between cereals, toast or waffles for dinner. I used my kids to get used clothing and other stuff, a lot cheaper and sometimes easier and faster to buy.

I became really independant in the apartment : doing myself a lot of thing I used to give to my ex (like fixing a light or installing a new software). I was proud of me even if I wasn't really good at these things.

Even when I cried a lot when it was really hard times, I never forget my dreams of having a house, a new man in my life, an easier life.

If you believe it'll go better and don't forget your real dreams, you'll get through. Sometimes, what won't work is what you have to let go anyway...

Now I'm far better than I was 5 years ago. It changed me for a better person : it helps a lot to better understand other people who live the same... And it helps to consider material things around us as not so important, my kids developped that point of view too...

Answer 3

I have 2 'babies'. One is 2 years old and the other 9 months and am working full time. It is extraordinarily difficult so I don't know how you do it. My husband drives me NUTS and we don't get along too well but I put up with it because I don't know what the hell I'd do taking care of these girls alone. They would certainly suffer for it, too. I hope you got a chance to watch Oprah the other day...about young kids having to step in and take care of the family when the parents can't because they are sick or on drugs, etc. They would inspire you because they somehow did it despite enormous odds. Just stay focused on the goal and keep working hard. and try and enjoy the journey as I try to do. Don't worry while you're changing a diaper or reading a story or helping with homework all the other things you have yet to do. Just try and enjoy the present and enjoy your kids and your classes, etc. I hope things go well for you.

Answer 4

I'm a mother of one and i havent went through it (yet anyways) but my aunt has. The best advice i can give you is arrange your schedule for school to the hours that they attend school (if their in school anyways) and see abt working second shift at work that way your kids can spend a lil time with you after you study and you can make sure their fed and see if someone can babysit them while you work those 8 or so hours at work that night. Good Luck!

Answer 5

You're doing great - I commend you that you're trying to make a difference in their lives. Cut down on classes if you have to; know that your kids will see your strength. If they are older, they will understand your needing quiet time for studying. Enlist the help of extended family, if possible. Don't try to do it alone even though you are single mother. If someone can help you while you study, let them. Good luck!

Answer 6

You go girl! That's amazing. I'm a single mother with one teenage son and sometimes I just have to go into the bathroom and cry from frustration. How on earth do you do it?? You're truly an inspiration!

Answer 7

I only have 2 children but I did work and go to school. It's tough and you don't get much sleep but it is possible. I went to college with another lady who had 6 kids on her own, she ended up dropping out but it was because one of her kids got sick and she had to stay home and take care of it. It all depends on how strong you are and how willing you are to succeed.

Answer 8

Yes I have actually been through this before. It will be very difficult but keep hore hope up. My advice is that you ask your social worker if you have one to help you with daycare unless you have a family menber to help you with your children from time to time. Also don't get so caught up that you forget to have time for you and your husband to be alone. if you trust people try to take time away from your children and be alone. I hope this helps you and I congragelate you. i will pray for your succes and hope you will air the sucess story.

Answer 9

That's awesome that you are doing all that!!
Have you thought about taking your classes over the Internet? It might help just a little.

Good Luck!!

Answer 10

Go to social Services andask for help. In most states you get free daycare while you are in school. Good luck, we are proud of you.