As a bride myself, I am getting tired of people acting or telling me it's their wedding day so that entitles them to do whatever or act however they want! Whatever happened to being classy and a good host?
My fiancé and I are in wedding season...
1. We have one couple who was pissed no one came to their $1,000 per person wedding on a tropical island and now they are throwing themselves a dinner a year later expecting gifts!!
2. A friend eloping then in 8 months planning a traditional wedding, wanting a shower and a bachorlette party and everything.
3. Now we have a couple who made their wedding a weekend thing and it’s cost us $500 to spend the weekend in this bed and breakfast! Plus we will have to give them a gift! My fiancé is the best man so he doesn’t want to complain about it…since no one else is.
I know it just not our friends, I have heard other people going through this as well… and I read a ton of things of yahoo about similar stuff. What the Hell is wrong with people??? Do they not even consider ANYONE else or their Guests in the slightest way???
2007-03-19 04:29:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Mine's not as extreme, but their was recently a wedding where my fiance was a groomsman and hte rehearsal was at 2 in the afternoon, most of the wedding party had planned on working that day, or at least only take off early, but the decided they couldn't wait till 6 like normal people, they had to inconcvience everyone even more....this is after the 3 days worth of celebration that they though everyone had to be at everything....really difficult to pull off.
Sorry, but not everyone takes off the whole week before your wedding-- as miranda on sex and the city said, you get a day, not a week! Within reason a couple should get their way for the actual ceremony and reception, but the BS about people being expected to cater to them for weeks and months surrounding the day is not cool, I'm with ya bubbles!
2007-03-19 06:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by ASH 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that the examples you've mentioned really prove your point.
For example #1, the only fault would be in that they are mad that people didn't come. With such an expensive destination wedding, it's no wonder. HOWEVER, I can understand how they would be misled since destination weddings are a huge thing right now and they probably assumed everyone would understand based on what they had been hearing from the bridal industry. But I don't think there's anything wrong with throwing a dinner to celebrate with those people who couldn't make it.
For example #2, I think that maybe the shower and bachelorette party are a little excessive, but there's nothing wrong with wanting to celebrate with the people you love - even after the fact. Maybe they were so excited that they couldn't wait. I wouldn't hold it against them, especially since they are footing the bill for a traditional wedding. If you attend an event that costs that much money for the couple to pull off, it's only right that you bring a gift.
For example #3, I think a weekend wedding is a great idea. Whether or not you could attend was your choice. No one else is complaining because they realize that to be in a wedding and to attend a wedding is a choice, not an obligation.
So, my question is: what's wrong with people who have the nerve to complain about someone else's wedding instead of being honored that they were invited to begin with?
It's all about free will. The bride and groom plan something that works for them and you choose whether or not you can or want to attend.
P.S. Bubbles, I could tell by your answer to my question that you are a bitter, bitter person. I'm sorry your fiancee is marrying such a biatch. You asked for an answer. I gave you one. But that's no reason to be spiteful.
2007-03-19 07:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I completely agree and I think that people need to be considerate of their guests and attendants. I am having attendants of different sizes, and I know that someone who wears a perfect size 2 can look stunning in something that looks AWEFUL on a size 22 woman and vice versa, therefore, I am allowing my girls to pick their own dresses within the same color. I am learning that this is working VERY well and they have come up with really pretty dresses.
With the menu, I am considering possible food allergies and I am making sure that my guests have room to move around.
I feel that in all of my decisions I am thinking of the others involved.
I think that is makes for a wedding people will always remember, bc they too were thought of :)
2007-03-19 06:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by fwog_fwog 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's their day, they can do whatever they want. And you can choose whether or not to accept the invitation. No one is forcing you to attend. And if the bride/groom want to be selfish and incosiderate of guests, so be it. Then no one will come and they can regret it later. Don't let it bother you.
2007-03-19 06:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
You're right, so many brides are becoming more and more selfish. The entire "It's your wedding, do what you want" logic is completely flawed.
2007-03-19 08:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋