I have a 8 year old daughter tha tells me she what a brother and a sister i'm a 37 year old single mother i'm in a relationship with a guy who has 2boys 14 &15 we both are not sure we want more kids but both our kids want to know when we are going to have a baby together .give me your take on this thanks
2007-03-19 04:29:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I've thought about this very thing myself. I have not talked to my 3 children about having another child...they sometimes mention it to me. My new husband and I just got married 10 months ago and I would love to have another child with him...My children are ages: 12, 10 and 6...I'm 33. The questions that are going through my head is: How would it be to have a newborn in the house again? How would it be financially? What about the future, when the child is a teen? How would it affect the other 3? Would it be a positive thing for our blended family? Are my husband and I ready for another child? Or should we wait a few years?
My suggestion...as with myself...ask yourself questions that you have that are in conjunction with having another child. Your situation, is probably a little bit different than mine is exactly...you'll have your own questions. Weigh them out...and decide together as a couple from there.
Hope this helped!
2007-03-19 04:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Traci D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are going to do it, do it as soon as possible. The chances of having a baby with problems gets stronger the older you get. All kids say they want a brother or sister until they actually have one. It's your call really. If you feel like you want another child, have another child. Don't just do it because your child wants a brother or a sister. You have to take into consideration a lot of things like: Are you going to end up raising 2 kids on your own instead of one? Or will you be able to financially afford another child? If you work do you have enough time to spend with another child? Make sure you think this through before you jump into anything.
2007-03-19 04:35:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's hard but it is ultimately up to you and your boyfriend. I know the children want you to have a child but you have to stop and think are you secure enough in your relationship to have a child together?Is this something the both of you want? Because if not it's not going to work.You don't want to be a single mother with 2 children. Is what should be the determining factor? and are you ready for that major step.
Don't have a child just to satisfy your children. The ultimate decision lies on you and your boyfriend.
Good luck
2007-03-19 04:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by ~Skittles~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are undecided then you definitely need not to have any more children. You can not have children because the other children want a sibling what happens when they get sick of the new baby touching there things? Maybe your children think that if the 2 of you have a baby you will get married. It could be a security thing for them.
besides at your age you are at high risk for down syndrome. ever considered foster parenting? it is very rewarding. Good luck with whatever decision you make.
2007-03-19 06:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by sallyann0030 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, that is something you and your boyfriend will have to decide for yourselves. For right now (while you aren't certain) I would tell the kids that "we already have three great kids" and maybe a family of 5 is just the right size.
Someone above said kids always want a brother/sister until they get one.... boy is that the truth! Do what is right for you as a family, that's all you can do.
2007-03-19 04:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by Jen J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask the general public if you should have a baby, then NO ... you should not have a child. If you really wanted one you wouldn't have to ask any one except your significant other. Your children may want a little brother or sister, but you and your S.O. are the ones who are going to have to care for it and raise it.
2007-03-19 04:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 22:23:50 · answer #7 · answered by myland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are 100% sure you are in a stable "forever" relationship. You already know how hard it is to be a single mom, I wouldn't chance ending up there x2.
2007-03-19 04:44:53 · answer #8 · answered by zinntwinnies 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be beatiful to have a baby of your loving relationship. The kids will be very happy! they will help you with the baby. Your daughter won't feel lonely no more, as the only young child.
2007-03-19 04:41:04 · answer #9 · answered by Betty76 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It probably be nice for you and him to have a child together. You should do what's in your heart. You should talk it out between yourselves first.
2007-03-19 04:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by crypticbluerose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋