just wondering because I need feedback on this.
2007-03-19 04:25:37 · 5 answers · asked by Angelface_the_1st 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Love at first sight is real. Or can be. Because true love is from God. I'm a Christian, I believe in God! And for that reason I believe that there is love at first sight. God sometimes maybe lets people (like me) see right away who He intended them to love and marry.
Love is different with everyone because we are all different! You can't describe true love for anyone! Everyone's experience of loving or being in love is totally unique. Because we area all unique! There are no hard and fast rules in love. Sometimes love at first sight is true. Sometimes it's not. Sometimes you really love someone you've dated for 10 years. Sometimes you ddon't.
I am so tired of the people that say smugly, "i believe in lust at first sight" because they don't know. I don't have problems with lust, and I have experienced that feeling of "wow, look, there he is, the guy I was created for". I just looked at his eyes from the side and I got that feeling. I wasn't looking at his body at all.
Please believe me- that even if it hasn't happened to you, or never will, it is POSSIBLE
Please do not listen to these other people. Although they mean well, I know personally that there can be real, true, lasting love (not LUST or INFATUATION! Boy am I sick of those dumb words! People just use them to sound grownup and wierd and fancy shmancy! {not to "dis" you other folks, but that's what it seems like to me :)} at first meeting- and yes, even at first sight.
As to what it feels like... everyone is totally different. If you think you are in love, and you love someone very much, more than any one else, than you ARE in love- for the time being. You may, who knows, some day, find someone else who you will be able to love even more. Not because you didn't love the first one- you did, as much as you could at the time. But each new person you fall in love with you seem to be able to love more.
Who can say whether we are all in love a dozen times in our life, or if we only "really" love one of those people, or if we never "truly" loved any of them?
Love is different for every person, at every different time. Sometimes it makes you sad, sometime it makes you happy, sometime insecure, sometimes confident. No one knows. But if you think you're in love, then tell yourself you are and go with your emotions, whether you become mournfully melancholy or exuberantly happy. There is nothing sweeter than feeling something deeply and telling yourself you're in love, whether it's for an hour or a lifetime- or eternity.
I fell in love from first sight with someone I have only met twice in the past two years I still am. For many reasons in a long story, we can't contact each other, nor do we "date" so there isn't a questions of all that "faithfulness" junk. But I knew at the first second that I was made for him and someday God will see we marry and live happily ever after. Sometime I will type up the whole story and post it on every "love at first sight" page and question and blog in the whole wide internet.
Again, I am not saying that love at first sight is the only right kind of love. Maybe you will hate the person you eventually fall in love with! Maybe it will take you years to gradually love them! Who knows? I am not saying that it is the only true kind of love. With some people, it may take a while to fall in love with their soulmate. But love at first sight is so very possible! Sometimes the good Lord is kind enough to show you right away. Like he showed me.
The moment I saw him standing there, I knew all about him. His character- how kind and sweet he was, how helpful and patient. And don't say I was judging a book by its cover. Later in the day I met up with him again and talked to him for five hours at that wedding reception. And my first impression- that split second thought of "this is who I was created for and am meant to marry" was strengthened. And he is in my every thought and dream. I don't give a passing thought or glance to anyone else- it's just out of the question. I’ve only seen him only 3 times over the years. It’s been so long. But I still love him! I do! It’s real!
I fell in love when I was only 13. But that’s how old Juliet was, and it was love at first sight and no one questions her! No one says “Oh, Juliet was so dumb, she didn’t REALLY love romeo, she just killed herself because she THOUGHT she did”. Why should people say that about me?
There is love at first sight.
Not lust.
Not infatuation.
Not a crush.
Not a passing attraction.
Real, true, lasting, beautiful, perfect love.
Believe!
I would not know what to do if he were taken. But I believe that if he truly is my soulmate, which I believe he is, and if your guy is truly yours, he won't be. If he has someone else permanently, God must not have wanted you two together. Then, you'll find someone else. Wait and see. He might break up with the other girl.
2007-03-20 05:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by nemo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love. Actual love at first sight is ridiculous and impossible. There can certainly be chemistry, interest, or lust at first sight, but love is not instantaneous. You cannot love someone who you do not even know. Strong feelings, infatuation, lust or chemistry are not the same thing as love.
If that person is taken, then you would be showing the opposite of love to pursue them. That is interfering in their current relationship, causing problems and potential heartache for them or their current partner. It's never a good idea to pursue someone who's already in a relationship. They're with the person they are for a reason.
As for soulmates, well yes that is something quite possible. The idea that there is only 1 person out there in the world that you'd be able to connect with in a soulmate-type way however is far-fetched, and depressing besides. And that connection usually takes some time to develop at any rate.
I'd suggest that anyone looking to get into a relationship really take their time, even when your feelings are pushing you forward. Your heart may be racing and you want to plunge headfirst into what promises to be bliss, but taking it slow allows your brain to catch up. Not only will you make wiser choices, you'll be able to develop stronger and deeper relationships based on more than just that initial attraction.
2007-03-19 11:42:38 · answer #2 · answered by AnonymousGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there can be a certain chemistry between two people who have just met. Love at first sight? I don't think you can love anyone right away. Like I said you may feel a closeness right away, but you can also grow apart over time. You can have a soul mate and not be together. I am very close to a person, but she is married. We never do anything about it, but we both know the other is there for each other. If they are taken, then you really shouldn't do anything to change that. Do what my friend and I do. We talk and stay close, but neither of us would dream of cheating. Now if something ever happened...that's a different story. If we are ever both available I would imagine we will be together. I wouldn't respect myself or her if she left her husband or if I broke up with my girlfriend just to be with each other.
2007-03-19 11:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love at first sight, NO. Soulmates, yes! If the other person is taken it's not meant to be.
2007-03-19 11:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no cuz no body can fall in love at first sight... soulmates do exist.... fnd somebody else... you can learn to love someone although your in love with some one else...
2007-03-19 11:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by Wenke_91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋