a guy i used to work with. there is high energy between us, we like each other ALOT. we played around at work all the time, bought each other roses, balloons, the attraction was crazy & everybody @ work knew it. we were told by mgmt @ work to "cool it" (lol) - but we could never go the distance bcz either i was in a relationship or he was. we got new jobs & lost contact. we always ran into each other, both still interested but we were always involved with others. we run into each other again last year & got together. things were HOT. then he stood me up, didn't call for 4 days. that monday he sent an email saying he can't be involved with me right now bcz he has "too much going on" in his life. (which he did, he had another baby, family issues, etc.) it hurt & made me angry but i let it go. now he's sending emails again. wants to get with me. i'm hesitant bcz of before. should i give it a shot? this has been going on for years with me & this guy
2007-03-19 04:18:01 · 14 answers · asked by LaLa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We never had sex, by the way. I've never even KISSED him. I wouldn't do any of those things with him because we only got as far as dating and I view kissing and so on as getting serious, which we never got that far.
2007-03-19 04:27:12 · update #1
well...it does sound like he is into you....but i don't know if it's long term. He might be looking for "a little love" I know that you have feelings for him...but you gotta know when the time is right to let HIM go...you need to stop hanging around, waiting for him to "get everything situated." one of my friends was going through that same stuff, and the guy ended up being exactly what she was afraid of. Just wait it out, and you'll find someone better, who wants just you! Keep your family and friends close, and nothing will bring you down!
2007-03-19 04:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by tomwlglvr5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this guy,lay your cards on the table and go from there. If he's going to be a love you and leave you guy b/c he can't handle his lifestyle, then you will always be last on his list when you should be the first one. You deserve to be happy and only YOU know what you need. IF he can fulfill your happiness, definitely go for it, but if he can't then consider being there for him as a friend. Good luck and hope this helped!
2007-03-19 04:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would make sure that he is ready for a relationship and not a fling before you do anything...it sounds like you too really have a connection but don't settle for being a fling whenever he is lonely...look out for yourself.
Good Luck
2007-03-19 04:23:21 · answer #3 · answered by Island Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its exactly what it was an office crush and you guys do live seperate lives -- and if he stood you up then your obviously not important enough in his life to bother with. I think he's teasing you but if you want to give it a try then go for it but don't set yourself up for anything more then a quick lay.
2007-03-19 04:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Okaydokay21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he couls have told you the truth from the door about his problem and then email you tell you he can not be involed with you he knew it would hurt no i would not give it a shot because he going to alway do this to you find someone that going to love you for you.
2007-03-19 04:30:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its really your choice...you could either give him a second chance and risk getting burned again or you could just move on and tell him when I was ready you werent and now that you are ready Im not, and just leave it at that...whatever you decide though...God Bless!
2007-03-19 04:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are both single I say go for it, otherwise you will always be left thinking about what could have been. But proceed with caution.
2007-03-19 04:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it sounds like he just wanted to have sex with you and he got it and that was it for then but now maybe he is single again and is looking for sex.
2007-03-19 04:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can handle the fact that he has a kid I'd give it a shot. Can you really blame him for what happened? It was an accident. Neither your fault nor his.
2007-03-19 04:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by Gary W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything is worth a shot. especially if he had an actual viable reason for last time. its not like he cheated on you. he just had a massive mental burden that he had to deal with.
2007-03-19 04:21:15 · answer #10 · answered by djacobh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋