Does anyone's 2 yr old child still sleep with you in ur bed?

Question

How in the world do i get him to sleep in his crib lol... it should be a toddler bed. But he likes to hug me and fall asleep. How do i get him to stay in his little bed? a stuffed animal hasnt worked. Is it time for him to go to his little bed or they will eventually wanna sleep in their own bed?

Answer 1

I absolutely LOVED sleeping with my 2yo, but yes, the time comes when they just gotta get OUT.
So, what worked for me was this: the first couple of nights I just prepared myself for sleeping on the floor next to her, and she cried and CRIED and I just had to bear it, with little emotion. I just said OK, its bed time, go to sleep. (the first night I had to hold her hand until she fell asleep-bad night). Anyway, every night i got further and futher away, until i felt comfortable just putting her in crib and walking away - no matter how much she cried. In total it was 4 HORRRIBLE nights, followed by 2 weeks of nights that she'd wake us up but I let her cry it out. Now she sleeps all night, not a peep.
good luck - and I know how sweet it is to snuggle with them!

Answer 2

We had this issue too - we got him a regualr twin bed and would lay next to him as he fell asleep. (still do sometimes actually, he is 3) You are comfy, he is comfy and you can leave when he is asleep.
As time goes on, you can lay for shorter periods of time, and then move to a chair beside the bed.
Then you can leave for 1 minute, 2 minutes, 3 minutes, assuring him you will be right back ("i have to go potty" excuse works for me). Then make your bathroom trips longer and longer, coming back each time. Eventually he will fall asleep while he is waiting for you. It took about 6 months to do all this with my son, but it works like a charm now.
Summer (the brand) makes great one, two and three sided bed rails.

Answer 3

From day one my son always slept in his own room. Now that he's older 2 1/2, he wants to sleep with me but I tell him he's a big boy and big boys have to sleep in their own room in their big boy bed. I make sure he's has a night light on so there is no reason for him to be scared. We also say our prayers before I leave his room and I ask him if he needs anything before I leave. If he sleeps in his room all week without crying I reward him by having movie night in my room on friday and I let him fall asleep in my bed. Sometimes I put him back in his room and other times I let him sleep the whole night in my room.

Answer 4

You need to just take a stand and deal with the crying. A way you can start off is to let them sleep in your arms in like a chair then put them in their own bed. Our fist child did the same thing around that age, and we learned from mistakes made for our second. It is a tough thing but has to be done.

Answer 5

Heck my son just turned 6..yes u see it right there 6! I have tried. I don't share my bed with anyone else and I don't think at this point it bothers me. I mean we talk about him getting older and his friends in grade 1 (September 2007) are gonna make fun of him. I think when he's ready he'll know.

I have tried stuffed animals, a body pillow, clothing of mine...with my scent on it. I've tried the whole taking him back but he still finds his way...I don't know what more to do???

Good Luck

Answer 6

The thing is, our kids evolved to sleep with us. We are primates and you will notice that no other primate mom even puts her baby down in the first few years. Our babies have the same needs (we are 98% identical in DNA to chimps.) Culturally, there is lots of pressure to 'detach' from your child. It's not good for your child or for you. Eventually, like around age 4, you can have their bedroom, read to them until they fall asleep, and let them come to your bed if they wake up in the middle of the night.

My 14 year old, I assure you, is not interested in sleeping in a family bed. He likes to go to his room and read, turns off his light on his own, the whole nine yards.

Answer 7

This is a nightmare! I think my daughter will have the same problem with her son as he likes to fall asleep in her arms in her bed. When I am baby sitting him he will fall asleep in my arms and I lay him down in his crib them but he won't sleep for long. I think he must sense the lack of another warm body next to his. Hopefully he will grow out of it but until then you will have to keep trying to get him to lie in his crib after he's asleep and graduate to when he's sleepy. We have given my grandson a piece of silky pjs to hold as he likes the soft and smooth feeling of the material. That seems to soothe him quite a bit. Sing to the baby while you are lying him down, let your voice rise a little as you click in the side rail as sometimes that click is enough to rouse him out of a light slumber. Good Luck!!

Answer 8

u may want to explain to him that he needs to sleep in his own bed because he is a big boy. start a new bedtime routine and make sure u give him lots of hugs before bedtime. he will throw a fit and cry and u will spend a few sleepless nights. u just got to let him cry it out.

if this is really what u want u will need to be strong in the first few days because it will be very hard and u will be tempted to give in just so u can get some sleep.

good luck

Answer 9

no they wont be willing to go on their own, lol..just try sleeping in the bed with him, not exactly sleeping but laying there until he falls asleep~...their bed is small so you will be kind of uncomforable but just for the first week or two maybe...just tell him hes a big boy and this is his big boy bed and make it fun and exciting for him to want to sleep in it~ try reading him a book or rubbing his back, singing to him, just things like that to get him to fall asleep...the sooner the better, for him sleeping in his own bed~..lol..goodluck

Answer 10

my daughter slept in bed with me until my son came they are 14 months apart (d 20 months s 5.5 months). she went to her own bed gradually i started by getting her a bed (we have a full size) and putting it against the wall and a rail on the other side. we started with naptime putting her back there by herself and she did fine. then i slept in her bed with her all night. and then i would leave her bed when she was asleep. then she just got to the point when i could just carry her back there with mickey mouse and we say prayers i kiss her on the forehead tell her night night and then leave. now sometimes i still have to go back when she wakes up scared but it worked wonderfully for us. my son sleeps with me now. so who knows if it will work for him...i hope so. if he has a fave show character get him that stuffed animal and see if that works. good luck!! its tuff!!