I don't know what to do. Yesterday me and my boyfriend went out and got totally drunk for St. Patrick's Day. We were at a bar and I did something totally stupid. Me and my boyfriend were dancing and there was some guy behind my boyfriend. I don't know why I did this - I ran my hand through the guy's hair. My boyfriend saw me do this of course and was like "What the #$%@?" Worse, the guy's friends saw and my boyfriend feels like I made him look like a loser in front of all these people. I don't know why I did this stupid move to a guy that wasn't even cute. Besides, I love my boyfriend very much and I'm not interested in any one else. He is super mad at me and doesn't even want to talk to me. He also thinks this is how I behave when I go out with my friends and that I act flirty with other guys when he's not around (cuz I did do it right in front of him). What should I do? I can't stop thinking about this and I just feel terrible - I can't concentrate on work.
2007-03-19 04:12:34 · 18 answers · asked by Main 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it was quite a silly thing to do. But I don't have to tell you that. Give him a day or two and call him and apologize to him again. If this is the only isolated incident your man shouldn't really be this hard core angry. Give him time he will come around.
2007-03-19 04:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it time, that's really the only answer to your problem. Don't push on him, let him stew on it, and decide for himself what to do. Chances are, if you had a serious relationship and he's a good guy, he'll come back, and you can apologize and be all, I'm sorry, I was drunk, I don't know what I was thinking, it'll never happen again, and just make sure that you don't do it again. If he leaves over this, well, then he is a loser cause at the end of the day, while what you did was emasculating, it's not like you kissed this other guy, or worse, you just made your boyfriend feel like he didn't matter to you. As long as he isn't the super jealous type, just give him space for right now, and if he is, you don't want him in your life, cause next thing you know he'll be suspecting all your male friends (if you have any) of sleeping with you behind his back.
2007-03-19 04:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Chaos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men will cool off over time but if your bf won't let you discuss this with him sensibly then send him a card of apology knowing that he wont' ever be your bf anymore and saying that you understand how he felt, that you're sorry for that, that it was because you were drinking that you acted that way, and that you know nothing more can come of your relationship and that you kick yourself for that. Then sit back and let him think you're pouting and crying while you think about and plan for the next guy you plan to date.
Give him time to come back. If he doesn't then know his ourburst without conversation will happen again and maybe it will be worse. Apparently you don't hold your booze well and you should know that so you don't mess up in the future.
2007-03-19 04:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being I guy I understand what he would be feeling. But trust me guys are more practical and understanding. Do one thing. wait a while till his anger settles down then accept your fault being fully apologetic. Remember kill all your ego if you truely love him.
Dont say something, "I said I was sorry". It is showing ego.
Say something like "I am truely sorry. I know how hurtful it was. I feel very very sorry and trust me I will try my best to never give you any chance to get anfry on me again."
His reaction might be that I dont care what you say any more. I saw you doing that, who knows what you do when I am not with you?
That time dont push him to accept you sorry. Instead keep silent and come back.
Give him time to think about your sorry when he is alone.(Not even in front of you).
I am 99% sure that this will work. I have studied many relationships. I wish you best of Luck and do let me know what happened.
2007-03-19 04:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah pretty stupid move on your part, I guess the only thing you can do is continue to beg for forgiveness. Do really corny stuff that will put a smile on his face. Send flowers, send cards, send a singing telegram. Other than that just give him time. I'm sure so long as you don't do anything stupid like that again he will come around. Good Luck
2007-03-19 04:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by missy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend that you made a mistake everybody makes mistakes for example you are in the same boat my best friend was in she got totally drunk made out wit a guy that wasn't very cute her boyfriend got pissed off but since he is in love with her he gave her one more chance so what i am trying to say is if your boyfriend really loves you like he says he does he should first learn to forgive you.
2007-03-19 04:19:08 · answer #6 · answered by somebodyssexygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
comparable answer as final time lol. nicely its attainable which you probably did no longer have intercourse plenty before you have been with him. i would be incorrect on that when you consider which you had different companions. yet anyhow, if in the beginning up the intercourse replaced into stable or ok, then that for the time of all probability skill which you have become bored along with his habitual. perhaps in spite of each and every thing the journey sexually with him, you have figured that he's not as stable as intercourse as you theory. it might clarify why you like cuddling with him so as that it provides him some thing to watch for and it extremely is attainable he's stable at that. yet sexually, you ought to choose somebody distinctive or extra proficient. perhaps a mix of character for the time of intercourse. Giving it tough yet comfortable on the comparable time. From this and the final question, it is the place my hypothesis comes right down to. when you consider that he's a valuable guy, it extremely is attainable he can provide passionate intercourse, yet you choose some thing extra aggressive, which ends up up in why you cherished that different undesirable boy you had intercourse with years in the past or on each and every occasion it replaced into. My advice is to tell him which you extremely choose extra in intercourse than passionate intercourse. perhaps which will spice issues up. Make any experience? wish so. GL.
2016-10-02 09:26:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okie.... now this is serious..... coz being a guy i know it.... well u girls can always trust us back.... n u girls have much stronger trust factor... whereas for guys its very fragile.... now u doing this is surely gonna bring a million questions in his head....... but i would say u give him time to kewl.... n talk to him... n tell him how sorry u r.... n u would never think of cheating on him... n all that soggy stuff with a mix of tears... that ought to do the trick... n yeah just to kinda warn u... ur bf might even have a prob now u going out with ur frnds... but it shouldnt last for long...
i mean its upto u how u build his trust in u again.... its all in ur hand woman!!!
best of luck..... may the force of love be with u... :)
2007-03-19 04:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by _...._ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologize and explain to your bf what you have just write and say you are really very, very sorry about what you did and he should be understanding enough to forgive and forget if he really, really love you. and let this be a lesson to you about some proper protocol especially when you are with him next time or next st patrick's day. good luck hope everything turns out okay!
2007-03-19 04:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your BF the same things that you wrote here. Since he's mad, you might not want to approach him, but I think an e-mail would be appropriate. Then leave it be. He needs space to consider his thoughts.
If he decides not to forgive you, just chalk the episode up to a learning experience.
But people have done worse. ^_^
2007-03-19 04:18:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋