My dad is having a horrible time dealing with me moving out. I dont know what to do. He is making me miserable, i am an adult now and i am more than ready to make this jump, but he just doesnt like that I am not married to my boyfriend yet. How did you deal with it?
2007-03-19 04:08:42 · 9 answers · asked by Soon to be Mrs. Welsh 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And by an adult i mean in my twenties, in college, full time job, pay all my bills, ready to start a family, getting married soon.
2007-03-19 04:11:27 · update #1
I experienced this years ago when I first moved out. I had to sit down and have a long discussion with my father. It is just a matter of time and he will be able to realize that you are an adult... give it time, don't let it get you down, simply do what you need to do, he can't always be there for you, which it sounds like he is simply tryin to protect you from any harm that might come. He has to let go sometime!
Good Luck!
2007-03-19 04:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Dee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are old enough to make your own decisions. You can explain to your dad that you and your bf are living together because you want to get to know each other as well as possible and that is clearly the best way to do that. Plus, by living with someone you are learning that your actions sometimes affect others and that you need to be a person of your word (If you don't pay your rent then it won't just be you who is hurt it will be your room mate too). Your parents just want you to be prepared and to make good decisions. Don't get upset about it.
2007-03-19 12:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your moving in with your boyfriend don't expect from a parent what you may be heart broken about if your son or daughter were to behave this the same in the future. If cohabitation is the case, consider that you've been around parents long enough to know that parents aren't required to like inappropriate lifestyle decisions that their son/daughter choose. Your moving out doesn't delete a parent just like a parent can't say....no I don't have any sons or daughters anymore. If that is the case, consider reaching a certain age does not mean one has the power to deem morally wrong - right.
2007-03-19 11:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's just being old fashioned.Some people still feel that couples shouldn't live together until marriage.No matter what you say to him,nothing will change his mind on this matter.He's old and set in his way's.You need to talk to him and tell him that it's the decision you made and he's gonna have to live with it.You have spent all of you're life trying to make you're parents happy.Now it's time for you to move on and make you're own choices in life and make yourself happy.He will accept it one day.Just be honest with him and don't hold anything back.
2007-03-19 11:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by mygrandparentsrthebestintheworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just doesn't like the fact that you are growing up. Try to include him in your life as much as possible. You might make a daddy date once a week, catch a movie or have lunch or dinner. That way he won't feel like he is missing out on having you around. You should feel lucky that your dad loves you this much.
2007-03-19 11:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, assure your father that you are ready to be on your own. This way you can learn to be responsible, or you can say to him would it be better if i stayed home and you provide for me. It was hard for me when my daughter was ready to move out on her own. I said got to be strong and plus I got her out of my wings. It is a no win situation when it comes to parents and their children. Well Good Luck. I am sure that you know what you are doing and if you don't you will learn.
2007-03-19 11:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by star58 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have grown up..........but your farther has not....
He still thinks of you as HIS little girl and wants to protect and care for you, and wants you to grown up under his life style.
He will grown into this in time......give him time and keep the
lines of loving communication open while doing it. Tell him your now a selfsufficent adult and old enough to be making your own decisions..If your wrong then you have the right to learn from your own mistakes just as he did.....Then give him a big HUG
2007-03-19 11:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WISE GUY is a smart and wise man..heed his words..put them on the fridge for dad to see when he comes visit!
dont drink , smoke, chew or screw and life will be good for you..
don't do as others will do and it wont' come back to bite you...
just love and have fun, be happy in the sun and respect the values Daddy taught you.
if you dont do these then you'll be on your knees, asking why, crying I'm sorry, forgive me dad-dy.
respect yourself and other will respect you
read, listen learn and grow
live as if you were to die tomorrow (good)
learn as if you were to live forever
Ghandi
2007-03-19 11:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by Gary G 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's called being a parent. sometimes they don't want to let go. just be patient.. seems like you're daddy's lil gurl and he doesn't want to see you leave. parents like to feel that their children need them no matter what. he feels that you're finally saying you don't need him anymore. just tell'em you'll always be his daughter and that in times of need you hope he will be there for you with his arms open
2007-03-19 11:13:49 · answer #9 · answered by M!sta Carter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋