I'm going to break up with my BF. What do you think of this situation...?

Question

I cant trust that he will be honest to me & not deal with other girls in ways that are disrespectful to me. Also, he cant trust that I wont snoop to find evidence of these things. After the last time I found proof, I just haven't been able to look at him the same & he just isnt the same guy to me anymore. He's really quick to say "I'm sorry. I was wrong lets just move past this." NO WAY! I'm not just going to accept a 1/2 ****d apology b/c if I hadnt found out, the same thing would just be going on right now & I'd have no clue about it. I agree that not respecting his privacy is wrong of me, but apparently my gut feeling is right, because the last time I looked thru his cell, I found texts that were inappropriate- & it's the last straw. I'm done with him & I can't see us working out if we both cant trust one another. I know 2 wrongs dont make a right, but am I justified to snoop if I keep finding proof of his dishonesty? I'd say he's giving me a reason to snoop. Either way, it's over.

Answer 1

I think your growing up just fine.... well done! Its not good to snoop granted, but on the same note its usually a nice courtesy to our partners to not put them in a situation were snooping seems like the only anwser. Sorta like that cellphone, thats up for grabs! Come on he is your man whats wrong with you looking at it? Whats wrong with you making sure you feel secure in the relationship. Shoot I've had a few ladies in my time, some feel better if they look, some don't. Since I care I accomidate them. So don't feel bad about that its only when your asking everytime you see them that it becomes deprimental to the relationship. But yea good following your gut to. In most relationships that all we have and even if he wasn't. He apparantly isn't doing everything he can or else you'd be able to satisfy your own gut feelings. Chalk them down to insecurities and move on. Apparantly something more sinister was there to feel or else it wouldn't of gone this far. Just better in the future to have a relationship were you can ask to see the phone as oppose to sneak a look. That says something about both of you when things have to been done behind backs. So if it gets that far again know something isn't being done right, namly communciation.