Whenever i like someone and get close to them they always ending up telling someone how nice i am...as a friend, what am i doing wrong? someone recently told me you can get any boy to fall for you as long as you play your cards right. How is this done?
2007-03-19 04:04:06 · 12 answers · asked by umbrellophone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well it's hard to say for sure without knowing a little more about you and your relations with these guys but I'd say it's possibly that they see you as one of the boys because you get on a little too well with them for them to see you in a romantic light. You're too all intents and purposes a "nice girl" but no more in their eyes. You're so reliable, nice, and easy to get on with that there's no challenge or mystery there too them.
Think about the girls that always get the guys - they're usually the ones who have an air of mystery to them and who seem slightly unobtainable for one reason or another. In comparison, they women guys see as their friends are the ones who are totally reliable, and who they can get hold of ad build friendships with really easily.
It's always advisable not to be one of the boys - so even if you have tomboyish interests, keep this to yourself to a degree. A guy doesn't want to date the girl who can sit in the pub and drink pints with him whilst discussing whether the last goal was offside because she's as good as one of the boys and that's nothing new and exciting because he can do that with the boys already. He wants to date the one who he sees as being a woman who he does't quite understand, who is different to him, and presents a challenge to him which will excite and interest him.
A book I would seriously recommend you read is called "Why Men Love B1tches" by Sherry Argov. Far from telling you to be horrible, it tells you a little bit more how to handle yourself with men so they see you as a romantic interest rather than a mate.
You can read inside the first few pages on Amazon here: http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1580627560?ie=UTF8&tag=topofthehoffs-21&linkCode=as2&camp=1634&creative=6738&creativeASIN=1580627560
Good luck!
2007-03-19 04:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is about playing your cards right, Ypu just have to be you, some people will see you as a freind some people will see you as more, just life. All you can do is be you, be true to what you belive and yourself and you will meet someone most likly when you least expect it. They will see then you for who you are and that is what they will be attracted to. I know what you mean about the freinds business though, somtimes you do cross that line and become more freinds than G/F or B/F material. I would take it more as a compliment it means that you are a nice person that people want to know, and get to know more. Also if you like someone dont be afraid to make the first move!
2007-03-19 04:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be they're more attracted to your personality than your physical appearance. May be they realise that you're too nice a person too get involved with you and risk (potentially) losing your friendship. Sounds daft, but it can happen! Your friendly nature may lead others to feel that you're trying too hard to secure some kind of long-term commitment from others. In the past, I've been told that I'm "too nice." (Sounds like a lame excuse to me.) Now, I just don't really give a damn. Take life as it comes and have no expectations.
2007-03-19 04:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by Fragile Rock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well playing your cards right can mean anything from dressing as tart to being easy which I would't suggest as you seem to be a really nice person.
All you can do it just carry on being yourself and eventually the right man will like you for the right reason. I don't think you can make anyone like you more than a friend if it's not meant to be there needs to be attraction from both ends. Don't despair your time will come!
2007-03-19 04:10:33 · answer #4 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ive been told that before, but in reality i think it means you can get any male to be sexual by being flirtatious, not necessarily a long term thing, i never wanted to be the type that slept about, so i wouldnt recommend that if you dont, the best relationships ive found through my life start off as friends, because when the passion inevitably leesens, you need companionship and basic things in common
2007-03-19 04:10:53 · answer #5 · answered by chakra girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play their games. You don't have to be guy's best friend, and act as one more of the band. Be different, specially if you are interested in one. Be mysterious, flirt but do not give them at once the solutions of the game.
2007-03-19 04:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a bit more mysterious, don`t give too much away and play a bit hard to get. You`ll know the ones who are really interested. If they want you, they`ll come after you.
2007-03-19 04:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by *~STEVIE~* *~B~* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. Girls do the same thing to me. Maybe we are just too nice and friendly and they cant see themselves with someone that knows them real well. when you get an answer i get an answer.
2007-03-19 04:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by djacobh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gather from your page that you are still at a young impressionable age so, therefore enjoy your teens while you can & in time things will improve I am sure.There`s no rush here you have a life time to enjoy all.
2007-03-19 05:23:49 · answer #9 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that if i get to know a girl really well i view them more paternally than sexually .... And it is a bad idea to sleep with your friends....because they arent your friends any longer once you break up....
2007-03-19 05:14:43 · answer #10 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋