O.K My girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago. She gave pretty feeble excuses, and we had been dating for a year. I had no contact whatsoever with her, until she asked the other day if i would mind going for a drink with her as friends. I went along...we just argued...and she spent the whole time telling me about some new guy she liked...i stupidly admitted i loved her, and said that this whole friends thing wasnt working, and i walked out of the room. So every day since, I get texts saying how hurtful she was,sorry,& could we be friends.i ignored her.she then asks my friends have they seen me today cos she's worried about me!Anyway,yest i had enough,& textd her back saying that she hurt me 2much & to leave me alone,i said u've moved on,so should i.anyway,she replied saying she still has feelings 4me,& misses parts of our relationship,but doesnt want to date again.i've agreed to meet her 4drink 2moro, but what do i say or do!!!!
2007-03-19 03:58:32 · 7 answers · asked by dafadf a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't go! She may not talk about other guys she likes this time around, but the fact that she doesn't want a relationship with you will still be there and totally hurt you. Don't do that to yourself.
2007-03-19 04:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by *apes* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say that there is nothing wrong with expressign or saying how you really feel for anyone. I believe that she is upset and made a quick decision to break up without really thinking about it. And you obviously are a bit hurt and not sure what she is upset about. I believe that you should go and have a chat let things out in the open. See what you really messed up on if indeed you did. And she needs to hear from you what she has done that you has hurt you.
You know people think that the solution to things is being with someone else. She doesn't love you or even have the slightest idea of what a relationship is really. It is about understanding and "communication.Communication is the real key to a successful relationship. You have the right to be hurt and let her know. I get the feeling that you don't want to be with her because she has broken your trust.
Say yes to going out. And go for a walk int he park or somewhere quiet nowhere loud like a bar or club. The atmosphere makes things more uptight. You need a place where you can be heard and things can be out in the open where you can both hear each other out. Tell her you will go on one condiditon to clear the air and figure things out and work things out. The moment she gets loud and over talks you, you will walk away make that clear. You both have points to make but with respect to each other.
Let her know your condition and stick to it. Also you will see if she is worth having a s a friend. I believe she is confused and just wants to play with your feelings. Be strong. She is just not the one for you and you will come across a lot of women like that. You should sit down and think of what you're goign to say and sort outyour feelings for her. Don't let her see at least in this moment when you talk to her what you are feeling. Only let out when you are sure of what is going on. I really dont think friends will do with her. Cut her loose completely and if you have to change your number.
After your conversation today you will see if it is worth a friendship or not. She wants to have you as a friend with benefits and then be in your business and since you still ahve feelings for her she will get in the way of you finding someone that really loves you and will make you happy.
You are the only one to make the decision. PLease consider the above and let me know how things go. I wish you luck and remember it is your gain and her lose not to have you in her life!
2007-03-19 04:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by nelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Truth works better than anything. Know what you want before you start a relationship with anyone .I'm sorry to say when you call off any relationship all of it is gone . There is no friend ship. If she wanted to see you she should not called it off. Sound like she playing you.
2007-03-19 04:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she should miss the whole thing not just parts if you get my drift. If you really want this girl gone you may have to tell her face to face. That may be what she needs. You may want to do this over that drink.
2007-03-19 04:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by dee_belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is using you for when she needs an ego boost hun.
Your setting yourself up fpr heartache.
Tell her its over & your moving on...and then stick to it.. dont let her talk you around again.
You deserve better than that.
2007-03-19 04:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone! There's no rule that says you have to be friends with your ex.
2007-03-19 04:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not sure you want to see her then you are obviously not interested. don't waste her time.
2007-03-19 04:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋