back to work on tuesday so dreading it what do u say to a person(it's a girl)who u know hates! me. and would go out of her way to like make fun of u when others are around and doesn't say anything on her own.
i haven't said anything but hello once,oh she so hates me and i actually find it hard to talk to people i guess she thinks i put it on to be rude or something which i so don't get why would i not say anything to be rude?i don't think i can change how she feels but if she knew i was like this at home as well as work and hardly ever go out maybe she would stop.but then that would leave me open for more insults, why don't u like anyone no wonder no one likes you. it sucks!
sorry to mention my silly problems but at least u cant say anthing bad to my face and i can kinda talk about it
Lol jp
i do want her to like me , we are gonna see each other more in the next few weeks and i dont want to feel like crap when im around her. it cant be good for her either to think i dont like her
2007-03-19
03:54:44
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i want her to like me as a friend
if possible at all
2007-03-19
03:56:10 ·
update #1
i don't know your ages, but i would think people who work together need to act respectful towards each other. according to what you are saying here, this girl acts as if she is a little child.
if you are going to have to work more closely with this girl soon, perhaps you could stop her and ask if you and she can talk about work in private? then set up a time and place.
or you could talk with your boss and he or she could set up a meeting so you can resolve this problem.
you could tell her you are shy, and it is sometimes hard to relate to people you don't know well. you could tell her you would like to get along with her as a co-worker, and it would be nice to make a fresh start.
i can't see how your co-worker can hate you... she doesn't even know you...
this is the only solution i can think of... talking to others is normally the best way to work things through.
if you can get together and let her know how you feel, she will probably "back down" and try to work things out.
take care, ok? i hope it all works out for you!!!
2007-03-19 04:09:48
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answered by Anonymous
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Well I wish there was an easy answer for this. But I myself have been there, and what you are dealing with at work is a form of harrassment and there is a policy bout that. You cant make someone like you, and the really sad part is that as they say misery loves company. And as long as she knows that it makes you feel bad she is going to keep on doing it. When she starts up you could always ask her if she is jealous, and start making her think that it doesnt bother you and once she sees that it doesnt bother you she will quit.
2007-03-19 04:08:26
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answered by unforseenfantasy 2
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I have a part time job where people talk about each other constantly. All I can say is you need thicker skin. I feel like i'm in high school when I go to work the way people talk but I decided I have enough friends there and if you hate me, fine if you like me, better. Dont let it get to you, she'll feed off of that.
2007-03-19 03:59:25
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answered by Anonymous
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If you are going to be seeing this person in the future outside of work you need to have a serious talk with her and ask her why she is putting you down in front of your co-workers. This is not appropriate behavior and I would not put up with it for a minute. You may want to rethink having a relationship with a person who wants to be rude to you unless she is willing to stop. Tell her how you feel. There is what we call harassment at work.
2007-03-19 04:03:12
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answered by devilgal031948 4
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First of all, you cant change people. Theyre gonna be who they are whether we like them or not. If she's harrassing you at work, its illegal and you need to report her. That may give her an attitude adjustment but in the end it wont make her a nice person. She has to decide to do that on her own.
2007-03-19 04:01:40
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answered by Anonymous
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Sounds like this girl, for whateve reason, doesn't want to get close to you. Perhaps she knows that the office rule doesn't tolerate relationships so she wants to make sure none happen so she doesn't lose her job. Be "professional" on the job and find friends outside of work. Sounds to me like she doesn't want to be friends outside of work. Maybe she sees you are introverted and maybe thinks you will use her to learn what's happening at work with the other people and she doesn't want to gossip. Or maybe others at work have reason not to be your friend and she is making sure they know she is of like mind so as to protect herself and still be part of the grapevine. Whatever it is, seems it has nothing to do with you, but solve it and find friends elsewhere.
2007-03-19 04:04:05
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answered by sophieb 7
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You just continue being yourself hun.
This is a problem she is gonna have to deal with in her own mind i think.
Theres some reason that only she knows that she treats you like this.
Just be you & everyone will see the great person that you are.
We wont always have everyone to like us hun, it just dont happen that way.
Just do what makes you feel good about YOU.
Good Luck!
2007-03-19 04:00:31
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answered by earthangel_candy 4
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Don't shy away. Show her, she don't intimidate you. Ask her strait up if there's a problem between you two so it can be solved. Maybe she thinks you're easy pray. Some people down others to make themselves look better. If you stand up to her then she will back off.
2007-03-19 04:08:38
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answered by tateroola 2
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The only way to change her feeling is to know why she dislikes you, talk to her. Talking is the best solution. Just do it and then good results should come out, unless she really doesn't like you. Get to know what she likes, and show her that you're more than just 'the other guy who walked pass me'. Show her! and u'll be proud... :D
2007-03-19 04:00:49
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answered by Anonymous
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to me, you really can't ..just continue to be yourself I would say to avoid her if you can, don't make it obvious..but u don't have time for the poking fun and all that..and sooner or later you will know..I always was told when a person do that they do like you..
good luck
2007-03-19 04:08:48
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answered by lil bit 4
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