My boyfriend just asked me to marry him. The problem is none of his family likes me and my family doesn't like him. They think that we are not right for one another cause there is a fifteen year age difference between us.
The thing is the day after my bf asked me to marry him we found out that I am expecting. Now we sort of have to get married.
My boyfriend suggested waiting to tell the two families about the baby until after the wedding plans have been put into motion. He said this so they will know that he proposed before we knew about the baby.
Should I go along with his suggestion or do you think he is just trying to cover up the fact that we have a baby on the way?
2007-03-19 03:49:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that you say he proposed before he knew about the baby shows me how much he loves you. He most likely wants to protect your reputation. I say go with his suggestion. What harm can it do?
Basically your family is going to form their own opinion no matter when you tell them. They already don't like him so they aren't going to ever see his good qualities.
I say have go ahead plan the wedding of your dreams. Have fun doing so and then plan for your life with together with the coming baby.
Oh and congratulations on both your engagment and the coming baby.
I can also share in your predicament. I am sort of in the same way. Except there is 17 years between me and my man. You just learn to go with what you have.
2007-03-19 04:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to agree with your boyfriend. If you two are of adult age, and plan to finance your own wedding, he feels telling them about the baby would only create more problems before the wedding. Families mean well in their advice, as a 15 year age difference has been known to make a difference, other times it has not. But there comes a point when you have to do what you feel is right for you. This is that time. Hopefully you and your boyfriend will end up proving them wrong and can have a successful marriage. In time hopefully, both families will come to support you both on your decision to marry and every thing will turn out for the best. Best of luck to you both.
2007-03-19 05:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, only get married if you want to marry him. Even if you do have a baby on the way... never get married for any reason other than you want to.
It doesn't matter what your families think of each other, as long as you are both adults, you can do what you want!!!
You can tell them that he proposed before he knew about a baby, but chances are, they are going to believe what they want. My suggestion? Tell them about the baby,and then give them an invitation to a wedding. If they want to talk, let them. Their age related prejudice and stupidity is their problem, not yours.
2007-03-19 03:55:02 · answer #3 · answered by Some Lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he is just trying to make you both look good far as in that he dont want people to think that your getting married for the baby your getting married because you love each other and you want to be together
2007-03-19 03:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by sexsired 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family already doesn't like him and they are going to form their own opinion no matter when you tell them. It seems like they have already pre-judged him.
It doesn't sound like he is trying to cover up anything. He just wants your family and his to know the truth. Hopefully if you follow his suggestion they will. But who knows for sure. I think his suggestion is partical.
2007-03-19 04:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by bikini bandit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they already dont like him, if they think you are getting married because you have pregnant would make them think your getting married for the wrong reasons....so he does have a point
but you should listen to your family's reasons for not liking him and think about your desicision sometimes our judgement can be clouded by "love"
2007-03-19 03:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is freak out about what they will say...They dont want you two together and they will think the only reason your getting married is the baby...Its up to you two what you do...Congrats to you two and for your wee one...
2007-03-19 04:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a cover up to me.
2007-03-19 03:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 05:48:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋