I've met this guy last summer back in my country and saw him only three times (my best friend knows him very well)
We fell in love and decided to be together in a long distance relationship 2 years until I graduate and come back (now I'm in the USA)
A year passed and everything was fine, all of a sudden he broke up.
When I met him he was a regular guy then he changed he started looking for a better job and was working 8 - 16 hours a day to save money and be financially independent so we can get married
By the way we're both 20 years old.
Happens that as he said he found out making money was not as easy as he thought he is...
He is all depressed and he said he wants to break up and told me (if some good guy asks you for marriage marry him) , I'm back at zero now, I will not be capable of offring you a decent life. I know that you would stand by my side but don't want you to think of a solution for my problem. etc...
does this sound logic to u?
2007-03-19 03:48:49 · 13 answers · asked by leave me alone 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yep, sounds like good logic. He realized he is a man and needs visual enforcement as a matter of instinct and he found someone else so he's letting you off easy. You on the other hand should have realized that long distance relationships don't last (unless the guy is ugly or needy and he hangs on every breath you take). Your bf was trying to let you off easily instead of hurting your feelings. Accept what he says and find another bf as he's mature enough to say what he means. He also knows at least for now, that he can't afford you, he sees the cost of living is high and he probably even has spent his money on someone else. So yes, it is logical.
2007-03-19 03:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is just depressed cause he doesn't feel good enough for you. But a relationship is to people working together to help build each other up, one person can not be expected to do it all. I would think that is what he is thinking that he can do it all, but if he were to try all that would do is depress him more. It is a joint effort, expecially in this world. In the loss of a job, a loved one, etc you have to be there to tell him, no you are the one I want to be with and I will be here to hold you up when you don't feel like you can continue.. You do your best to help support him as well. Show him you are willing to do anything to be with him, as far as putting in as much effort as possible to help him feel better about himself or help out with finances, etc. Hope this helps..
2007-03-27 02:18:28 · answer #2 · answered by littlemama882003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he got bored and tired of you! This is the way guys work. Why buy the cow when the milk is free! After a while they want something different! Get away from him and quit crying, you think you are the first lady to be taken advantage of by a guy? You have to learn from your past mistakes and quit repeating them over and over! What makes you think you are so special that a guy will treat you like you think you should be treated! Get a life, this is the real world not your little dreamland!
2007-03-19 03:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by dale j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this man, doesn't want you to wait for a future that will never possibly happen. he is so good to say this and it doesn't sound like the usual men's **** lines we girls hear! he is honest in thinking about your needs first and admits "honey you can do better and it ain't workin" and his mamma might have instilled better values and that marriage comes 50/50 and if he can't pull the "50/50" then to drag u down -it's not worth it. i'm not saying your not worth it but living in a shitty apt, with no money and a screaming baby in a crappy area for the next 15 yrs is obviously not his idea of a happy marriage and life...sooo move on.
2007-03-19 03:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like (1) He feels like he's a failure AND (2) He doesnt think he could be a good mate for you if he cant bring home the bacon. Decent as it is, its old style macho thinking. Now, you have to decide whether your going to let him go or not. It also sounds like he's trying to do right by you.
2007-03-19 03:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like typical boy logic. He knows he wants you but he wants it to be easy too.
Life is hard and marriage is work. Just two simple facts
2007-03-19 03:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wnats the best for you. You need to tell him that you love him ab=nd that he is the best for you and that know matter what situation your in your love for him will be pricles and that you cant put a bid on it. If you truly love him then tell him you need him.
2007-03-26 14:10:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sounds to me like he just thought of an excuse to break it off. He probably loves you, but being so far apart probably lost that feeling for him.
2007-03-19 03:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by Taylor Swift Lovah™ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is ashamed.
He is concerned he will not be a good provider.
Or he is doing your best friend now.
Good luck.
P.S. Long distance relationships NEVER, I repeat NEVER work!
2007-03-19 03:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man is full of TWAKK! Straight up! Leave him and gain some self respect!
2007-03-19 04:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by Lucky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋