How do i cope with working full time having 2 step kids a dog and a new puppy a full time job and go to the hospital everynight I am exhausted.....I need some advice please anyone else been in this situation my mom is very poorly...........
2007-03-19 03:43:32 · 12 answers · asked by nataliemollymallen 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If it's possible for you to get a mommy's helper to help with the children, cooking , cleaning and dog care this would give you more time for your mother as well as time to relax. If you continue to go at the rate you are going you are going to crash. You're ready know that. It would be in your best interest to get temporary help to help you through this crisis.
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Billie77
2007-03-19 03:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Cherokee Billie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard. When my Mam had her first stroke, I was 15, just about to start my final year at school. It must have been harder for my Dad - though he didn't show it - he worked full time, had a teenage daughter, a dog and wife who was in a coma in a different city.
When I asked him how he coped years later, he said that he just did, that he didn't think about it and got on with everything as it appeared. He went to the hospital every night without fail and since he didn't drive it meant he went to work, home, bath, change, something to eat (my aunts made sure he had something), out. A train and two buses later, he'd get to the hospital, he'd stay as long as he could before the nurses would kick him out, he'd make the same jounrey home, bed and then start all over again the next day.
2007-03-19 03:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by elflaeda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a family emergency leave from your work so you can spend some time with your mother. By law they have to give it to you. If you do not get paid family leave time then consider taking a couple vacation days just to recharge but still be able to spend time at the hospital. You also didn't say how old the step kids are but if they are school age (even kindergarten age) let them take over some of the househould things like taking care of the dog and the new puppy, taking out the trash or othe things.
2007-03-19 03:48:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any time you or your mom think of she's having even a teeny tiny stroke in basic terms circulate as we communicate to the emergency room. do no longer supply up off on the drug shop to ascertain blood stress. circulate as we communicate to the ER, or call 911, it quite is extra effectual. A small stroke can replace right into a great one directly. there's a small window of time (frequently 3 hours from onset of the 1st actual symptom ) to get her medicine which could start to offer up the stroke. in case you wait extra suitable than that, you in basic terms can not have the medicine, and that ought to characterize the effect of the stroke must be way worse on your mom. the three hours has to comprise attending to the wellbeing facility, getting seen, clinically determined, examined, and dealt with. SO do no longer postpone in any respect whilst your mom has those warning signs returned. in basic terms call 911. you say your mom made an appointment. meaning she called her wellbeing practitioner. Did she tell him her modern warning signs? She mandatory to try this.
2016-10-02 09:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy that's rough!
You need help, preferably from the rest of the family. There is no way you can do everything by yourself. Get your husband to help around the house- and the kids, if they're old enough. And if you have any brothers or sisters, get them to trade off sitting with your mom, if it's feasable for them.
You might even look into getting a nursing aid to help take care of your mom. Though that can be expensive, if insurance and medicare don't cover it.
Good luck!
2007-03-19 04:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by Tigger 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your husband needs to pitch in.....they are HIS kids after all. And take care of the dogs. This is not difficult. You need to spend time with your mother. You can also contact the facility she's in and ask for a social services case worker for your mother. If this is going to be a long term condition where she may need a nursing home, they will help her with that--it would take a lot of the pressure off you.
2007-03-19 03:51:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you have so much on your plate. I think it is time that you ask for help from someone.... a co-worker, sibling, relative, church member, friend, spouse, in-laws etc etc. Consider asking for paid stress leave from work..... I understand though if that isn't possible. Do not be afraid to reach out to people you spend time with to ask for help with kids, house hold duties, maybe even someone could visit your mom to give you a night off.... remember you can't take care of anyone until you take care of yourself. Try hard not to burn out... even if you take 20 minutes for yourself to have a bath or go for a stroll it could do you wonders.
I hope you are able to find some help, good luck
2007-03-19 05:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Somanyquestions,solittletime 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everytime you are getting stressed or upset, say to yourself................."this too will pass".
All things pass, people situations come and go.
Accept the impermanent nature of the world and you will be able to move into uncertainty without fear and this is the key to a liberated life.
2007-03-19 03:50:24 · answer #8 · answered by abluebobcat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I had it with my mum and it's draining! No amount of advice will help it's just something you've got to get through. Good luck with it though and I hope she makes a recovery
2007-03-19 03:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Sidney Snot 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask for compassionate leave or talk to your doctor about your stress and try to get a sick note.
2007-03-19 07:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by Elsie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋