I was stalking this boy and he kind of found out, what should I do?

Question

I was stalking this boy, I found his adress, phone number, I even spy on him sometimes at his house. But one time he caught me spying on him in his room so he shut the blinds!! I also have evrey picture of him imaginable. I probably own pictures of him that he doesn't even remember taking. I put them in my closet. He asked one of my so called "friends" why I was spying on him, and she told him all about the pictures of him in my closet, and how I once saved one of his used tissues.
But that was a long time ago, I don't save his used tissues anymore. He thinks I'm a freak now, though! And I'm not!!!!!!
WHAT SHOULD I DO!? I really like him and now my chances of even being his friend are over. Now whenever he sees me at his baseball games he looks at me like I'm a freak.
I'm not a freak! What should I do?

its illegal to stalk?!?!?! WHAT!

Answer 1

I thought about this and the best thing that I came up with is...use a mutual friend. What I mean by this is when a friend of yours is having a party, show up and have a friend introduce you two.

Your second option, may be to just walk up to him and tell him that you like him and that you didnt know how to tell him this. (This is the most responsible action).

Third option, use a mediator. This can be a friend but I would use a counselor (not a social worker) to be the mediator. This person can get him to see that you werent a freak but just scared to approach him.

And, let this be a lesson, please dont stalk people. It's scary to the person being stalked. They do not know whether they are in physical danger. Also, You may have to come to the realization that this young man may not want to have anything to do with you.

Anyways, you live and you learn. Good luck!

Answer 2

First of all stop stalking him. That is illegal and can get you arrested. With that being said. I know you like him, but like it or not. Your chances may be over. You need to leave him alone for awhile. Just because you aren't in his face as much doesn't mean he'll forget you exist. He knows you like him. Give the boy some space. Will it be hard?...oh, yeah, but keep up the way you are and no you have NO NO NO shot. He's probably afraid if you did date you'd be calling him, coming over 24/7, getting jelous over anyone he talks to, and constantly demanding his attention. And it sounds like something you'd do if this is how you are when you aren't dating. This by the way isn't ok if you're dating.
Take a step back...breath...see how he feels.

Answer 3

I hope you are a little girl and not an adult, because I would say you are a very troubled person. Listen, it is normal to have a crush on him but it's not normal or healthy to stalk him. That's enough to make him fear and dislike you. The best thing to do is to speak to him if he doesn't run when he sees you. Have your friend sit with both you so he's comfortable, and apologize for your silliness. Maybe after speaking to you, he will get to see something positive in you. If you find that you still have this urge to stalk him or anyone else, please consider having your parents take you for some sort of counselling because you could be on a very dangerous path.

Answer 4

Why DID you stalk him, is the question you need to ask yourself. If you stalked him because you liked him, you really should have just told him that you liked him. My best friend had a shrine of this girl in his room in 4th grade but he took it down. Maybe you should just talk to him about it. I think you should tell him that you aren't a freak and that you stalked him a long time ago and everything you told us. Well, the last part anyway. If you like this boy as much as you told us then you should try to fix this. Hope I helped.

Answer 5

Yup, watching people through their windows is illegal, and I think that's a good law.

I think that you have lost this guy. Don't even try to be friends with him. I would leave him a note saying, "Yup, I'm a freak. I invaded your space when I had no right. I regret it now and I will not be a problem for you again. Good luck at your next baseball game. I won't be watching."

Keep it short. Don't use a lot of emotion. Then let it go and vow to never do anything like that again.

Answer 6

Well, maybe you should take it easy for a while. I mean, honestly, if you found someone looking at you through your blinds, wouldn't you be a little freaked out? Just try to do things that make him think you're more mature. Like, maybe try to ignore him for a little while, and whenever you catch him looking at you, give him a little smile that says "you aren't worth my time". This will show him that you're different than what he first thought and he might give you a second chance.

Answer 7

If this infant makes you so uncomfortable which you have have been given already instructed the college approximately him and that they have got tried to handle it until now then you certainly could certainly ask to pass. you have a splendid to sense secure at college and that i'm beneficial the instructor provide help to progression in case you clarify why you could substitute seats.

Answer 8

Sounds freakish to me. I would give him his space. Maybe write him ONE note. But all the things you did in the past are kind of weird. I don't know if he will be interested in you to be honest.

You might have to chalk this up as a learning experience.

Answer 9

This can be very unhealthy for you, and you don't want to end up getting into trouble with the law, which you can.
So, see a psychiatrist fast! Before you see bars!

Answer 10

well im gonna be honest what u did was kinda freaky! but it looks loike u got it really bad. tell him ur sorry and that u wont bother him anymore,but you will really like it if u guys were friends. just dont cling on to him too much. ignore him when u see him and pretend u dont like him and that ur sooo OVER HIM!