ok so theres this guy who has the hots for me and he really likes me but i dont feel the same about him anymore because i still love my ex bf and i know that he still he loves me too.Now i told this guy that because he wanted to know why i was acting so finiky lately so I told him the the truth and now it's like he's in denial,he wants to be friends with benefits and i said yes like an idiot but thank goodness for the fact that now he lives in florida but he's coming up here in two weeks for my friends sisters quincy and he wants to see me should i tell him that i dont want this relationship and try to tell him again but be extremly harsh because i've tried to be nice and it has no effect at all like i get flirtacious sometimes but im not serious and he knows that what should i do
2007-03-19 03:39:58 · 5 answers · asked by ashley_davis957 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first of all you can't do the flirting thing if you don't really mean it because your sending mixed signals. Of course he's going to want see you because you told him there were benefits, so you have to tell him this is not what I want no matter what he wants to believe you just want to be friends and he needs to respect your wishes. You have to seriously know what you want and stand your ground be stern but not nasty!
2007-03-19 03:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by WOW! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him the truth was the best thing you could do. If he doesn't accept it it is his problem now. Don't do anything you don't want to do especially if you only feel sorry for him. It will only confuse him. Stick with the truth.
2007-03-19 10:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by class 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well just be honest with the guy that's the best thing you can do and the other thing that you can do is stop playing games with him to lead him on that will help you out big time.
Later.
2007-03-19 12:39:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I am him, I would like you to be harsh, that's when I'll wake up to the fact that you don't like me. But please remain friends. =)
2007-03-19 10:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by djwen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in your case, there is no other way to do it ...!!! u have to tell him frankly ..!!! and make him clear ...!! it's better ..!!
Good Luck !!
2007-03-19 10:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by bobby s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋