I have a lot of "unsavory" characters in my family. By that I mean drug addicts and thieves. I am having an important party for my new baby and want to invite those that can be trusted but need to leave out the others. How do I do this? Can I do this?
2007-03-19 03:34:02 · 16 answers · asked by Ruby Tuesday 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
They absolutely cant be invited..they will steal everything
2007-03-19 03:34:25 · update #1
I am neither snotty or judgemental..I just dont want them to steal my belongings, my daughters gifts or smoke crack in my house...call me crazy
2007-03-19 03:47:43 · update #2
Or you could just have it at a church. People, like some of your relatives, seem to run from churches. I do not see you as snotty- I think "HellWolf" whoever he is needs to let his kids hang out with theives and drug addicts- and realize you're only being a protective, smart parent!
2007-03-19 07:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by Lizzi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Select. Send out invitations to people you want to see only. Explicitly write down their first names as well as their last names, not just 'family suchandso'.
2. Protect. Be prepared for some uninvited partycrashers. Move out everything that is of value: Cash, juwelry, CDs, mobile phones, electronics. Move it to a safe room in the house where nobody goes. Can you lock the door? Better.
3. Check the door. Inform a friend of your worries. This friend will open the door. He/she will have a list of everyone invited, and possibly also the names of those NOT invited.
This friend doesn't know your family, they don't know him, so he can turn them away when they're not invited. He can refuse requests to see you, and tell people to go away without the emotional burden that you would have. To him they're not family; they're partycrashers.
Talk it through; should he suggest calling the police if someone insists? Should you come to the door and give in? Decide on the Rules Of Engagement.
4. Guard. Same deal: Ask some trusted friends or family to take care of your worries. Explain you can't check up on these people if they appear. Ask a few friends to sacrifice their fun at the party to follow the uninvited guests around. No going upstairs, no going into the values-room, and keep an eye on them.
Whatever you do: Don't bother about the crackhead's hurt feelings. All they have is hurt feelings, all day long and they have already found the remedy. Don't pity them.
2007-03-19 04:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by mgerben 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could try a couple of things.
1. rent a back room at a restaurant for your party and invite only those you want. If they get upset, tell them space was limited.
2. Hold the party in the back yard, lock all doors to bedrooms and valuables, and if they must go inside they only have access to bathroom and kitchen. of course you hide anything you think they can hock. Don't invite them but be aware some will find out and crash anyway.
3. Ask your church to use their hall and have it there. If they attend, there is not much they take.
It is ok to invite anyone you wish. Good Luck
2007-03-19 03:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by Yo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a family member that we all would rather not see at family functions. We all try to be polite about this person's behavior but at the same time we wonder why must we put up with it all the time. If we wouldn't tolerate such behavior from strangers or even friends, why must we be forgiving to this person all the time. My point is, invite whoever you wish. Just because they're related doesn't mean those who don't know how to behave have a right to ruin your party.
2007-03-19 04:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by Paddington 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can. Invite those you like and tell them to keep it a secret from the unsavory ones.
2007-03-19 05:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just invite, in writting, those you want to be close to you at this special day. If you like despite the written invitation give them a call too.
2007-03-19 03:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by maran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can send out the invites and don’t send out the invites to others then if they come and crash the party you can call the cops and get them taken away for trust passing…. It may sound harsh but if you don’t want certin ppl there you got to do what you got to do.
2007-03-19 03:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Melois Koro 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can invite whomever YOU chose! It's your house, your party and YOUR baby! Even though it is also your family, the family members that you do invite will probably be just as relieved as you that they will not have to constantly wonder if someone is stealing out of their/ your purse.
ITS YOUR PARTY YOU DECIDE WHOM YOU INVITE! :)
2007-03-19 03:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would first come down off that high horse ur on!You sound quite snotty and judgemental.If not ,then simply send written invatations to selected people,the rest of your familly will wonder why they were not invited and hopefully wont show up.
I hope you have a valid reason,i.e if someone stole from you in the past,if so the message by not sending an ivatation will be quite clear.If nothing like that has ever happend,perhaps you need to look in the mirror.
2007-03-19 03:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
I would tell the scoundrels straight up why you are not inviting them. If they still want to come,tell them that if they screw up ( steal, smoke crack,kill babies etc.) that you are going to boot them out.
Be honest.
2007-03-19 05:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by Bones 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋