My daughter is 4 y-old and can see spirits. How do you explain that?

Question

Considering children dont lie, they are innocent, with pure sentiments, free of sin, and that Jesus Himself put them in the highest position, even higher than all the religious men of His time.

Considering also that she started to see them at age of 3 years-old, very young to be making that up.

In the beginning, she was afraid of them, but nowadays, she even describes them. She saw an old lady in my bedroom, she saw a boy outside, in our backyard, she saw a couple walking up the stairs in our house, she saw a man during dinner time and invited him to sit with us.

After a few months after my father passed away, one day she told me: "I see a ghost", I said: "is it a man or a woman?" and she said: "he is a daddy." and I said: "whose daddy is he?" and she said: "your daddy." I am sure that he was my father coming to say goodbye.

Well, my religion makes me feel confortable with those appearance, and I always act naturally. Just want to know other people's opinion. it's serious.

Seeing people and describing them physically and differently at every occasion is not like seing dragons... please.

I dont think they are demons either, but I think they might need some help.

I am sorry for all the other jokes.

Sarcasm is a strong tool in hands of those who are frightened and cowards.

Answer 1

Your problem with a lot of the answers you are getting is that most people have forgotten what it was like being a child and what a child's perception of the world is like. Too many are on paths that do not allow for the belief in either an afterlife or the possibility that the animating source, the soul exists.

This having been said, children do make up things, yes, and some do lie, sad but true. What you need to do is start asking yourself are you prompting her,or is she doing this on her own.

I personally believe your child is seeing spirits, she hasn't been taught that she can't, neither was I. It's not a problem if see sees the spirits of those who no longer are in the land of the living, as long as you and she have good communication.

She should tell you when see sees these entities and what if anything they tell her. In this way you can make sure that she does not participate in anything that might cause her harm.

Provided that you have given your daughter a good grounding in morals and ethics as well as respect for your authority, it is unlikely that you should ever have anything to be concerned about. Should she tell you that she sees these spirits while in your company, you should tell her to tell them that they really should move on now. Above all don't not act like this is a cause for alarm, just act normally as if you were telling her to tell a lost puppy or dog, it should go home now.

Answer 2

First -- 4 year olds DO lie. Wherever you got this concept that they don't was wrong.

Second -- 4 year olds have very active imaginations and often have still not yet developed the capacity to distinguish between Self-Other-World. Thus, this imagination often is projected onto the world.

Third -- If your four year old is seeing these things still at five or six, he/she should be evaluated by a medical professional, as these may be symptomatic of what would be termed "positive affect schizophrenia without paranoia." What this means is -- the child experiences active emotional reaction (instead of negative affect, which is catatonic) and that these emotional reactions are devoid of the paranoia commonly thought (by the general populous) to be associated with schizophrenia.


I would not recommend encouraging or discouraging these experiences. Encouraging may prevent the child from learning to distinguish between reality and imagination -- discouraging may lead the child to avoid discussing the experiences which would make medical evaluation less useful if the experiences continue.

Answer 3

Janet, this is a copy/paste of the answer I gave to Pangel's question in regards to this one of yours. Please, because it is a duplicate, do not consider it for best answer. I simply wanted you to know that there are those of us who believe as you and your daughter do. My apologies for those who have ridiculed you.

>>>Pangel, I know you are aware that my children and I have seen what we call spirits on many occasions, and that there is much activity in my home.

Children describe these apparitions because they are actually seeing them. As adults, many of us seem to lose our ability to sense, or see, those who have passed before us.

Children, however, are very receptive and more open minded, not yet having learned that society views this phenomena with much skepticism. They act as little energy receivers, much like a radio that is tuned to the right frequency.

These apparitions are not demons. They have the same personality in death that they possessed in life. As most people are good, it stands to reason that most spirits one encounters will also be benevolent.

There are some who may be filled with malice and rage, but they are as rare as those we encounter among the living. They cannot harm anyone-the amount of energy required to be seen negates the ability to do anything else.

I believe that the worlds of the living and the dead coexist simultaneously. Occasionally, we are allowed brief glimpses of the other side. I also feel that they see us as ghosts, and exist in a realm that is unchanged from when they were living.

I believe this because I know that two of the spirits in my home are the original owners. They built this place 60 years ago, and occasionally, my children and I will be awakened by pounding. It didn't take us long to realize that the pounding, rather than being random knocking, had a purpose. It sounds as if something is being built. We have come to the conclusion that what we are hearing is an echo from the past, back to when our home was being constructed.

People who ridicule others for their beliefs are simply shallow-minded skeptics. They don't see these things because they choose not to believe. If they would open their minds to the possibility, then they might experience them also.<<<

Answer 4

Since children don't lie and they are innocent and free of sin, your daughter wouldn't lie to you, would she?

Of course she wouldn't.
But you just 'forgot' that children, especially 4 year olds, also have a vivid imagination and might not neccesarily draw a razorsharp line between the imaginary and the real world.
I remember clearly my own dissapointment the first time I realised that what I had just dreamed wasn't true when I woke up.

Just that your child doesn't blatantly lie to you does not mean her words are the Absolute Truth. She's still a 4 year old toddler, not a surveilance camera.

Answer 5

when children are born a veil is placed over their eyes (spiritually) so that they cannot remember their "Pre-Earth Life" in the spirt world. However it is not a complete veil, until they reach about 8 years old. So they could still vaguely remember things. It is quite normal for a child of her age, to see spirits of people as it is to have an imaginary friend (or more). This is a religious explanation of it.

When she's about 8 she will not see the spirits any longer.

Answer 6

People have left some very harsh replies which is unfair.
Your daughter may well believe that she is seeing spirits, as you do aswell.
Do you go to church? Do you, or have you ever taught your daughter anything about religion and god? You may not have directly but she probably heres you talking about it. Children have vivid and wild imaginations. When i was a child i had an imaginary friend, i can still remember what she looks like and what she was wearing. To me she was real
Your daughter has probably heard you say spirit and ghost, and thats probably where it comes from.

Answer 7

Consdiering that your religious and you approve of this behavior she could just make up imaginary friends and say they are spirits and what not especially with you basically tleling her its ok and you seem to think its a great gift from god or something.

I would put a stop to it right now because the longer you keep this up the more crazy your child will appear to the rest of the world, thats all you need, for her to go to preschool and tell the teacher she sees dead people.

One of two things is going to happen, your going to scar her for life and she will not end up in a psychiatric institution or she will belive in it so much that she will end up in a psychitric institution.

I am sorry, but that is messed up parenting, how can you ENCOURAGE your childs imaginary friends?

Religion is a personal thing, that inviduals should decide for themeselves, its also more internal than external, telling your child that its ok that she sees dead people at the age of 3 and 4 , is just simply wrong. What is she going to do when she is 5, perfrom excosismS? ?? or claim to be the second coming of christ????

Answer 8

Children are not innocent and free of sin. We are born with sin. Think of when a toddler cries because they don't get a toy they see, (and don't tell me it doesn't happen cause i have younger siblings) they cry because they want what ever they want. They are very selfish. When it comes to Jesus saying that children are better that's not what He was saying he was talking about Faith. Children will believe anything you tell them. (almost anyways) Because they trust. Jesus was saying that the priests and elders needed more faith. If she sees spirits or not I'm not going to judge although i do highly doubt it. Especially if it is giving her a lot of attention. Don't underestimate little kids. Their smarter than we give them credit for.

Answer 9

ummm, your daughter has really pulled the wool over your eyes! Who says children don't lie?? And you actually believe this?? Your 4 year old daughter is apparently smarter than you. Does your child watch TV? Do you read her books? She has her own mind. She can make anything up, just as everyone else in this world can!

And about you father, I would say that it was her way of handling his passing. Children are a lot more astute that we give them credit for. If this doesn't bother you, let her have her stories. I asure you she will grow out of it. If she has an imaginary friend constantly, would you believe that it really existed?

Answer 10

Please don't get attached to these, they need to go on. I expect your daughter will understand this. Do all by calling in Christs name, that angels come to a certain location to help them and tell the discarnates en mass where the angels are and that they will take them to where they need to be. Before that, you will also have to educate them that they are dead, becasue they are in limbo and not sure where they are.