she's my only child, ever since she always listen to me ,i never spoiled her, but i do give her what she need. and sometimes ofcourse i ask her what she want that's why she became sweet & smart. but lately i dont know what to do she never listen to me is this a part of growing up b'coz she will turn 4 this coming june she' a half filipino and half japanese and she will start to go to school as a kindergarten this april that's why i'm worried too, what should i do?
2007-03-19 03:15:01 · 9 answers · asked by frezycat143 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
She may be ready for some time outs. If she questions your authority or says no, have her sit out a minute and think about what she did and apologize after. Tell her why she is getting a time out and remain calm but firm with your expectations. Her behavior is perfectly normal and if she is really bright she may try to make a joke out of her bad behavior. Tell her she is very cute but she still gets a time out because her behavior was inappropriate. Her behavior is normal. Avoid a lot of TV too, children are like sponges at this age, so supervise all she watches.
2007-03-19 03:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, get down on her level. Looking at her in the eyes. Use a low but stern voice after the first warning. Let her know what you want her to do and have her repeat it. DO NOT give her a long list 1 or 2 things is all her mind can really handle. Inform her of the consequences once she does it or does not do it. Make sure that when she does obey you to give her praise and gratitude for doing it. When she does not do what is asked of her make sure to FOLLOW through with the positive or negative consequence. It will be hard for you and her (especially the negative consequence). And DO NOT look or consider her nationality/ethnicity. Look at her as a person first. Remember this is something you must be consistant with or she will NEVER learn.
Good Luck!!
2007-03-19 03:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by hey_there_heathe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf has a 3 year old son and he is going through the same thing. He will turn 4 in the summer as well. He has a bit of a mean streak in him too. He has good days and bad days.
My bf is a wonderful father and does discipline him and I think that is the most important. Sure they can have things when they are listening, but if they are not then they shouldn't be rewarded for that.
He is going to preschool which will prepare him for school and I think that will help him. I too think that would help your daughter.
2007-03-19 03:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Tabitha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain. I'm going through the same thing with my daughter. I so know that you cannot allow this to go on. There have to be clear consequences for not listening. And recognition when she does. Don't forget the positive. If it alleviates your concern any, my little girl is an absolute angel at school for her teacher. It's only at home that she misbehaves. She told me the other day it was because I trained her to be good in public. She's so funny.
2007-03-19 03:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I know they say "terrible two's"....what a joke!! 3 and 4 is SOOO much worse, at least in my experience! This is the time when you need to lay down the law! She is testing her boundries right now, and you need to set those limits, be firm and stick with them. This will set the tone for many years to come, and if you don't nip this in the bud now, look forward to a rude, disrespectful, and disobedient little girl when she gets older. It's doesn't get better either! Start the punishments now and stick with them...it's hard at first, but you will reap the rewards shortly after!
2007-03-19 03:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its just a stage they go through, they are growing up but sometimes the still want to be the baby, I think. my 3 year old is going through this too, she isnt an only child.
2007-03-19 04:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you need to put your foot down and let her know that she has to listen to mommy........when you feel she isn't listening stand in front of her and talk. Go down to her level and talk to her. If she still refuses a time out will do wonders.
2007-03-19 03:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
we also have a 3 yr old . and she also is goin thru that. itscalled horrible 3's terrible 2's and horrible 3's good luck.. just continue being the same good parent and u will be fine
god bless.
2007-03-19 03:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by c.c. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think its bad now. Wait till she's a teenager
2007-03-19 03:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by Bandit_ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋