I was talking to my friend and we got into the conversation about ligh skin and dark skin. He was saying how dark skin is your new light skin and I said not in my book because I am nore attracted to light skin guys. Then he asked me what if all light skin guys break my heart then what am I going to do? I tried to explain to him that I am more attracted to light skin guys then dark skin. I have dated a dark skin guy but it was because his personality was good which made me love him. But other than that the dark skin guy would have to be real fine for me to consider dating him. If I meet a light skin guy that personality I didnt like I wouldnt let it go any further but he didnt understand me he thought I said I would give any light skin guy a chance just because he is light skin. Then he said I was rascist and I dont like my own race( I am brown skin). I am not rascist it is just my preference to like light skin guys. Did I sound shallow or something? I dont think I still made my point.
2007-03-19 02:52:53 · 11 answers · asked by Ally R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It has nothing to do with colo but that is what I am attracted to. Then he said I should be attracted to the personality as well as them but I am trying to let him now that i want to be physically attracted to the person I am with as well as his personality. So looks would come first but it is not what I am basing a relationship on.
2007-03-19 02:58:45 · update #1
You go out with who you feel comfortable with and
who you find attractive, do not be influenced by
what other people say, if you want to date someone you do, what is good for one person is not good for another and beauty is in the eye of the beholder................................................................
2007-03-19 02:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by gorglin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not racist at all and your friend is an idiot for even vomiting the words. You are attracted to a certan body type... some people like red heads, some people like blonds, some people like dark skin, some people like light skin, its all just a matter of attraction. Example I will use myself. I was born blond hair blue eyes but have married a brunette with brown eyes... am I a racist cause I didnt marry a blue eyed blond? Dosent that sound stupid to call me a racist for marrying someone who dosent look like me. People are people... you are great, dont worry about what your friend thinks in this matter... you are not shallow, you have an attraction.
2007-03-19 17:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not quite, but racist is a term that is very easily dished out. You don't sound shallow, you were just honest about a subject its usually best to keep quiet about. That's just the way it is, you can't help who you're attracted to. People make a big deal about skin, but I'm not attracted to redheads. So what? Does that make me racist towards the irish or whatever? No, it just means its a physcal trait I don't like, same as a unibrow or a broken nose or whatever. You didn't make your point, but you weren't wrong.
2007-03-19 03:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Viv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of difficult to answer this question because alot of people don't really recognize the definition of the word racist. Yes, what you said was racist but at the same time it was based on your preferences. If you make a comment about someone or you have an opinion about someone or a preference about some group based upon skin complexion/race then you are a racist. That's not to say that you hate someone who is a different complexion or that you won't hang around them. It means that you have certain prejudices against them because of their skin (in this case the prejudice is that you would prefer not to date them). But we make those types of generalizations all of the time and they don't make us bad people in the eyes of society. We don't want to date people who look fat or who look really skinny. We don't want to date people who look old or young by our standards. So, as you can see alot of our decisions on who we will date are based on their physical appearance. To say that it is wrong for you to date someone based on their skin color is the same as saying that it's wrong to reject someone because of their weight or their hair/eye color, or their height. See what I mean? So if we don't want their to be discrimination because of skin color then we have to stop judging people by their looks...PERIOD. You aren't doing anything that millions of other people aren't doing. It's is sort of strange how you can separate the skin complexions within your own race into different categories though. If a "white" man or a light complexioned African American man that you liked said that he wouldn't date you because you were too "black" how would you feel? Is that racist?
*You should think about what influenced you to have the 'personal opinon' that you have (television, friends, family etc.). You may very well have some issues with your own complexion like alot of people do. Anytime that you would rather not date someone because their skin is the color of yours then you have a problem. Your "personal prefernces" don't just come out of no where. They probably came from all of the glorification of lighter complexioned people in tv. Think about it.
2007-03-19 03:08:09 · answer #4 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
the fact that you are breaking up your own race into three different catagories is mind boggling....and shallow/racist....i am white...if I chose a light skinned person over a dark skinned person, I would never hear the end of it. probably be brought up on charges too....what happened to color not mattering? and they aren't light skinned, brown, skinned or dark skinned, they are african american. period. you are segregating your own kind.
2007-03-19 02:59:51 · answer #5 · answered by in2one 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, your not racist. Now if your refused to date guys that wen't light skinned then you would be. It's ok to have a preference, everyone does and you like what you like.
2007-03-19 02:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by godessmeka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not racist. Its what you're attracted to. Whats the difference between that, and say, someone being more attracted to brunettes than blondes?
2007-03-19 02:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by Stefanie B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I prefer dark but not too dark skinned mexican guys. i don't think i am racist to each their own. but i have dated black white and brown...i like them all. but i finded myself way more attracted to brown..
2007-03-19 02:58:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not shallow. You liek what you like. Some men only like blonds and some only brunets. It is the same difference. You friend is just insecure.
2007-03-19 03:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Everyone has their own preferences.
2007-03-19 03:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋