This story is gonna make me look bad but, I need help... Ok. The first Guy is a ex of mine that has been back in life for weeks now. When I first went out with him I cheated I only cheated cause I didn't wanna lose the other guy(R) as a friend.. he said to me that if we weren't together he didn't wanna ever talk to me again. My Boyfriend(A) found out from the other guys friend so we broke up .. got back together broke up again I ended it with the other guy(R).. and this one guy(D) asked me out I was still waiting for my ex(A) to come back to me again.. I finally gave into the other guy(D). So we started dating everything was perfect I wasn't cheating until my ex(A) came back recently. I started spending a lot of time with him so now I'm cheating with on my current bf(D) with my ex bf(A). My heart has always belonged to (A) it still does but, I also Love (D) a lot.. the thought of losing either of them kills me.... I Love them so much.. Plz don't judge me -.- I know im a bad person
2007-03-19 02:49:23 · 14 answers · asked by H3artBaby <3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah (A) knows I'm with (D) he knew when we first started this. (A) has been treating me bad lately but, I think its only cause I'm still with (D).. He said to me yesterday "your different".."in a bad way".." (D) must be treating you wrong" (D) does like to play with my emotions when I tell him I don't like something he does it right after I just told him. He says hes just joking around but, the joking around hurts and when I tell him that he feels like he is a screw up so I then forget about the problem and tell him its ok your not a screw up. It's always like that when theres a problem I just drop it cause I don't like him feeling bad. More about (A) I think he reacts on things before thinking about it. He was hurting so he said mean stuff to hurt me which I understand and have questioned him about but, it still bothers me a lot. I'm trying to forget it but its hard. Even thou he tells me he didn't mean those things.
2007-03-19 20:04:27 · update #1
(A) makes me feel safe he stands up for me.. (D) doesn't really do that, his friend has messed with me a few times and he really didn't do much about it. (D) makes me feel like he will love me no matter what.. also he has told me that he has been cheated on 20+ times and his last girlfriend broke up with him to go to her ex and get married. I don't wanna be like those other girls but, I guess I already am since I'm cheating on him with (A). (D) hasn't been around for 3 days and I've been with (A) but, I don't know how I can make up my mind when (D) isn't around its not giving me time to be with him so I can judge how much I wanna be with him.. I don't know if that makes sense. When I'm with (D) I feel like all I am is (D's) Girl all my friends are his friends now so if I ended things with him I pretty much lose everyone. My heart loves (A) but, I'm not sure if he will love me no matter what.. so confused and so tired so many thoughts going thru my head.
2007-03-19 20:13:56 · update #2
Apart of me wants to just keep going on like I am but, I know if I do. I'll get caught or (A) will start hating me for still being with (D).
2007-03-19 20:22:38 · update #3
To :
Excuse me who said I was having sex with any of them ? I'm not going to have sex with anyone until I pick one person to be with.. Quick to judge aren't we ? ..
2007-03-24 06:53:11 · update #4
^^^^^^ above is to : Claudia G.
2007-03-24 06:55:28 · update #5
You're not a bad person - just confused, I'd say. :-) that's ok!
I understand what you're saying...but the harsh reality is, if you don't decide between them - it's most likely you'll end up losing both in the end. Does (A) know about (D)?
It seems to me all along that you're more attached to (A) - and although it's hard...it might be best to accept that any other relationship with anyone else will be unable to work - your heart is with (A) - and although you feel for (D), you're not as in love...and that's ok. Plus - you only really cheated on (A) to keep friend (R) happy - which is particularly (R's) fault - he should've, as a good friend, accepted you couldn't be with him and dealt with it - not tried to coerce you into it.
My reaction ultimately is to choose in this case - I know it's hard, but you might have to...or risk losing both...and I'm inclined to say (A) is the choice...after all, you'd quite possibly still be with him if it wasn't for (R)!
Good luck - I'm happy to help if you want more help - so please do email me!
2007-03-19 02:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to feel pretty bad about all of this which says that you really need to follow your heart. Cheating is stressful enough (always having to worry if they know, racing and sneaking back n forth, not much fun, really).
You say you love them, then let one of them go by telling the truth. Tell the one who you choose to stay with after you say goodbye, and you might have a better chance at being forgiven. Remember "Carma". This could really come back at you later in a way that you could never even imagine.
At least by being honest, you can finally have that weight lifted off of your shoulders. The longer you weight, the worse it gets. Be the "good person", and know that in 5 years from now you will at least know that you did the right thing!
2007-03-19 03:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U told me tht ur heart is still in love wth A.may b he is is ur Ex byfrnd bt he is ur Frst love.as per U told.after A u make few frnds.B,,,,,,C,,,,,,D,,,, may be E F G H xyz.unlimited.
Dont worry abt B C D byfrnds.
If A lovs U really thn no bdy else can harm U.
dont worry abt B C D E F etc etc.
Go back wth A ur Xbyfrnd.
2007-03-19 03:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Mahesh Choudhary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad person? I don't think so., you obviously haven't read my replies! Anyway, With all the diseases around, your behaving very foolishly! Why not just back off on both these clowns, and get your bearings. See, if you had someone like me, this nonsense would not happen, I would be everything you need, in and out of the bedroom. But your too late, I'm taken!!!!!!
2007-03-19 09:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how that fells I am in love with 2 guys as well so my bes answer is if R really likes you he wouldn't make you choose like that make a list of likes and don't likes and who ever has the most likes is the guy you should try
2007-03-19 02:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by spawnof_thedevil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you did not kno what 2 do it would not hurt
but now i think u kno
follow your heart
if they r not the right guys
or u pick the wrong one
your Mr right will come 1 day
dont worry
its all a test
2 c how strong u really r
make the choice now or ull lose both
2007-03-19 02:55:56 · answer #6 · answered by rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre a w*hore and dont love anybody but yourself. whats happening here is that u cant keep ur legs close!! dont go crying when u find out that ur (a) bf is tired of u n decides to not ever talk to u again cuz ure a w*hore!1 stop being one !!
2007-03-24 05:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by claudia g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. better have 3 some
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2016-10-19 01:50:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you ever had sex with any of them <<<< whom did u enjoy more with ??? this will give u the answer
2007-03-19 23:10:34 · answer #10 · answered by Vikrant K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋