i'v been seeing him for two weeks he wants use to sleep together i want to but scared he will dump me any help would be most appreciated .
2007-03-19 02:44:24 · 25 answers · asked by sarah 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The Lady Rule!
You have to wait a month this will tell you if he's just dating you for a shag or is really interested in you plus he wont think your easy if you make him wait a month, most guys get put off if a girl drops them too quick, it's like they will never respect you if this is going to be a long term thing get to know him first before you do anything with him, if he doesn't wait then he's a losser and will never have a nice girl, then you will have found out what he is really after . Good Luck! do it when your ready .
2007-03-19 03:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by suzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only been seeing him for two weeks, this is too soon to decide if an intimate relationship with him is what you want. Appears as if this is all he is out to get. Be careful, as you said, you might just be out to use you and will dump you afterwards. If he continues to put pressure on you for sex, then this should tell you something. He is only looking out for his best interest and not yours. A girl risks more than a guy does by having sex, even if it is protected sex. Do what is right for you and do not let anyone tell you different. If he really cares about you then he should respect your decision. Hope you really think about what I have said, or I am afraid you will be hurt later. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-19 10:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is willing to dump you for not sleeping with him, he will find some other reason to dump you if you do sleep with him, so make sure you do what you want.
If he dumps you for refusing to sleep with him, it means he doesn't respect you or like you - and you don't really want to be in that sort of relationship do you?
I think 2 weeks is far too early for him to be putting this pressure on you - I wouldn't be ready after 2 weeks. Are you?
2007-03-19 09:47:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think he'll dump you? When he says he wants to sleep with you how does he ask?
If he's getting moody about you not sleeping with him then I'd say he's not worth it because anyone who really cares about you will let you take your time until you feel ready.
How old are you? You should never feel pressured into sleeping with someone. Never - not matter how old you are. Just tell him that you don't feel ready yet and if he's understanding and lets you set the pace then it's pretty unlikely he'll leave you. If he gets angry and frustrated then it's pretty likely he just sees you as someone he wants to get his leg over and that's never good.
2007-03-19 09:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by lollysarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think he will dump you after sleeping with you?
is it because you think he just wants you for sex, in which case I would tell him to f**k off and not even entertain the thought off sex with somebody after only one thing.
Or is it because maybe he is more experienced then you and will not be impressed, either way I do not think you should be sleeping with somebody who would treat you like this.
But maybe speak with him first and see how he feels, if he says sex is not important, why not stay with him longer but keep you clothes on and your self respect, any man who really like you will like you with or with out sex.
If you are unsure then just say no, it is your body and you should not be guilt ed into anything you do not want to do or are worried about.
I hope everything goes well, what every you decide.
2007-03-19 09:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by Loader2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old you are really......the older you are the shorter amount of time it usually is before it feels right to sleep together....if you want to sleep with him and the only thing that is stopping you is the thought he might dump you, then I think he isn't boyfriend material......
2007-03-19 11:54:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little like you are not ready to sleep with him, this is fine, you should only sleep with him when you fee; ready, you will know when the time is right it will just happen naturaly. You need to establish some trust in this new relationship before you proceed, then you will know if he is just with you for sex or with you because he wants to be.
2007-03-19 09:52:52 · answer #7 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shud make him wait. its the only way u'll eva kno if he really likes u rather than jst wants u 4 1 thing. and if hes a decent bloke he'll respect ur decision and happily wait. in fact he shud respect u as a woman a whole lot more, knowin that u dnt jst put out afta a few weeks. it doesnt mean 2 say u cnt do otha things tho...x
2007-03-19 10:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by debs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say that you do not have the emotional connection needed for a healthy sex life with him...It may be in your best interest to dump him, if you can not sway him to hold off.
2007-03-19 09:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by Sierah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your on the pill,old enough and take precautions,its up to you,ok he might just want sex and then dump you,you dont sound experienced enough to have it and then dump him ,although if its good why dump anyone,by the sound of it you are a youngster,so dont do it ,save yourself for mr right,and if he is mr right he will respect that.
2007-03-19 10:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by rebel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋