I got exited when think of sex with him, but when i stay with him...i cant get exited...why like this? He reacts very quick...........this is becoz? He is my husband, we married secretly for last 3 years.He is 8 years older than me, I am 19 he is 27...he says, u r kid so cant feel it right now(i didnt tell him that I can feel him when he doesnt stay around me!)...
2007-03-19 02:38:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"HE is quick" means, he get active very quick.....kissing, hugging and all that. But, as i dont feel a little bit exitment, it hurt me all the time...
2007-03-19 02:40:24 · update #1
I'll tell you what; he doesn't want to please you it seems. He only cares about his own excitement. I'd take a divorce. No. Actually I wouldn't ever get married to a person like this. That wouldn't be love -it would be lust. And it looks like it's over now -at least for him.
Seriously I don't want to make you feel bad, but which faithful and good husband would talk like this???
He's 8 years older, he should be feeling responsible, show you the way to "feel it"! Not enjoy feeling it himself!
2007-03-19 02:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by moulin.rouge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say most of the time if you don't like having sex with a guy its his fault... there may be exterior symtoms like dryness or tightness but most of the time he just isn't the best lover in the world, maybe he doesn't understand the emotional build up women need to enjoy the moment, even though you may want to have sex with him when he isn't around that doesn't help if he doesn't know what he is doing on your behalf, sadly some men are arrogant or take it personally when they hear something like this and may even accuse you of having something wrong with you physically, and unless they are your doctor i would seriously disregard these comments, don't tell him he is bad in bed or doesn't know what he is doing NEVER EVER DO THAT especially if you love him and he is your husband, at this point your age probably has nothing to do with it, most men tend to think that the younger and more inexeperienced a woman is that therefore she should be easier to please, this is not the case infact it is more like the opposite the more experienced a woman is that typically means she knows what to do to get the most out of the worst lover and he'll never know... my suggestion is you find some romance books and sex education books that you enjoy and suggest to him that you read them together tell him that you would like him to try taking more time on you with foreplay and examples of other things you would like to try with him, when he finally starts to figure out how to turn you on in the moment let him know ex:"OMG THAT was sooo sexy, you should do that more often" don't let him talk down to you because you are younger than him learn how to treat him with respect while training him to do what you like its a win win, and remember NO ONE should have to grit their teeth during sex its supposed to be fun
2007-03-19 10:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by sparks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's right you are just a kid who is having to deal with adult issues and I think he's taking advantage of you. He's playing with your mind and using you as a toy. I think you might want to rethink this through. What are you getting out of this? Did you know that your marriage might not even be legal since you were a minor? I Bet He Does........
2007-03-19 09:48:03 · answer #3 · answered by loving U 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to slow him down, he should know this. or better yet show how you want it and take control, shove his face where you want it and grab what you to grab.. hmm control doesnt sound to bad
2007-03-19 09:48:04 · answer #4 · answered by chemreaction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start without him first and then when he get started you will already be there (wet).
2007-03-19 09:47:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋