6 years ago the love of my life left me. I thought I was grand for years, having other relationships and maintaining my friendship with her. I'm single at the momont. I was out drinking with her last night catching up. I feel really stupid today because last night I told her things like how I still really loved her, how I'm not sure we can be friends any more, that kind of stuff - basically I bared all. Now I feel down and like I'm an idiot. I'm also really annoyed at myself for having these feelings because she left me and I feel like I should hate her but I can't no matter how hard I try.......... Really feel like I messed up, any ideas on what I should do or how to proceed?
2007-03-19 02:38:16 · 19 answers · asked by T M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She is living with and engaged to the guy she left me for! See what I mean? Idiot....
2007-03-19 02:38:51 · update #1
Get some self respect and find someone else..i bet she is sitting at home with this guy and they are both laughing at you.
2007-03-23 01:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is...what was she doing seeing you when she lives with someone else.
I feel sad for you that you still have these strong feeling for her. I think you should stop seeing her because all the time you are still seeing her it means you live in hope of a reconciliation.
You are no idiot. You sound like a nice man.
If she left you and still is with this other bloke then you must move on for your sake.
you deserve to find love again with someone who is free.
You let down your guard with her. Nothing too wrong with that coz at least she knows.
Ring her and tell her you cant see her anymore it's just too painful.
that way she can decide what she want...you or him.
2007-03-19 09:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you did the right thing. What you said may have made her think that you are the love of her life. But what if you never said it & years down the line she says the same and that time wasted. No idea how to proceed, but take it one day & at a time, read (takes your mind of things) and try to always have something planned for weekend.
2007-03-19 16:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We are all fools for love at some point. You can look at it this way, she knows. Maybe it will bring something about or maybe not. But either way, she does not marry the other guy without knowing that you still have feelings for her.
Maybe this is the event that you need to move on completely.
Good luck and I hope you find your soul mate. She is out there.
2007-03-19 09:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tired Momma 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude you can't change what you said so stand by it. It sounds like it will not work with the two of you. But if she brings it up simply tell her that, that is how you feel. That you still care about her. That you know it will not work between the to of you and that you just want her to be happy. Because if you real love someone you have to love them and let them go, if they are not in love with you.
2007-03-19 09:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by burn409 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
tm, i am so sorry for you,but how can you be friends with her for so long,i am not saying you should hate,but should have kept away from her. thank god you told me ,other wise i think you would have gone and blessed her marriage too i beleive.you are not messed up,all you did was tell her how much she means to you,straight from your heart thats all.you are a clean guy ,she is the looser,not you.cheer up, but don't rush into a nother relationship.sooner there will be a true angel waiting on your doorstep,i bet.wanna have a drink with me....cheers
2007-03-19 10:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by alec. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you were really drunk and sorry that your tongue ran away from you. Tell her you once proposed to one of your exes while out and that you're really sorry about last night (yeah, thats a lie, but say it, lol) . You could also claim you don't remember much of what you said either, and ask if you said anything out of line. That way she will tell you what she thought too!! Very sneaky eh? Tell her you wish her the best with her fiance and hope she doesn't take what you said to heart. If she is engaged and broke up with you, she probably doesn't want to rekindle old flame. If she is interested, she will voice that opinion while you apologize for being drunk. KWIM?
2007-03-19 09:45:05 · answer #7 · answered by TrixyLoo 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Baby, I know it's hard but you need to move on. I am friends with many of my ex-s but that's because they were mutual agreements. If an ex of mine left me for another girl or cheated on me I would never be able to forgive them or even talk to them. Use that as a stepstool in getting over her. She never deserved you! What has been her trash is another woman's treasure...don't forget that. Good Luck Sweetie!
2007-03-19 09:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by flctya 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like you never really got over her. If there is no way you two are ever going to get back together, then you are going to have to let her go, distance yourself and get over it. If her happiness is important to you then you will have to do this, if not for you for her. Not an easy position to be in, and you have clearly realised your mistakes from the past, just learn from this for your next relationship.
2007-03-19 09:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't mess up and don't feel foolish, all you did was tell the truth!!! Honesty is a rare quality, and you should be proud of it.
i think you need to forget her and move on, what you said to her may make her think twice about why she dumped you.
Maybe the things you said will give you closure and now you will feel ready to move on. Go for it.
2007-03-19 09:45:38 · answer #10 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋