My ex fiance and I are still pretty good friends. were on good terms. I texted her on friday about getting some from one of the girls I met. and then i said somthing, i don't remember, but i think she may have took it as me hitting on her. I said "don't worry i wasn't trying to hit on you. I'm not interested in you like that anymore" I really am though. i love her still and i won't be over it for a long time. I mean thats why i asked her to marry me. I thought i was done looking anyways she said "its cool" and then i said "I hope you feel better, Good Night :)" and she said "thanks", is she still interested and just putting up a front for me? we have talked about us and she said "i wont get back together with you" "im tired of repeating myself", I mean I get that, and also she filled out a survey on myspace, it said "are you in love" she said "no" i guess i just would like to sort this whole thing out. if you want the whole story just message me.
2007-03-19 02:35:25 · 16 answers · asked by Deformation Age 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok...heres the deal u need to have a face to face talk with her if u already have and all she says is 'im sick of repeating my self' try this dont jump in talking about oh i really want to get back with u ..and we were so goood together start of by telling her some of the good times u had {if any} let here remeber that what-eva mistake u made that makes her dislike u soo much u will change go on a more peddy note she might not say yes that night but atleast u gave her something to think about the rest of the day or night maybe she will call u back maybe she wont if she does then i am soooooo happy for u but if she dosent then plezzz try to move on ok find someone else ........there are plenty of women out there why stick on one who dosen't want u ?
2007-03-19 02:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by Video Phone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take what she says to heart. She doesn't want to get back with you... As painful as that may seem, it is probably true and she may be feeling irritated that you are insisting on telling her of your latest adventures.
Take a break from her and don't tell her any more of your latest conquests. If she is interested in you, she will pursue you! If you want to leave the door open, then do so... However I would move on with my life and see what else is out there.
You won't find out if you are still emotionally attached and that isn't fair to you or the new people you meet!
Good luck! :)
2007-03-19 09:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by ivy9toes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your still having feelings for her. However, hold on to your dignity and see this for what it is. Be honest with yourself. She seems to have made herself pretty clear. It sounds like it's just a matter of your accepting that it is over. As tough as it might be, maybe you should back off from your "friendship" with her for a while as well. Get some perspective by living life without her. Mentally you'll be in a much clearer, healthier place.
Stop looking for/grasping at little things looking for meaning.
Date around, meet some new people...you'll find someone you like, and who likes you back.
2007-03-19 09:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we can't really tell you how she feels because we do not know her & she does not talk to us, but if you were to take everything she's said & assume it is all true it would seem she really isn't interested anymore.
Strong feelings for someone never really go away, but you'll find someone to make you forget about it. Someone better who will give you everything you want from a relationship with a woman. I know you probably want to be with her again, but if she were to get back with you based on what you want then she would probably wind up being miserable. If she really matters to you then you will want her to be happy. you have to let her go & move on... If she comes back to you one day, great. For now you need to focus on making yourself happy because she has moved on. You should move on too.
best of luck to you!
2007-03-19 09:41:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop contacting her. You are only tormenting youself. If she wants to be with you and if she is interested in you, she will contact you. And, when and if she does contact you---and you are NOT with another, ask her if she is interested in seeing you. If she says that she isn't, ask her why she has called, answer her question and make the conversation short. She is just stringing you along otherwise. If you are seeing another, ask her why she is contacting you--if it is relationship oriented, then tell her you are seeing someone. You need to move on.
2007-03-19 09:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to stop the chase. She said it's done and you need to let her know she's not going to pull your strings anymore. Sure all women like to keep men on a tight rope but in this case there is nothing in it for you.
2007-03-19 09:41:24 · answer #6 · answered by loving U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the text-messaging down -- and have a face to face meeting with her -- not aggressive - just friendly -- Invite her to dinner. Talk - and then you will have a better idea- one way or the other. The text messaging will never give you the clue you are looking for
2007-03-19 09:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by me 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing to sort out. The two of you are Done. I know it hurts, and it will take some time getting used to. Don't torture yourself , she is moving on and so should you.
2007-03-19 09:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know...if she's not in love, doesn't want to be with you anymore and doesn't want to keep repeating herself...you kind of need to actively try to move on.
2007-03-19 09:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be driving yourself crazy. You seem like a sensible dude. I just think you should move on though.
2007-03-19 09:41:54 · answer #10 · answered by Solar Ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋