O.K My girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago. She gave pretty feeble excuses, and we had been dating for a year. I had no contact whatsoever with her, until she asked the other day if i would mind going for a drink with her as friends. I went along...we just argued...and she spent the whole time telling me about some new guy she liked...i stupidly admitted i loved her, and said that this whole friends thing wasnt working, and i walked out of the room. So every day since, I get texts saying how hurtful she was,sorry,& could we be friends.i ignored her.she then asks my friends have they seen me today cos she's worried about me!Anyway,yest i had enough,& textd her back saying that she hurt me 2much & to leave me alone,i said u've moved on,so should i.anyway,she replied saying she still has feelings 4me,& misses parts of our relationship,but doesnt want to date again.i've agreed to meet her 4drink 2moro, but what do i say or do!!!!
2007-03-19 02:32:24 · 22 answers · asked by dafadf a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Camel toe is right move on she is playing games
2007-03-19 02:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cut off all contact now. You don't deserve that and you will find something better. The whole friend thing after a relationship doesn't work until both of your feelings are gone. That's only when you guys can be friends. So now, just ignore her and stay away. Do things that will make you happy and find someone else.
2007-03-19 02:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by Super Haitian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back out of your date to have drinks with her. Tell her you think it would be best NOT to meet for drinks anymore. "Just being friends" after you have had an intimate relationship with someone rarely works out. Refuse to see her or have anything to do with her from now on. She's just playing games with your head, and if she had ANY respect for your feelings, she would not do this. Sounds to me like she just wants to keep you around (at her convenience) in case things don't work out with the new boyfriend. Don't tell her you love her because then she knows you will always come running back to her in a weak moment, and this is what she is counting on. Cut all contact with her and move on; if you don't you will just keep setting yourself up for her to hurt you over and over again. Don't give her that opportunity.
2007-03-19 02:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by BRIAN W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely it extremely is not stable for you or her. i won't inform you what to do in basic terms, morally talking, you may communicate along with her, tell her the way you sense, come sparkling. The least you will gain is being guilt loose. on the different hand, you're fortunate to have some one like that by your area. have faith me, some one as defined like her does not come frequently, i'm 25 & i comprehend ! in case you sense there is any hazard to develop issues, attempt it (no longer meaning sexually). The extra you men do issues mutually, the extra you men communicate and stumble on into each and every others concepts, your emotions the two this way or that, gets extra suited. If I have been you, i does not breakup along with her. Its a undemanding fact which you would be extra pleased with a individual who loves you extra suitable than you do, in the long-term. yet attempt giving back, your sort of feeling can not be healthful for this relationship. Oh one extra ingredient, don't get so desperate or hopeless than one high quality day you curse those sort of knowledge over her over a combat .......... that must be aweful, loss of life of what might have been some thing which countless us long for & deserve. stable good fortune
2016-10-02 09:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by thao 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her you will not be there and continue to ignore her. This is the same crap my ex husband does to me, he left me for another woman but continues to harrass me and want to know where I am and who I am with and crap like that. He has been gone since Oct and I have just now finally gotten the smarts to tell him to leave me alone and that I dont want anything to do with him that doesn't pertain to our kids. My life has been a lot more peaceful since! Its all a mind game on the other parties part, they want to keep tabs on you so that if the new relationship doesnt work they can come back! Do not leave yourself open to that, find someone else or enjoy being single its your option BUT do NOT let her keep you on a short chain!
2007-03-19 02:39:47 · answer #5 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your were right on when you text her and told her how she hurt you too much, telling her she moved on, so should you and for her to leave you alone. Appears as if she was feeling insecure of your feelings for her and she broke up to see how you would react. When you did not call her for two weeks she called to invite you for a drink. Her way of hurting you by talking about another guy was a way for her to see how you would react, to see if you cared. Her behaviour in itself is of a immature, insecure girl, who played with your emotions to validate her power in the relationship. Insecure people constantly try to finds ways to make them feel secure. She wanted you to beg her, this would have validated your love for her. Although I can understand how her insecurity feelings led her to behave as she did, good thing you did not give her the reaction she wanted from you, or she would have grown to disrespect you. Do not reward negative behaviour, only positive behaviour if you want people to treat you with respect. Talk to your girl, tell her you love her but if she chooses to move on then you will have no choice but to accept this. This way, she will learn that playing with your emotions is not gonna get her what she wants. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-19 02:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, up untill the time you agreed to meet her again, you were doing fine. If I was you, I would cut off all contact with her. I definatly wouldnt meet her. Why ? Because she has clearly shown that (1) She has no real respect for you AND (2) She's a user.
2007-03-19 02:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a period of seperation before a romantic couple can establish the 'just friends' status and your girlfriend may be pushing things along due to her own guilt. If you're not comfortable proceeding at this point it's okay to tell her that you need time. Be firm in what you want to see happen. It's hurtful to you to have to spend time with her at this point and it's not fair that she has involved your common friends. Tell her that you're okay, that you don't hate her, but need time for yourself to regain your equaliberium. I can understand why you feel this way and it'll take time to sort out your feelings. No need to torture yourself.
2007-03-19 02:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I just would not show up. Let her know how it feels to be hurt. Why the hell would she meet you and tell you about her new man when she knows that you still love her. That is cold hearted. Or maybe you should show up with a date. Good luck!
2007-03-19 02:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by angie a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You love her, but she can't give you an accurate reason on why she broke up with you. Perhaps it's the new guy,love hurts, move on, someday you will find someone who won't play head games with you and will love you back the way you deserved to be loved.
2007-03-19 02:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by bedfordfalls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go! She has moved on and you havent you still love her. That wasnt stupid on your part and you were totally right when you said the friends thing wasnt working. Its not going to. In order to move on your going to have to stop seeing her. Its just going to hurt you being with her knowing she has moved on and your in love with her. She should respect that and back off.
2007-03-19 02:38:58 · answer #11 · answered by i♥Y!answers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋