Do you believe in spanking your child?

Question

I do.I think you have to break a childs spirit before you can teach them the way they should go
Break them down then build them up.
If not they end up with tatoos and percings.

Answer 1

Green,

Did you know that every time a person gets a tattoo, an Angel is executed in heaven?

Kudos to you for bringing this topic to light. Once you break down the beginning sinner, you can build them back up in the gospel.

Amen

Amen

Answer 2

I believe in tailoring the discipline to what works for the child. I do believe in spanking if it is a deterrent for the child. So far, in parenting my three children (7, 2 and 1), I've found that it doesn't always work. Time outs and taking away privileges work better for my seven-year-old where a spanking would no longer be effective. However, if my two-year-old continues to reach for the oven when it's on and nothing else gets his attention, then a spanking can be an effective tool.
By the way - I think you're misguided on the discipline issue - a parent or care-giver's job is to shape a child's spirit, not break it. Discipline is not something that you use to punish, it is something you use to teach. The end result of discipline - whether it be spanking, timeout, etc. - should be teaching your child an important lesson that will be a benefit for them in the future. Spanking for any other purpose is just an outlet for your own anger and aggression, your child won't get anything out of it but a sore backside.

Answer 3

Well, we don't have children yet, but yes, I do believe in spanking, but only if absolutely necessary, and NEVER with a belt or anything like that.
I also believe that a child should NEVER receive more swats than their age (two swats for a two year old, three for a three year old, et cetera), and no child over the age of ten should need a spanking.
I was spanked as a child. I am not a violent person, I'm respectful of others, and I NEVER misbehaved in public. Well, maybe once, but after receiving a spanking in public, I never did it again. And I only ever threw a temper tantrum once.
I don't believe in "breaking a child's spirit." I believe that after ANY punishment, it's necessary for the parent to make sure the child knows WHY they were disciplined, and the parent ALSO needs to let their child know that they punished them because they LOVE them.
I don't believe that spanking should be the ONLY form of punishment. Time-outs can be used in many cases (except for direct disobedience and anything that can harm the child, such as sticking something in an electrical socket), and restriction can be used later.
Let the punishment fit the crime.

Each child is different though. Some children don't NEED to be spanked. Others do. I've known many children of each kind.

Answer 4

Too many parents punish instead of teach, and to discipline means to teach!

I have never struck a child, and I never will. Contrary to popular belief, two-year-olds can be reasoned with! Not that they will always understand completely but it' a start. It compares to language skills, at two, they can say some words, but understand many more.

It takes much more time and effort the spanking. It's called being a parent

Why would anyone think it's a good idea to break a child's spirit? Any action that does so is absolutely abusive!

Answer 5

There is a difference between spanking, hitting and beating. With my daughter (now age 23) she was spanked , but only as a last resort. I would try different methods of discipline first. One should never break the spirit of a child. A child is a gift from God, given to you to raise, and to raise them so that they become productive members of society, that has a love for God and family. If one breaks the spirit of a child, you have broken that child, spiritually and mentally. My daughter came to me about a year ago and thanked me and her dad for the way she was raised. And I asked her what made her do this, and she said there are so many people that have no manners,spoiled rotton, no respect for anyone including themselves, rude and intolerant and just plain hateful. She said that we showed her the proper way of living in this life and that the way she was disciplined she was not spoiled, she was thankful and greatful for all we had done and do for her, she said she see's so many people her age that treat their parents like dirt, and that they are so spoiled if they dont get their way in things they throw tantrums like 2 year olds.
Discipline should be done with love and understanding. Showing the child the right way to go, talking with them about why they were disciplined and always tell them you love them. We have such a wonderful relationship with our daughter, we talk about everything, nothing was ever hidden from her and we were and are very open and honest with her. She knew and knows she can come to us for anything and talk about anything.

Answer 6

While I disagree fully with your philosophy on the matter, I believe that a meaningful swat on the butt or slap of the hand can be a useful teaching method during ages where reason is not fully developed, or, when the situation is an emergency. For example, if a four year old was about to stick a paperclip in an overlooked power outlet, I would smack his/her hand immediately, with the full intent of causing a sharp sting -- far better the sharp sting than the electrocution. By associating this pain with this action, the child is less likely to learn the hard way the full scope of pain that can be caused by this behavior.

One strike, possibly two if the child is persistant, is all that is ever called for. The traditional 10 licks or 20 licks, or the use of a twig/branch/stick/whatever, is entirely uncalled for.

The idea is not to break the child but to associate a lesser pain with a behavior than the behavior might otherwise cause.

Answer 7

Not in most cases; but there are times where physical punishment is appropriate.. ...most notably when they're not listening and their own (or someone else's) well being is at risk. Unfortunately, speaking from experience, a child will not always listen to you; no matter how nice a tone you use; or even if you raise your voice and sound 'serious.' However, a child is not a Marine boot camp recruit and the objective is to not break them down; but to foster a close and loving relationship that is built on trust.

Answer 8

lol In what generation did you grow up in?That sounds like something my mother would say.She's 66.There's nothing wrong with tattoos and piercings.In my opinion.I know allot of people that have them.I myself don't have any,other than the good old fashioned ear piercings.And,I wont allow my kids to have any while they live under my roof.That doesn't make anyone a bad person because of their outside appearance.Everyone has the right to do what they want to with their appearance.Were all different and thank God we all look different.Ever heard of the saying"It's what's on the inside that counts"But,yes I believe that when kids need it they should know they're going to get their butt whipped.I have 3 and can count one hand how many times I've whipped all of them over the yrs.If you let them know who the boss is and that they need to follow you're rules when they're young,and you teach them right.When they get older they tend not to do things to get a whipping.

Answer 9

Spanking....yes, breaking down their spirit.....NO! The purpose of spanking is not to break down their spirit, but to let them know that if you do that again, this is what will happen!

Unfortunately, some people don't know the difference between spanking and abuse, and it is a very thin line.

Have you ever watched the Maury show, where the teenagers are on there telling their parents to "shut the f*ck up", and "kiss my a$$, b*tch", etc........Those are the "time out" kids who never got spanked!

Knowing that momma would put her foot in your a$$ will make you think twice about doing certain things and acting a certain way!

Answer 10

what do you mean,break them down?
you sound like a menacing nun.
You dont need to break a child down to teach them disipline and manners.
All you have to do is correct your child when they are wrong,show them the correct way whether that be behaviour,talking etc.
I think some disipline must be confronted but your child must also learn right from wrong sometimes by themselves so they know the dangers.
I dont think its fair or good parenting to smack your child in the face or head,spanking when needed with control from the parent wont do any harm,i didnt do me any harm.
Whats wrong with tattoo's and piercings?
I have 2 tattoo's and my ears pierced,that doesnt mean i was neglected as a child.
Maybe you should think about how a child thinks and what would benefit them before you try and 'break their spirit' after all,a childs spirit is what makes them unique,,innocent until some low life gets their claws on them

Answer 11

I was given many spankings as a child and I'm not damaged at all and nor do I feel fear for my parents. Since I survived the belt from my mom and my dad's hand then I'm sure my children will too.
My mom and dad only spanked us (my siblings and I) only after they had told us about 3 or 4 times to stop what we were doing and when we didn't... ouch!
My siblings, friends who were spanked, and I laugh about it today. I remember one night we stayed up and told each other stories of being spanked. It was a hilarious night.

Beating the child and breaking their spirit (which is so wrong) is very different from being spanked by the way. My parents didn't break my spirit at all. Even after the spankings, I didn't hate my parents or wanted to run away. In fact, I remained the same happy child that I was with just more knowledge on not to do that particular act again.

Edit:
I read one comment that your a bad parent if you spank your child. FYI, my parents are not bad! I feel blessed that they are my parents and I don't mind the fact that I was spanked as a child. For instance, in my family we like to joke and laugh about it now. One of us would begin, "Mom, do you remember you spanked so and so for doing this?" and laugh about it. Every family is different and my parents are good parents! I resent that remark!