Is it normal to feel this way?

Question

During the last 2 weeks I just don't enjoy my husband much. Everything he does is getting on my nerves, he is acting very immature and annoying. Do married couples go through fazes where they just don't like their spouse much? (He appears to feel the same way about me.) What can I do to get out of this funk and bring some life into this frazzled marriage?

Answer 1

Don't worry about it, all couples go through this, in a few days he will do something that will remind you why you love him and why you decided to marry him

Answer 2

I have had the same issue. Sometimes its because we've been together too much and sometimes it's because I have not seen him at all. I think it's totally normal. If it went on for a long period of time and it's getting worse then I would try and talk to some one about it. Try and talk to him or get some time together doing something that you both really love. That way you know you will both be in a good mood and in turn enjoy each others company. Try to make him understand how you are feeling and try to find out why he feels that way too. Than you can both work on it and move forward. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I am wondering how long you've been married.
I think that most marriges go through these periods-its normal.
You need to get some magic back.What about trying a new activity together-even something simple.
Another idea is when the home life is boring spice up the home.How about re-doing some of the house.Not only will it freshen things up but working together on it can be fun and funny! A fresh environment can work really well

Answer 4

Change the routine a bit. It just needs a boost from time to time and changing a routine a little is one of the best ways!

Find some things you like to do - away from him. Absence does make the heart grow fonder, and if you're spending too much time together, you could be growing a little bored with the same old - same old. The problem within marriages is that people tend to think they'll take care of themselves and all we have to say is 'I DO'. When they don't - we get disillusioned. It doesn't run by itself, so try to think of some things that will add some new dimensions and get it back on track.

Answer 5

Yes, these phases are normal. It's usually due to stress in other areas of your life (work, money problems, etc.) and the spouse just gets the fallout. It's during these times that you must either make extra effort to be loving or be extra attentive so that you can see real problems in the relationship (I recommend both). Your relationship will be stronger if you get through this.

Answer 6

Could be some astrological stuff going on which is causing the two of you to temporarily have some negative "synastry". Two weeks is a bit brief to make a decision about whether or not something is 'over' or just hitting a few bumps in the road. Time reveals everything. Anyway, the most important thing in keeping a relationship viable is the ability to communicate with one's partner. Instead of trying to second guess and go outside the relationship for answers, why not try just having a good meeting of minds and hearts with your husband and try to find out what's going on? If either of you is incapable of verbalising what the issues are but there's a mutual understanding that you want to both work things out, you could try couples therapy. From my own personal experience, if something's really over, because perhaps it was built on shaky foundatiions to begin with, the therapeutic approach won't work. Both partners have to have a real desire to work it out. If that desire does exist, however, communication is the key, whether of the do-it-yourself variety, or facilitated by someone trained in such things. Having said all of that, people such as myself who are believers in astrology would probably be more likely to turn to an astrologer to figure out what's going on in this type of a situation. There are even astrologers who are also certified counselors at the same time, if you can find one. Only thing about this approach is it won't work if you don't believe in astrology, obviously, and while some peoples' med benefits pay part of the cost of seeing a 'regular' therapist, i've yet to hear of any insurance companies that cover visits to astrologers, unless perhaps you're lucky enough to find one who is certified as a 'regular' therapist as well. Personally, i believe a truly skilled astrologer can probably shed more light on what's going on in a faltering relationship,whether also trained in 'traditional' psychotherapy techniques or not. There is also not the necessity of the people seeking help even needing to be physically present for counseling sessions. While some 'regular' therapists do phone therapy and such therapy may be helpful, I believe that the nature of astrological counseling lends itself even more effectively to such an approach. Personally, i like going for in-person readings since such an approach seems to suit my emotional needs more effectively, perhaps, but when you don't have geographical access to an astrologer, the phone approach is certainly effective. The key is, however, that you have to find a really good astrologer who has many years of experience and knows what he or she is doing. I'm not talking about the type of astrological info you get from your daily newspaper which tells you what's going to happen in your life based on your sun sign. That's not even astrology. In fact, just as "stage hypnotists" that make people get up on the stage and squawk like a chicken have done the field of legitimate medical and therapeutic hypnosis a great disservice, so have the weekly astrology columns done the science and art of genuine astrology a great disservice. However, i suppose that's what happens when you have people who are more interested in making a quick buck by sensationalizing something rather than using it to actually alleviate peoples' suffering, etc.

Answer 7

I think it's normal; you two need to spend some more time together. You 're going through that kind of phase it seems. This is not a reason that would lead to divorce, so you'd better find a way to work this out.

Answer 8

married couples do go through fazes like this, some more than others, maybe you both just need a break from each other.

Answer 9

It happens in every relationship what you need to do is put sizzle back into your marriage. Have date nights, do something as a couple that you both enjoyed before you got married, surpirse each other have fun

Answer 10

I think every relationship at one time or another goes through that. You may need a vacation together or apart. But remember this too shall pass. Just stand your ground and know that you both will get through this.