i'm trying to move on..?

Question

hello everybody... i need some advice..
i've finally decided to move on after half a year after our break up.. i've dated a few people after our break up but it didnt work out because i found out that i really missed him.. but now i feel that it's time to move on.. i don't want to be with him anymore... he's not who i use to love.. but i'm just scared i can't move on.. i mean i've tried to move on before but it didn't work.. i really loved him.. how could i successfully move on and be happy again? i wanna fall in love again... and live my life... anyone.. help?

Answer 1

What you need to do to move on is fill all your spare time that you're currently using by thinking about him and the time that you guys used to spend together.

I strongly recommend taking up a whole bunch of new activites. Like book yourself in about 3 or 4 nights a week with art classes, language lessons, golf, yachting, whatever. You'll be out in the world learning new things which will make you more interesting and make your life a lot richer. You'll be meeting loads of new people and also meeting great new guys without going to sleazy bars.

You've got to get excited about your own life and love it again before you can realise how well you can really do on your own.

Answer 2

It seems thats the last thing you need to do ....

What your feeling is just the lonliness of being alone after so long it's normal you think you want to fall in love again with somone new and be happy

but thats the last thing you need now you need to take some time for yourself it seems and just heal yourself examine yourself and life and make it better feel better inside

you can't expect another relationship to work if you dont fix yourself first look i know you dont want to be alone but trust me
it's not what you need right now

people just go off from relation to relationship thinking thats what they need but the truth thats only a quick fix and they end right back there again

Take care of all thos emtions inside and let them out let lonliness be thats normal but you missing him and all that just let it go or talk to someone about it

being happy by finding other people is the last thing you need it wll only lead you back to ur sadness

and when your ready when you feel like you again and not just lonley it will come because after all a relationship is hard enought as it is and when somone brings along there old baggage from the past it just makes it worst and i know you dont want to fall again..

so i dont i recomend a cool off pierod of at least six months to really let go and do some good for yourself

it's ok to be alone even though this world dosent see it that way

but thena gain that is why half of there marriges end up in divorce

and oh yeah ignore the ex you cant make a clean break if you have him lingering around in your life

ok well good luck well email me if you want more advice.

Answer 3

If you really want to move on, as you say, then the first thing you have to do is stop talking about, thinking about and comparing other men, to "him."
Its difficult after a break-up; we've all been through it; but that doesn't mean you will not find the man you want, and more importantly, wants you.
The secret of a long lasting relationship - marry your best friend. Friends first; lover's second. That's the way I did it 23 years ago and my wife and I have never had a fight (no need to.) Good luck.

Answer 4

i know how hard it is, I've been divorced for two years now. it took about a year and a half for me, i also dated a few times but it just wasn't what i was looking for. for me i know what i want in someone now so i think it's harder to meet that person. but after two years now i feel happy, even though I'm single. i do all kinds of things, and I'm just waiting on that person. i think love is the hardest thing to deal with in the world, but it's just time that makes it all better. i didn't think i would ever get her out of my head, but i did, and i moved on. just try to be happy and get out and do things, you will meet that person one day, and when you do, you will be like why did i waste all that time over him when i could have been happy. good luck!

Answer 5

well this is a hard one but your asking the wrong crowd.but anyways there certain info i need to give you advice like is the guy you used to love , has he moved on? do you still love him?Is he abusive?well withou this all i can tell you is life will unfold with time like a flower you cannot spurt its bloom or it will not be right there will be a time when alll this is over and it will be the right time,so until then push forward and do what feels right i too have loved lost and still trying to get over it but there is no real way to just get over them except for the events of time if you keep looking youll find somebody else to take his place and dont worry there is always somebody else for we are all looking for the right one , who knows maybe the next we'll be better than the last or maybe worse but theres a song that says i took the broken road that led me straight to you ......which is just saying there are many failed attempts at love but at least your looking and eventuallly youll find the one for you.hope this helps, for i am looking too so your not alone in this.

Answer 6

There are so many people in this world, and to think he/she is the only one that you can love is probably not so. Perhaps if you stop talking to him and find other things in your life that you enjoy and do them. Never judge new people you meet on him/her. hope some of these helps. =D

Answer 7

"How do I get my heart Back?
How do I break free?
How do I get rid of
This painful love inside of me?
How do I go on Living?
How do I get Away?
But I know, that later on,
There will be a brighter day..."

Once you are over someone, you will know it becuz you will feel it in you and you will want to go hang out with other couples and guys... you cant really rush into trying to get over someone... it takes time hon... start goin small and just try and get over him by going out with a group of guys and girls and then have less and less ppl in the group... it will work out ok hon... ♥ Madison

Answer 8

get yourself busy with something u like or even better, have a normal group date with him.