My boyfriend has pulled away from me due to work stress, he is looking for a new job, preparing for his interviews in his free time. He has a full-time job, which he is not happy with. What can I do to bring him back? He has been very distant with me? I am starting to worry that he is loosing interest in me? He told me a couple of days ago he is not feeling too well as he is not getting any positive answers from his interviews.
2007-03-19 01:52:43 · 9 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him space and just let him know that you will be there for him.
Some guys just like to keep things within themselves and don't want their partner to worry about them.
2007-03-19 01:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's under a lot of external stress so doesn't need any additional stress from you. Hard though it is, I would stand back and show your support by being quiet, reassuring and encouraging and not showing any neediness or pressure for him to contact you. I know it's hard, especially as you need reassurance too, but in the long run - and after his job worries are sorted out - he will look on you as a strong reassuring supportive presence in his life and your relationship will be better for it. On the other hand, if you put demands on him now that could be the thing to make him pull the plug on your relationship.
Look at this in the long term, not the short term. If you still want to be with him in six months' time then you have to show patience and support now, and let him have the space and energy to deal with his very pressing problems.
Good luck.
2007-03-19 09:11:25 · answer #2 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him, no pressure just let him know you are there and you will support and help in anyway you can. Guys can be funny, we tend to back away when we have problems or issues, in some abstract way almost trying to protect you, what actually happens is you end up doing more damage than good. If your B/F job is bad and he wants out, He is probably feeling very down, I can understand that feeling. Also the stress of looking for new job not getting posative feedback from Interviews all will be adding to the negative vibe he has. He probably feels in someways he is letting you down. You need to let him see thatyou are there and ok this is a bad time for him, but you can help share some of his burdun.
Hope things work out for you
2007-03-19 09:19:33 · answer #3 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in a similar situation, my boyfriend is so busy, dont really hear from him or see him much, it so hurtful as it feels like he doesn't care anymore. Im sure he does but he is just very stressed and wants to sort his life out. Having a stressful job can make people very unhappy and finding a new job is also very stressful, just leave him to it. If you keep contacting him he will get annoyed, mine did. I know its so hard when you dont hear from them for ages but im sure he will be back to normal when he has changed jobs and is a lot less stressed. It wont last forever he will find a new job soon if he is spending lots of time job hunting and hopefully then he will be happier and will have more contact with u again. try and support him through it xx
2007-03-19 09:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's stressed out and in need of love and support.
If he's distant and doesn't want to talk than dont pressurise him.
Instead go on an all out plan to help him through as it sounds like he's struggling a bit.
Spoil him in every way you can-cook his favourite meal, offer him a relaxing massage,encourage him with his interveiws by asking if you can help him prepare or just treat him to a new shirt to wear for them. Keep the pressure off as much as you can,surround him with love and understanding and I'm sure in a short while he will come back round.Good luck
2007-03-19 09:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by bungle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's stressed. Try to think about him for the moment and don't expect much in return. Hopefully you will get the same in return at some point when you're disappointed and / or stressed. Just let him know that you believe in him and that while things are difficult at present, they will get better eventually.
2007-03-19 09:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by eli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's stressed and pressured with work problems. Give him all the space & support he needs. I'm sure he'll appreciate your understanding, and come back when he's ready!
2007-03-19 08:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by jet-set 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support him it his dicison to find a job he will be happy with, you could help him to go back to school (College) and help him study in a career that he would like
2007-03-19 08:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by Peacen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are like that when they're stressed. Just give him time and he will come back to you.
2007-03-19 09:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by XoLipGlossoX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋