this is a long story but the jest of it is that i've been in love with a guy for 3 years (his in USA and i'm in UK) meet through family....... we have had a rollarcoaster of a relationship where he thinks this is not going to happen and breaks it off and then a month or two later gets back with me saying that he now realises that it me thathe does want.
this has now happen 4 times, and this time i just don't know what todo- i can't seem to like anyone else forget have a relationship with them......
the first thime we broke up it -was due to his ex- getting invloved and making out that they were still together - which he proved that they weren't.......but last week i found out that they still in touch as friends.....
i'm so worried on whats going on - tried to talk to him - but his ignored my emails, texts and phone calls ( this is something that he does when he gets confused).
i'm literally at breaking point as in have a breakdown - can't stop crying and feel so lost......
2007-03-19 01:50:15 · 12 answers · asked by stressed 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you keep letting him back so he can keep walking over you!
time to move on and be happy
2007-03-19 01:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by crunchymonkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So sorry about how things are happening for you. Its hard to break free from this cycle. I can't offer you any advice as I am in a similar situation. I guess there come a point when you realise every one was right! But the fact your 3 years have been miles apart - you know deep down it never going to work. Can one of you move? Good luck
2007-03-19 16:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, I've been through a lot of breaks and patch ups too. I was depressed for the past 1 mth and just didn't feel like doing anything at all.
After 1 mth, I realise that its time to pick myself up and do the things I like. Its not easy but I'm happier now. I still have feelings for my ex and wish that he will come back to me one day but until that day comes, I'm gonna live my life the way I like.
If you really want that guy back, give him space and let yourself grow. Enjoy yourself! No guy will ever like a girl who is crying all the time. Be strong and confident! If he's meant for you, he will come back to you.
2007-03-19 09:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
step outside of this and pretend that you have a girlfriend who has this problem, and who has come to you for advice. What advice would you give to her? I suspect you would tell her that this chap is unreliable, that he's mucking her around and that she can do better and deserves someone who doesn't make her cry. True? Yep, you'd probably tell her that. So take that advice for yourself.
I'm sorry, but I don't think this is leading anywhere. You have three years of history, and that's difficult to let go, but you probably have another 50 years of life left ahead of you ... do you want to spend it like this? So let go while you can and go out and find happiness with someone else who doesn't muck you around. Good luck, I wish you well.
2007-03-19 08:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have had a long distance love also. if the trust is not there and you are not sure about the terms of this love, than it is better to move on than to beat yourself up over it.god has made life partners for everyone, you need to sit down and ask god and yourself if this is the right guy for you . if you really love this person than you have to make a move at all costs. but you have to be honest with yourself, would they do this for you????? bring god into your heart and i bet you will get your answer. trust is number one,love and commitment will happen if it supposed to...
2007-03-19 09:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by mybaby_poohbear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dry your tears this man isnt worthy of you get out and about more with your friends and forget him if his intentions with you were honerable he would have made a commitment by now he is toying with you hold you head up and dont let him back into your life all the best for your future it will be so much better without him
2007-03-19 08:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him! Time will heal the wounds if you just keep him out of your life. Do not look back. It will be OK some day. Sorry for your distress but it will heal.
2007-03-19 08:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need hep little chickie. You do not "need" anyone. This cross continent thing never works.....Don't you read these answers in here?
2007-03-19 08:58:16 · answer #8 · answered by TMAC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy doesn't know his *rse from his elbow, you deserve better, either make sure you get better from him or leave him and get better from somewhere else....
2007-03-19 08:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him space, you can't force him to talk to you.
2007-03-19 08:55:47 · answer #10 · answered by Solar Ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋