What do you think of this?

Question

Ok, now that I am back from a very peaceful sleep, and a very long one (12 hours, wow!), I want to know something. What do you think of the fact that in Islam, it's not the woman's duty to cook and clean or even care for the children? What do you think of the fact that the so called islamic countries ignore Islam and take their culture as religion instead and tell men it's shameful for them to help their wives in any way, shape, or form? I was talking with my sisters in law last night and they told me that if they were to even ask their husbands to hold the children so they could eat their food, the men would think it was shameful. They told me, because they knew that when I was married to a Pakistani man, I told him he needed to leave his culture out of the religion and didn't stand for that nonsense. They wanted to konw how I did it, and I point blank told them that I showed him it was Islamic and that he was going to give me my rights whether he liked it or not.

Answer 1

Mashallah - I agree with you 100% , Many muslim men bring culture into thier religion, which is wrong, The Prophet (saw) gave his wives so many rights & he demanded the all men should consider themselves blessed if they have a daughter.

I have always said that the muslim men have misunderstood women rights in Islam, Islam holds women in such a high status that it says: Paradise lays beneath the feet of your mother.

May all muslim women take your advice & demand thier rights by showing thier husbands passages in the Quran & hadiths, if thier husbands still deny them thier rights, they have every right to demand that they be given a divorce.

May Allah (swt) guide every muslim men & let them cherish & respect & acknowledge thier wives & daughters just as the holy Prophet Muhammad(saw) did.

Answer 2

That's pretty cool. If you are happy & your hubby supportive, great. But sometimes, it isn't this smooth. In which case, one of them should be understanding & back-off a little. If both stick to their stated positions, whether right or wrong, then there is a chance of a showdown which wouldn't be in the interests of either partners.

Many times, it is the influence of the outside culture, like for Ex. the Indian culture which has totally overshadowed the good points pertaining to women's rights in Islam in India. So Muslims in India most of the time do not have any idea which part is cultural & which one religious. Therefore, we have ridiculous situations where divorce is given in one sitting, women wear 'mangalsutra' (a chain of black beads around their necks) as a religious display of their marital identity etc. which is totally wrong.

Moreover, since an early age, boys and girls are brought up in contrasting styles, where boys can do as they like & please and girls protected from 'such boys' of the neighborhood. If every family takes care to bring up its own boys properly, and explains to both genders the importance & rights of the opposite gender, the guys would definitely have a healthy respect for the fairer sex.

Answer 3

Culture does in fact need to stay out of religion. My husband is Muslim and he does anything I ask of him. The Qur'an tells him to love, honor and respect me and he does. When we are shopping, I am not expected to carry any bags. I am not expected to clean the house alone or cook by myself. I know when we have children it will be no different. I have both a husband and a true partner in life.

It's sad that certain cultures do in fact change the practices of religion. That is why Islam has such a bad image in so many parts of the world. Female genital mutilation, beatings, rape... these things ARE NOT Islam in any way, they are cultural practices done in some Islamic regions. Unfortunately the media has been very successful convincing those who do not know otherwise, that these are normal practices in Islam.

Answer 4

Most women from Iran do the same :D
I have to say that their men are cooperative :D
For instance I remember that whenever that we had guests over, my father would be the one taking care of the children, bringing the food and everything so my mom wouldn't have to much to do.
Now I'm married. Both me and my husband are students. I don't know how to cook and stuff but my husband does it all. He does the cooking, washing the dishes, etc.
I know people whose husbands help them around the house.
I also know or shall I say knew people whose husbands didn't help at all. We talked to them at first and if they didn't listen we would stop being friends with them!
All I'm trying to say is that it is not all the countries or all the men. There are exceptions.
My husband's mother would kill him if he didn't help around :D

Answer 5

You are so right. Women in Islam are treated like jewels and it makes me glad that I'm a female *smile*
My boyfriend pointed out to me that there is an entire surah dedicated to women and how to treat them, but there isn't one for men.
He has told me all of my rights as a woman and he even told me that women can propose to a man. So the question is should I do it?
If I remember correctly, wasn't the last speech of Mohommad (pbuh) about women and to treat them right?
I know mothers have a special place in Islam and I love my mom very much.


Peace and love,
Muslimah Briar Rose

Answer 6

Women has an equal right as men has. The problem is most of people use the religion as an excuse for, that men are superiors than women, either in sex, in society, in job, in education, etc.

Answer 7

Good for you, lay down the law. Too bad there's plenty of women in those cultures who not only adhere to those beliefs, they enforce them.

Answer 8

Muhammad PBUH was in the service of his house.. He used to help in house chores, specially that requires muscular power and is preferred to do by a man like lifting heavy loads or cutting meat...

Like I said before, They use Islam to maintain supremacy on women.. A man must help his wife simultaneously..

I disagree with you dear regarding the Kids, it's the nature of a mother to take care of them, but the man is ordered also to do the same.. My country considers it shameful for a man to cook - which is my dearest hobby - but there's no problem in taking care of the kids. They deformed the teachings of Islam.. a woman Must wear....... she Must do........ she must obey ....... and they forgot what Themselves MUST do!

By the way, while your long peaceful sleep you've been cloned, check my answers...

;) Appropriate Sir!

See? While I was typing this the clone is on; Ignore her, she's like my ex-gf, half human half donkey...

Answer 9

you mean sister that your husband did not beat you and treat you like dirts since he is a Muslim!!!!


I am shocked. but wait Islam does not ask him to do that

then you are normal

God bless and you deserve a star for this question

Answer 10

U rock girl!
i wish more n more women cud stand up 4 deir rights.
yes DEF men r supposed 2 help women in their daily chores. our own prophet(saw) used 2 help his wives in cleaning n cooking. he used 2 even wash his clothes himself !
a PERFECT example for men! its jus ego in sum men who cant stand women being higher than them. i LUV islam 4 da rights it gives women as a wife/daughter/sister/mother , it helds women in high esteem n r regards women higher than men.
was salaam!