Has anyone every done this or seen this done? She want's the date 7/7/07 so she decide that they are going to Vegas to elope because they can't come up with the cash fast enough to do a real wedding. But then in 6-8 months they are going to have a traditional church wedding with bridemaids/groomsman and do the whole reception? And she wants the big bridal shower and Bachelorette party??
Does this work? I told her my own thoughts were, why spend all the money on a wedding if your already married..... and doesn't it take some specialness out of your wedding day?? They are not getting married for any other reason the the date for 7/7/07........
Am I the only one who thinks this is strange??
2007-03-19 01:40:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
her reasoning was that she wants the date 7/7/07 and then the church wedding because she also wants to be married under god.
She thinks this is no big deal but I am sorry to say I think it's tacky!
2007-03-19 02:16:19 · update #1
the 7/7/07 will be the real marriage- when they will be legally married. The church wedding will be the fake wedding.
2007-03-19 03:00:36 · update #2
I could see the reception to celebrate a the marriage, but to have a big wedding 6-8 months after the marriage sounds a little selfish. To each his own. And by the way, according to numerology the numbers 7-7-07 means conflict and miscommunication.
2007-03-19 02:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by kgee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thats wierd, I mean just have a smaller wedding on your 7-7-7 day and be done with it! I don't understand the people who have these nice quite weddings to save money adn stress and then come back and throw a blow out party---um well theres your money and stress! Why the heck would you want to do it all twice? I understand wanting to celebrate with your family and friends, but thats why I'm having a reception after my wedding, they do sorta go together in my opinion! My weddings this Saturday and I couldn't dream of draggin the stress out any longer.....
I'm ok with her having a shower and all but have it sometime in the vicinity of the real wedding, and the bachelorette party is just stupid if she wants to do it later after she's already married, that makes no sence at all!
long story short, brides get 1 day, not as many as they feel like!
2007-03-19 07:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by ASH 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have seen it done....but she won't really be getting married on 7-7-07. Its a different ceremony, not a real marriage ceremony.....its like a celebration ceremony. I have attenede 2 of these..they are ok, but all the guests whispered behind their backs about how they are already married and wondered if it was for presents(money), attention, or really to celebrate with friends???
I think its up to the couple...but a huge wedding seems tacky...maybe just the huge reception would be ok.
2007-03-19 02:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by ste.phunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her reason for eloping isn't primarily the cost but the date. that being said is she marrying this person for the right reasons? if a marriage is meant to be it does not matter what the date is going to be. if having her family and friends there truly matters enough to her to have a second ceremony and reception then why compromise her true idea of what her wedding day should be like? obviously she wants the bridal shower, the big wedding and redeption or she would not be planning to have one after she elopes.
2007-03-19 04:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by miss-ee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I do hear that is a popular date and though I personally wouldn't do that. I have been married for 5 years and when we first got married, we only had a handful of people there. I did have a shower, though it was about a month after my wedding. Now I am planning a big wedding (vow renewal) and I am having the attendants and everything. The girl that I have chosen for my Maid of honor, she will be throwing a shower, but that was her decision, I never asked for one. I won't do the whole batcholorett party thing. I'm not one of those anymore...lol...Maybe you should try and talk to your friend about all of the reasoning. Maybe there is more to it than she is telling you?
2007-03-19 02:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by fwog_fwog 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I think it's completely ridiculous.
The whole point of eloping is to NOT have the church ceremony & reception and all the hassle that goes along with it!
Not to mention, appearances are everything. If your friend elopes and then comes back and expects everyone to throw her a shower AND a bachelorette party AND bring gifts to her wedding, that looks awfully selfish and greedy. I'm not saying she is, mind you, but it certainly LOOKS that way!
I say do one or the other. Not both.
2007-03-19 02:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by sylvia 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My parents actually gave my fiance and I their blessing to elope so long as we had a church wedding and reception later on. Their reasoning was that they knew that we wanted to be married sooner because we are ready, but the reason for the whole church wedding and reception was for the family and friends that want to celebrate our marriage to one another. For us, had we decided to do that instead of moving our wedding closer to now, it wouldn't have taken the specialness out of our wedding. It would have made it more special because we could celebrate with those closest to us. Your friend is probably thinking about her family and friends and how they may want to be included in a huge step of her and her fiance's life.
It isn't the traditional approach but it's done more than you would think.
2007-03-19 03:51:41 · answer #7 · answered by Caity.Esq. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's strange, and others have mentioned this kind of thing on this site. The first ceremony is the marriage, and if it is someone's choice to elope, then that should be it. No "another" wedding ceremony and celebration. One or the other! Otherwise, it just makes a mockery out of everything. Many times, the bride is just gift-greedy, unfortunately, and immature.
2007-03-19 03:34:54 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ick! Tacky! I'm sorry, but people only get one wedding per marriage. She needs to decide which is more important to her...7/7/07 (which TONS of people are doing), or getting married under God with people there.
If she does this, I would not at all be involved with the other wedding. She sounds very selfish, indeed.
2007-03-19 08:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
So what will she consider her anniversary date? Yesh, its odd, but hey, anything goes now. Our wedding and reception are 4 months apart! And his aunts are hosting my bridal shower, and we're having no bridal party, so I guess whatever works for the couple is alright.
2007-03-19 02:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋