I was supposed to meet these 2 girls from my graduate program yesterday to study. THEY invited me and I offered to give one of them my phone number in case she had to cancel and she was like " oh, believe me I will be there 'cause that's the only way I'm gonna study". So, instead of studying on Saturday I waited until Sunday. We were supposed to meet at 3 o'clock and I got there early and waited for about one hour at the cafe. They never showed up. I called one of the girls on her cell phone and she never picked up. I was so pissed off I was barely able to study when I finally decided to go home. In my worldview that's a no-no. I never do that kind of stuff to people. They had my email, they could at least have emailed me.
I'm seeing them in class today and I would like some advice on how do deal with them. I want to let them know what they did was unacceptable, but not make a huge deal out of it. Any advice on how I could word my frustration in a tactful way?
2007-03-19 01:34:17 · 7 answers · asked by amaya m 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I've been in this situation before too. Basically your time isn't important to them. I hate people like this to. When you see them in class make a point to wish them luck on the test and tell them that you thought them standing you up wasn't OK with you and that you wont be Abel to arrange study dates with them again because you don't trust them. Then wish them good luck again and walk away. If the start to say that their sorry or anything just keep on walking away from them. Why should you respect them if they weren't respectful to you.
2007-03-19 01:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First ensure that you have calmed down. Your frustration and anger are very warranted and understandable. However, you cannot control the behaviors of others. And it appears they are simply not as serious about their studies as you are. I would not say a word, they know what they did. However, I would not accept an invitation to study with them again. And if they do bring it up I would simply say, "sorry, but you are not reliable, and I take my education seriously" but thank you for asking. And leave it at that, it is not worth anymore of your time or attention. Move on and keep doing what your doing. Good luck and God bless****
2007-03-19 02:40:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would start off by approaching one and saying "Hey, what happened on Sunday? I thought we were supposed to meet at Cafe Blablabla?" Wait to see what kind of excuse she gives you. Maybe she honestly forgot but in any case if they invite you to do that again a simple "Sorry, can't" will suffice. They will know the reason for your refusal.
2007-03-19 06:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just casually ask what happened on Sunday what was the reason you didnt show .
But honestly it had better be a good one. I am with you I'd never stand somebody up like that ever.
If there was an emergency I would give you a courtesy call or get someone to call you on my behalf.
Dont have contact with them again if they cant explain what happened, you deserve to be around people with better values and standards .
2007-03-19 02:36:22 · answer #4 · answered by addy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just remind them that it was inconsiderate and a waste of your valuable time for them not to call and not to show up. Let them know in no uncertain terms that you really don't appreciate it and that there won't be a next time. And then forget about it and forget about them
2007-03-19 01:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't offer to help them again they are very rude girl and ignore them your time is more valuable than theirs
2007-03-19 02:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
JUST AK WHAT HAPPND ND SAY U WERE DISIPOINED NT TO S THM AND SEE HOW IT GOES
2007-03-22 14:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by greek12b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋