i have 2 kids of age 5 and 3.they don,t listen to me at all.what to do,i am really in deep distress.help.?

Question

my 5yr child is a boy.real intelligent but has very bad health.he dont look of his age.he dont eat properly.my 3yrs daugter is extraordinary smart in every manner and that is worring me.help

Answer 1

Children are the wonderful stuff in this world and your problem is common in many families.

Never try to behave harshly with or infront of them. Spend more time and listen to their words. You could be a housewife, but might not spend more time playing with your kids. They desperately require friends and mother could be best one for them.

First listen to your kids and expect the same from them. One more suggestion, If you really want to take control over them, just knee down, make yourself comfortable with their height, look into their eyes and tell them. Children will not be able to concentrate more when it comes from normal human being height.

If you standup and speak to them, they think that you are speaking to someone and wil not listen to your words. This option will not work immediately, but keep practise and you will find better improvements in weeks.

I prefer you to start spending more time with your children.

Answer 2

There is a book written just for you. It is called Common Sense Parenting by Boys Town Press. It gives lots of help and is all easy things to do that just make sense. It will give you a lot of insight into your children and their funny little brains.

They come out with a new edition every year or so but its pretty much all the same stuff. So save yourself some money and buy a used or older edition.

The main ideas of the book are to tell your kids exactly what you want in terms they understand and to constantly give consequences (mostly positive though =)

Anyway, it is still helping us endure the 2 yr old stage right now!

Answer 3

Do not shout and keep yelling at them always, children's loose respect at parents who do this and also do not fight with your husband and with elders if there are any at home before them, this would give wrong impression in their minds.

And direct handling with the case what you mentioned, you don't speak to them when they come and ask for anything, wait for an hour or two, later make them realise their mistake. It is not that they are not of the age to understand. This is the age where the parents can bring the children under their control. You stick to this habit only when the mistake is with them, otherwise not. And develop the habit of saying sorry whenever the mistake is yours. we should respect their feeling too equally.
Any thing told in a soft tone will definitely have more impact, but has they are children they would repeat the mistake but we should stick to the principles and make them realise gradually.
Children's should be brought under control by the looks itself than by shouting and beating.
Talking politely to them, counselling and behaving as a role model is more important.
At first we have obey to others words at least before the children and bring-up the children unitedly by both parents and the other members of the family.
Also prepare a time table for your children and make them follow. You do not inter-fear during their playing time. Parents will also have to follow some time-table and practise, and parenting needs great amount of sacrifice, change in the attitude etc. We will also have to learn to listen to their words, speeches, needs is equally important. And explain to them, "see i am listening to your words when you are correct, but ask to correct your attitude only when you are wrong, please listen" you have to tell and explain like this. Of-course it is a long process but would give good result.

Answer 4

First thing is to have your priority set. Do you want to be known as the parent of Spoilt children? If the answer is NO then show them the fact that to belong to a family one has to obey certain Rules and there is a Boss who makes the rules. Rule breaking is a punishable offence.
Make sure that your Spouse agrees not to get in between the acts of spanking and scolding or taking away the favourite things of your children so that theyu are returnable when they behave them selves.

Answer 5

I have two kids of six and three but they enjoy their company so here is how i can suggest is...
1.Involve them in some activity classes may be drawing,dance,skating or whatever they show interest in
2.Buy game kits which involve some brain work or may be play dough ...it keeps them busy for long
3.I hope your both kids are school goers so get them scheduled to a time table.
4.Take interest in "ArtAttack" on cartoon channel and help them make their favourite toons.
The more they interact they will enjoy their company and slowly you will feel free.My kids even sleep in their bed room without us.You will also have better time just try to step in their shoes with hunter in hand :-)

Answer 6

thats great they are smart. YOU are the boss. set them down-tell them the rules and tell them they will be in time out every single time they break a rule. The hard part will be making them stay in time out. If they cant get out of the high chair or booster chair strapped on the chair-them strap them in that, if not, you will have to take them back to time out every time they get out and keep doing that till they stay 5 yrs-5 min. 3 yrs-3 min. Even if it takes 45 min of going back and forth, they will test you and you have to show them you mean business or they will run all over you. and it will get worse as they get older.
When they are being good give them lots of praise and do some type of rewards. Let them help with laundry and cooking. kids really like that stuff. get them involved in everything they seem to want to do and lots of positive praise

Answer 7

At their age they have very short attention span, so you have to deal with it.

They will grow out of it, taking away privilege is the only thing that you can do, other reader said take away favourite thing. Time out and make them stand in the corner, may work also.

Answer 8

never even show stiffness on them

child hood days will never know the " power of differentiation "
i.e sixth sence

in front of them just sit and eat hot soup and say wow it's super
suddenly they also willing to take it

This is the point. "if u like and do before them then they too sure will"

Answer 9

You have to love them lot. You have to spend your most time with them while eating & playing with them. Be careful when you do some thing in front of them. Usually children learn from mother

Answer 10

as all the fingers of our hand are not equal in the same way people are born with different problems and talents. asked for my advice i would say help your boy child to recover.give him nutritious food timely. as far as your daughter is concerned she is too very young.so naughty behaviour is obvious.... nothing to worry... see that they spend time together..