i'm getting married to my boyfriend of 5 years. we've set the wedding to two months from now. i'm really excited coz i love him very much, but the thought of him being the last guy that i'll be kissing freaks me out a bit. i'm not really a player, but i sometimes wonder what its like to kiss somebody else before i get married.
now i have this platonic guy best friend who's also in a relationship right now. we've been friends for 11 years now. i'm thinking of asking him to kiss me, in a real platonic way, mind you, so that i can kiss another guy for the last time. i'm thinking of asking him not to tell my fiance and his girlfriend so that it would not get me into trouble later on.
question is, if you're my bestfriend, would you grant me my favor?
2007-03-19 01:00:07 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the kiss i'm talking about is STRICTLY platonic, i would not be asking that we go any further.
its strictly because of curiosity and not because of doubt of my feelings for my boyfriend.
2007-03-19 01:13:30 · update #1
WAIT! Stop and think first! A kiss is just a kiss. If you start going down that road you will be a very unhappy camper. Every person will kiss you differently, just like sex is different with each and every person. A platonic kiss will not satisfy your curiosity and will only awaken more curiosity within you. Next you'll wonder what a big wet one will feel like. It's all a state of mind. If you do follow through with your idea you may (probably will) hurt the one you love, and nothing positive will have been accomplished. Be happy with whom you are with and realize that while each kiss from each person will be different, it doesn't necessarily mean it will be better. The pleasure associated with most sexual contact (in either sex) is mostly mental.
2007-03-19 07:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are having thoughts like this then you should reconsider the marriage. When you are totally in love with someone things like that just don't happen. Kissing is kissing. I understand what you are saying but if you love this guy don't go off kissing someone else with the chance he could find out especially your friend cuz that could make the friendship awkward in the future. I kissed plenty of guys before I got married and I am happy I just have 1 guy to kiss now and we have been together 15 years married for 14.
2007-03-19 08:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ok, if you are freaking because you can never kiss another guy you really probably shouldnt be getting married. I never want to kiss another guy....I'm perfectly content with my fiance, and can't wait to spend the rest of my life kissing him! If you are in this for real this should not even be and issue. I can not think of a single good thing this can do for either of your relationships, platonic or not
2007-03-19 16:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by ASH 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to be kidding or a kidder or just a kid!! You're borrowing trouble here, and I suspect an undercurrent of interest in your so called platonic guy/best friend. Best friends don't smooth, little sister. Kiss your own boyfriend in new and different ways, under the stars, on the nose, with a fresh mint in your mouth, with passion, and real affection. Practice a long time, and consider a later date for your wedding, for real, until you have this issue resolved in your heart and mind.
2007-03-19 08:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
If I were your friend I wouldn't do it because I'd be terrified of ruining the beautiful relationship you have with your fiance. Don't you think your fiance would be hurt if he found out?
I think it's natural to be freaked out a little bit before you get married, but if you actually want to act on these emotions then maybe you're not ready for marriage.
If you really love/trust your fiance, I think you could even talk to him about this fear, and he can help you feel good about your decision to be only with him for the rest of your life.
Good luck!
2007-03-19 08:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by hhhh 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think that's really disrespectful to your relationship with your fiance. That sounds like the guys who go out on their bachelor party night to have one last "hurrah" and sleep with another girl to "get it out of their system." How would it make you feel if your fiance felt this need to kiss another girl because he was freaked out by the thought of YOU being the last girl he's every going to kiss? If you're really in love with him, and really want to be with only him for the rest of your life this wouldn't even be a question in your mind or an issue for you.
2007-03-19 08:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should kiss anyone other than your b/f. It is normal to be a little afraid of the future. But you can't think of him as the last guy you're ever going to kiss. You have to think, I love this man so much he's the only one I ever want to kiss. Good luck!
2007-03-19 08:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by mechelle68 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Wait till you get married then go to a "swinger" party with your husband and you both can kiss other people right in front of each other and you don't have to keep it a secret from him.
2007-03-19 08:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by cweetepye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not!! Not only will both you and you're friend have to lie to the people you love, but it is almost positive that one of you will break eventually and both of you will suffer. You may have to break the friendship to regain the trust of your husband. It's definately not worth it, You love your fiance, and his kisses will be enough for you forever. God Bless!!
2007-03-19 08:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by Teresa 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't is all I can say to you - you are looking for trouble. It sounds to me like you have pre-wedding jitters. Relax these will go away. But if you carry n with this foolhardy idea of yours you might end up throwing your relationship of 5yrs away. It's not worth it
2007-03-19 08:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by CLEVER 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋