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well i am a handicapped adult but i would like to leave home for ever but my mother won,t let me and i am 39 years old and i should be allowed to leave home

2007-03-19 00:35:18 · 17 answers · asked by Bill S 1 in Family & Relationships Family

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When you prove to your mother you can live on your own and cope with daily life and have enough money to support you, I am sure you can leave home.
Start proving yourself in small ways to her.
Clean the house.
Cook a meal once a week
Go shopping
Invite a friend round and cook a meal for everyone...

2007-03-19 00:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 1 0

You didn't say how you were handicapped so it is difficult to suggest what you should do. Are you self sufficient? In other words can you get by on your own without someone to look after you? Can you support yourself with a place to live and food? If the answer to all of these questions is yes there is no reason you shouldn't move out.

2007-03-19 00:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by don n 6 · 1 0

At age 21 you became an independent adult in the eyes of the law; your mother cannot dictate your comings and goings as YOU are allowing her to do.
This is her method of control over you. If you want to go out, then go. Don't ask, just do it. If she makes a stink, then maybe you should think about getting your own apartment.

2007-03-19 02:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Is it mandatory that when you are an adult you should leave home ... why don't you wanna live with people who love you the most on this planet ... n live alone or with some people you would hardly know ... I think your mom is doing the right thing ... and you should also stay and do what is right for you

2007-03-19 00:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by Shashiz 2 · 0 0

Maybe do it in steps, like start off for being away for a weekend, then a week. This way she will be able to see that you are capable.
I don't know what services are available to you where you live, but research into social services and carers who help with this transition (like a service where they drop in and monitor how well you are doing and if you need help). This way your mother may feel more at ease.

2007-03-19 00:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by Night_nurse 2 · 0 0

Hi, well it's very important to know how handicapped you are first! -People can say: oh yes you are 39 yrs old, but have to make it sure if you are living alone you can take care of your self or you can get somebody to come to your house.

2007-03-19 00:41:13 · answer #6 · answered by Hunca 1 · 0 0

sounds like your mother is your biggest handicap, but I'm sure she is being that way for good reason...not putting her down, but she is probably overprotective which hurts everyone. You are 39 and it is YOUR decision.....stand you ground about hoe to live your life. Good luck!

2007-03-19 00:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by Donnie Mills 1 · 0 0

you are allowed. just because you are handicapped does not mean that you can not make it on your own. What could she possibly be doing to not allow you to leave? Tell her to get over herself and let you have your freedom. Have faith in yourself and be strong and anything can happen!

2007-03-19 00:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole C 1 · 0 0

ok thats somewhat previous a funny tale, so your the in person-friendly words one there for her and your different brothers and sisters have took tthe ordinary way out? so that you want to verify on a evening to sit at the same time with her and tell her aspect sparkling with a cuppa tea and in simple terms say to her " mum im 28 im an grownup and performance my personal life to stay, im drawing near close to sufficient 30 and am nonetheless living with my verify and its no longer proper, i opt to flow out flow in with my boyfriend and stay my personal life even as I definitely have the chance, tell her it wont change something between you your nonetheless going to be her daughter and there for her in simple terms as a lot as you at the instantaneous are, re-assure her shes no longer likely to free you and that no ones ever going to take you faraway from her, she has were given to appreciate, any mum ought to, shes in simple terms prop afraid of being on my own because her and your dad dont get alongside that wel she dont opt to experience lonely. yet you've were given to placed volume a million first and that is you. strong success wish all works out nicely. x

2016-11-26 22:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

It is because she loves you, and wants the best for you. Show her that you are able to take care of yourself, it may require intervention by another relative or friend to get yourself set up properly. Good Luck/

2007-03-19 00:40:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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