Any advise?, I’m in love with this guy but there is a big problem he's already married with 2 kids.?

Question

I try to forget about him but I just can’t do because we’re officemates and every time I’m with him I feel I’m so special. He once told me that he really likes me and he can give up his family for me.

I want to get over him because I know it’s not right. I’m only 21 and I know I can find another man for me. But as of the moment I’m really into him.

Kindly give me some advice. Thanks.

Answer 1

And that's YOUR PROBLEM...DO HIM A FAVOR AND LEAVE HIM OUT OF IT. DON'T MAKE IT NOT ONLY HIS PROBLEM BUT A PROBLEM THAT CAN BREAK UP A BEAUTIFUL FAMILY...OTHERWISE, CONSIDER YOURSELF A HOME-WRECKER
AND THIS IS AS KIND AS I'M GONNA BE

Answer 2

Hey,
I once dated a older guy when i was 22 he was 33 and he had just split with his wife and had 3 kids. It was a long road with her always still been talked of and visiting. And I ended up minding the kids a hell of a lot it was something i wasn't ready for although I tried to tell myself I was but the things are amazing what you can see after you are over someone. Seeing him all the time is not a great thing though I can see how hard it is for you and his promises would make it harder but most men in that situation do not leave their family from experience. You need a nice holiday. Away from it all for a few weeks. :). Good luck xo.

Answer 3

Dont go th ere with him. Most married men would never leave there family they are just out for some fun on the side. This is adultery and you would be breaking up a marriage. Forget him and find a nice single guy to date. Put yourself in his wife's position how would you feel if your husband cheated and remember what goes around comes around. You both work together so if you fool around with him things can get sticky. Run the other way keep it on a friendly hi goodbye level and leave the married pigs who want to cheat alone.

Answer 4

Oh girl... I'm going to have to bite my tongue REAL hard here. You feel special with him because he's the forbidden fruit that you've snagged. This isn't love. *Biting tongue... biting tongue...*. He told you that he really likes you? That sounds so lame. He is NEVER going to leave his family for you. You're a home-breaker. Why would he ever leave the stability and the normal life for the office (explicit), ahem... biting tongue. You're really into him? That sounds even more lame than "he once told me that he really likes me...". You need to start going out with other people and forget this guy. This relationship, if you could call it that, has been doomed from the start. Shame on you but even more so shame on him for having an affair and for cheating on his children with a young, vulnerable girl that doesn't know a thing about love. He's a poor excuse for a man. He may never redeem himself to his family but you have the chance to set yourself free from this immoral situation and find a meaningful relationship that has not been morally tainted by such estrangements as lying and cheating.

Answer 5

If you had but an once of insight into what your future would become with this man, you'd not only cut this out now, or look the other way, whenever you see this double-crossing SOB but you'd run the other way and if that weren't enough, you'd report him to the Human Resources Department and if that weren't enough, you'd quit your job and save whatever is left of your own prospect for a happy, healthy future. That man can no more be trusted by you than he can be by his present wife. Furthermore, should he go ahead with the joke and lose his kids because of you, he'll not only resent you, he'll come to hate you with a passion. Is this what you really want???

Answer 6

Sorry honey this is called lust not love. Take it from a woman who married a man with 3 children I have 2 and we have one together. You not only get the children you get the other baggage the EX_WIFE. Run while you can.
You are 21 enjoy life . If you can change jobs do it now. If not ask to be transfer ed to different department. He will not leave his wife he will be paying child support for the rest of his life, He is after sex and this is what men are all about... Women are about love and making love men are wanting to conquer.

Answer 7

Have more respect for yourself than this! He tells you that you are special and then he goes home to his wife and kids. How many holidays are you willing to sit alone, knowing that he is with his family? Think about his children and how they would suffer if your affair came out. That should give you enough to stop. You don't have to share your love with another woman and children.....find a single man to go out with. You deserve to have someone in your life who can give you the love and attention you need. Get away from him now. You will never regret ending this, but you will regret letting it get deeper.

Answer 8

He may make you feel all special and warm and fuzzy etc, but he is unfortuently a no-go zone...he has kids, and imagine how'd they feel about this situation.
He may say that he'll leave your family for you...but whenever he said it in the heat of the moment or he was serious about it, he'll regret it later, and you'll have a horrible guilt in the pit of your stomach that'll be far worse then the pain of not being able to be with him.
Nope, never been in this situation before, but im sure you'll be able to deal with it in the best way possible.

Good luck.

Answer 9

There is no polite way to say this. Take your head out of your butt, and step outside of yourself mentally for a moment. Why would you want a man who is willing to leave his wife and his children? What kind of a man would do something like this? A very selfish man, what do you think he would do to you? You are a young women, move on of course the attention is nice, however, this kind of attention should make one sick to their stomach. Find someone with like values and ideas in life. He is not considering the commitment he has made with his wife, the life he has with his children. He is willing to leave it all behind to start a life with you. Sure, if you want to live a life of misery, go for it. Good luck and God bless****

Answer 10

1) if he said that- he's a jerk. Why would you want to be with someone like that?
2) say he does leave his family for you, he WILL either regret it and go back (or at least try, unless his wife is smart and ditches his sorry butt) or he will do it to you when he meets someone else.

You need to move on to the single side of the species where you belong. He should be off-limits to everyone. You are both being selfish and you need to grow up and suck it up.

Answer 11

Oh you poor thing. I totally empathize as I have been seeing a married man I work with for 2+ years. I left my husband for him and though he does spend 4 evenings a week with me, he hasn't really left his wife and he never will.
I'm trying slowly to get out and meet new people to find the strength to move on, it is very difficult and I so wish that I had never started things with him.
Also, my husband had various affairs over the years (so, in that sense, I'm glad I left), even one resulting in a child, he tells me that he never,ever would have left me...
I'm sure that it does happen from time to time, but even if your boyfriend does leave his wife & children for you, they will always be part of his life, which is a huge cross to bear for anyone, let alone someone who has their whole life ahead of them as you do.
The only advice I can give you is that if you aren't happy with the situation is to get out as quick as you can because it won't get any easier.
Good luck