My wife and I Met late December of '04. We hit it right off and started dating on a regular basis until June2' 06 where we decided at that time to get married.
We had a very happy blended family (her daughter and my 3 boys) and went on many little family excursions.
Until one fateful day of January31, 2007 my wife was killed in an auto accident. We were 3 days short of being married for 8 months.
The biological deadbeat father had shown up to the funeral to take my (his) daughter. His comments were" she will get over the death of her mom". How does a 9 year get over the shattering of her world?
The biological father refuses to allow anyone to visit with my (his) daughter. He moved at least 5 hours away.
In the state of Missouri, step fathers have no rights!
Now I and my family have lost a wife, mother, sister, and a daughter. Where is the fairness in this?
2007-03-19 00:16:35 · 8 answers · asked by weepingwillow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am a step mother and i hope i never have to go through this,it's terrible. I feel so sorry for you and your three boy's. Hopefully one day this girl (who will never 4get you or her brothers) will come looking for you,because she sounds like she was really loved by you and the important thing is you treated her as one of your own. She will always remember you,and i dont think he is going to have it easy (His) your daughter will prob play up now cause her routine has been shattered. Just remember its NOT your fault.
2007-03-19 00:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's true you have no rights, it's not fair at all. Usually courts do find in favor of the biological parent, even when they are clearly not the 'better' parent. I am so sorry for your loss. Do seek the advice from an attorny, advocacy groups, child services (if he's abusive) and don't ever give up if you know that is what your wife would have wanted!
2007-03-19 08:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by Melinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isn't but you could have adopted her and right now you can sue for him being an unfit father he was found unfit to have his daughter before look into that and get the transcripts of the divorce how often did he visit her before your wife died demand to know the child is being treated well if the state or federal won't look into that I say take it to the media it will change real quick get others involved see what it takes you are not the stepfather then you are a man who was married to a wonderful woman taken from you to early and her biological deadbeat came out of hiding to take her from you look into all the angles you are making sure the child is safe and/or looking into adopting your wifes child not looking to screw the father you should still be able to adopt (though I don't know missouri laws) beleive me if it was me not much would stop me but take care of the family you have left as well don't let them wither as you chase her down they might even help as they can get them say what it was like having her as a sister.
2007-03-19 07:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by Bear_Polaroid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tragic situation and as a single parent father myself, my heart goes out to you. Do you really have no rights? Is there no Loco Parentis (legal latin term for a person who acts in the role of the parent/guardian) laws is Missouri?
2007-03-19 07:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am truly sorry for your loss.unfortunately the courts refuse to acknowledge the rights of step dads.However love like a seed grows in leaps and bounds she maybe gone but she holds you dear to her heart.you should not forget to set up a college fund for her if you can afford it because I don't believe the other dad would bother to do it..No matter what any court says,you are her dad
2007-03-19 07:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not fair and I am so sorry for your loss and this crappy situation. I wont be any help here because I do not think that you have any rights. Most stepparents would not try. Have you tried talking with the dad to see if you can visit with her? I will pray for you and your boys and stepdaughter. This is very sad.
2007-03-19 07:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have rights. If he was never in her life before now and she doesn't know him. You need to seek legal advice and see exactly what you can do.
Good Luck.
2007-03-19 07:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sorry for u! U should go to court and make like a birth certificate that says you are your daughters father! He has no freakin right to do that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-19 07:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋