I feel that my partners mother is treating me and my mother like ****. We just had our engagement party and the mother inlaw took total control and wouldnt let us do anything but then complained and got angry at my mum for not helping even though i seen my mum ask to help on several occassions all night.
I also think she gives me the evil eye every time i talk about anything. I feel like she hates me but i have asked her if she likes me and she replied "your like my own daughter"
What have i done wrong???
Plus my partner will not believe me and even though i have proved it on sereval occassions he wont do anything about it. We are planning the wedding for a year away now im thinking his parents are too much to get invovled with
2007-03-19 00:03:21 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Good luck, I have in laws from hell and it isn't easy. My solution to the problem was "out of sight out of mind". You have done nothing wrong - just remember that you are marrying her son not her. Ignore her but be civil if she phones or comes over but don't break your neck trying to please her. This is a waste of time and energy on your part. Concentrate on your man and enjoy being engaged and planning the wedding. If you don't want to - don't even involve her. My mother in law didn't want to be part of my wedding arrangements and on the big day she was full of negative comments till I went up to her and told her that she didn't want to be involved so she had two choices - get with the programme and shut up or she could get in her car and leave. She chose to shut up and say. Needless to say we are not the best of friends but I am not worried as I have her son all to myself and we are happy.
2007-03-19 01:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by CLEVER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"What have I done wrong?"
In a sentence. You have taken her son away from her. He now has chosen someone over her. She will never get over it.
The day my husband moved in with me my MIL spent the night sitting on his bed. All night. She just sat there. She dislikes me as well, always has.
It took a long time for my husband to see it as well, in fact it took years, but I can promise you this, eventually your husband will be pushed until his breaking point with this woman and he will explode. And from that moment on life will become much easier with her.(she will come in that moment to realize that her silly manipulative tactics wont work any longer. The tactic of my MILs choice was making her son think that if he upset her too much she would have a nervous breakdown and he actually believed that she would. Funny how she never actually had one through all the decisions that we made that she didnt agree with) It just stinks that it has to take so long, you wouldnt believe how far your husband can be pushed.
I wouldnt opt out of the relationship, unless you meet a man who has no mother, you will no doubt run into this again and again. If I could give you one thing to say to him it would be this "Why is it so much more important to you for your mother to be happy than me?" On the occasions I have been forced to use it, this sentence has really snapped my husband back into the reality that I am the one who should be happy since its me he lives with and more to the point sleeps with. But I dont recommend using it alot because it may loose its effectiveness if you do.
Good luck! And welcome to the club we call Daughter-In-Law.
2007-03-19 10:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let his parents break you apart. Just sit down with your soon to be mother-in-law and talk to her. Try to get close to her. Soon she will be actually treating you like a daughter. Just try to get close! It helped with me!
2007-03-19 09:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by zane_gregory_due_october 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't end the relationship because of his parents!!!!
2007-03-19 08:14:06 · answer #4 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋