right ok, my friend realy likes this younger boy, *she 25 he is 18* and she told me she feels she has fallen in love with him,
they have spent (from what she has told me) some realy nice dates, texts, emils ect and she wants to know how he feels about her, but the problem is that there is another girl he likes, he has been honest with my friend and told her about the other girl, *the other girl lives 100 miles away*
he said he might be falling for her too
i just dont know what advice to give her, she realy hs fallen for this time, and im just dont wnt her to get hurt, the boy says he likes her a lot, but...
i just dont know what to do to help
any advice would be cool
2007-03-18 23:54:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i cant stop thinking that they are at different stages in their lifes, nd he might just want sex, he has told her he wants her for more than sex, and they havent had sex yet, she said they have been close but have not done it
2007-03-19 00:12:09 · update #1
OMG!!! It's like reading about myself from a while ago all over again!!!!! I would suggest that if she has doubts about him (as apparently, she should) she needs to seriously step back from the situation to analyze it. Why is she settling for second best? If the guy was REALLY into her (not to sound like Greg B from TV), he would not have another girl in mind and stringing both of them along---lets face it, he is. He would ONLY be talking, dating, etc. with her. He sounds like he either is a player or wants to be. Also, he's only 18. He has no flippin clue what he wants, apparently since he doesn't even know who he likes. Get her to meet new people her own age/maturity level. Sorry to say, but if she doesn't realize SOON that he's immature and just messing with her, she's going to get hurt. She also needs to realize that who he is now is NOT who he's going to be a few years down the road. Guys take longer to mature. She needs to do some serious "soul-searching", find out what she really wants, really likes and see where he fits. Just be there for her, because I promise, it's not going to be easy...
2007-03-19 00:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
eih i think is the guy is just really nice to treat her that way,,maybe the guy is so confortable to be with your friend and he's just treating her like an older sister..the guy have been so honest with her when he told about the girl he's liking..so it only means that the guy is not into your frieind right now..so tell her to get into her head and find another man that would like her to be a girlfriend not a sister..or continue loving him and hoping that one day the guy would realize that he's in love with your friend..if it's worth the wait and hurt and sacrifices..the only person that could decide about it is your friend..
2007-03-19 07:06:50 · answer #2 · answered by queen_maan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is foolish, the majority of 18 year old males in this country cannot keep their bits in their pants and will go after whatever they can get. Tell her to ditch him and find someone her own age or older believe me he will never be able to give her what she wants.
2007-03-19 06:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by agent flora 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only advice u can give is to ask her to clear things up. it's one thing to say that u really like someone but it's a whole different story if you're actually willing to commit to a relationship. cause it seems to me that the both of them are ready for the next level...
2007-03-19 07:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by kimster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this lad is too young for a serious relationship he just wants to have fun
he has told your friend this in a round about way as he can see she is getting serious
let this lad have his flings you never know he may want her after all but he needs to discover this for himself.
2007-03-19 07:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by D D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's all part of the dating game----don't interfere other than give her a shoulder to lean on if she gets hurt.
2007-03-19 06:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to tell him how she feels, maybe by text and tell him straight how she feels.
She has nothing to lose!
2007-03-19 07:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Lexi♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's to young to settle dwn!He'll play away!
2007-03-19 07:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by sircrazydude90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this boy luv her too, i think he will not be interested in the other girl. despite the fact that your friend is older, age is not a barrier to any relationship, wat matters most is love
2007-03-19 07:04:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jecs O 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
all he wants is her body...I suspect...If I was the boy, I would definitely FUC your friend then dump her...so be aware
2007-03-19 07:01:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋