my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. we live together. He has suffered from depression for years even before I met him, and since the beginning of our relationship it has caused him to not be able to hold down a job and function. He's anti social, and it worries me. I love him very much, but i really wonder if he is good for me, I'm trying to go back to school and I have been working and paying the bills. When we talk about things he is quick to bring up my faults, when I don't even think they are on the same scale. we all have our faults. He complains that I don't show him love and cuddle or anything, and honestly, I'm not attracted to him when he is this way, I want a man, not a blubbering baby. But when we met, his tender side is what attracted me to him. am I just a dumb ***** that doesn't know what I want? or is this really a problem of his and he needs to fix it? I'm at a loss, I just know that it makes me depressed and miserable.
2007-03-18 23:44:20 · 10 answers · asked by KAJ81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know how you feel, my relationships a bit like that at the moment, depressed boyfriend & way too much critism, when it's encouragement that's needed.. Weigh up the good and the bad, is his tender side still there or is he taking you for granted? It's hard when someones depressed, is he seeking help? Because it's hard for you to take on that as well, its a problem of his you can help a bit, but it's not your responsibility, he needs to see someone, find a way of making himself happy, If it's really bringing you down it's not worth it, although it's so hard I know when you love someone but you need to put yourself first. Good luck
2007-03-18 23:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by idk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-16 03:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...If I didn't know better I would say that your my current girlfriend. I basically AM your boyfriend right now, and I'm just waiting for the hammer to drop on me. I want to tell you to support him, but being someone in his position, almost EXACTLY...I can only tell you that it takes a conscious decision on his part to want to get better. I'm trying to show my girl by finishing my degree, cleaning her house, paying my own way...etc. The truth is now I have a problem because now that I'm feeling like I'm making progress, I have problems with the relationship on her end. It's going to be a long hard go for you, but I know losing you is going to be a hard punch for him, and it will make him worse. Wow, I want to tell you so much...I'll leave it at this...Don't feel guilty about the decision you make. I would tell Mariko that too if she were here. If you feel like talking to someone, my name is Tim. My email is roomt3b@yahoo.com. Best of luck to you both. Sincerely.
2007-03-19 00:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You both need to go see a counselor. If you don't this will escalate past the helping point.
He needs to get his head clear, & you need yours clear of all the emotional baggage & roller coaster ride he has you on.
2. If you love him as much as you say.... you will demand this for the BOTH of you & both will go. Otherwise LEAVE.
If you don't, someone might get hurt, or regrettable actions could occur.
3. He isn't a blubbering baby. He is literally hurting inside.
He needs this pain lowered, or he will crack..... the results could be bad..... suicide, other.
2007-03-19 00:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by ccchevydude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see his doctor now and get some medications, it sounds like bipolar if he is that bad. I don't think this relationship is healthy for you, if he is complaining all the time, he is pulling you down. This is only going to continue until you are as depressed as he is. He really needs to have counselling or see a psychiatrist.
2007-03-18 23:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by chez006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you my ex-girlfriend? Seriously though, I think that you really need to support him. Tell him that you love him but that you do not see a future with him if he doesn't get some help. And the help that he needs may be something that he would need to get from a professional. Most likely he needs anti-depressants.
2007-03-18 23:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by Patrick E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got this going for you.you are a smart girl.as the saying goes,if you want to win hang with winners and if you want to lose hang with losers.You are not responsible for his condition do not be his mother or his nurse.get out like yesterday before you get sucked into a life of depression and bitterness.
2007-03-19 00:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs psychiatric help. If he is unable to function in society and is just using you as a crutch, you don't need that. You need to give him an ultimatum. Get help or get out. You don't need to try to carry this baggage and that is all he would be.
2007-03-19 00:00:08 · answer #8 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck-----you have a right to be depressed-------he is an angry person and you need to find a way to slither out of his grasp-----preferably try to make him thing it is his idea------he is a user and he won't let go easily-------getting free of him is exactly what is best for you-----friend you have a lot to offer a good man-------find one but get rid of Mr User first.------------it will only get worse if you stay---BE FREE
2007-03-18 23:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit d relationship it is early or destroy urself and chance of happiness.
2007-03-18 23:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by joddie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋